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missy • she/her • 20

[the-clumsywitch]

[daily-spooky]

[eroticlamb]

kate bush featured on top pop (tv), march 1978 ꩜

[adhdandcomics]

perhaps the most important question i’ve ever asked:

does anyone have tips for people trying to stop being chronically late to everything in the world that aren’t weirdly judgmental and aggressive or flat out lies

[distantvoices]

Makeup by Pat McGrath at Maison Margiela Spring 2024 Couture

[songmyself]

Vivienne Westwood 1941 - 2022

[timemachinetyrant-deactivated20]

I got diagnosed with ADHD at age 23

[spookymissy]

I finally picked up my adhd meds, but i have no energy

just sleepiness and singing random words in a disney tune

[deactivated-this-account-deacti]

I ended up having a really interesting conversation with some people at the bus stop today. They were getting out of some sort of ‘clean and sober’ meeting and had starting saying how they were so bored because they didn’t have anything to do, and had to stay at home because all their old friends would pull them back. So I said something like, ‘So this is the time to do all the stuff your parents told you they didn’t have money/time for!’ “Whatcha mean?” “You know, like when you were five and you REALLY wanted to have that toy or do that thing and you were like, ‘Please mom please I gotta have this I gotta go do this’ and they went ‘Hell no you think I’m paying for that do you want to goddamn EAT?’ “ And this light went on in their eyes. The lady is going to go check thrift stores for an Easybake Oven and I told her about Wilton cake decorating classes. The dude is going to Griffith Park and ride horses, because, ‘I always wanted to be a cowboy, and you can’t drink when you’re on a horse ‘cause you’ll fucking die!’ Fuck it. This is what being an adult is. Sure it’s bills and work and relationships, but damn it, it’s also time to do the things you LIKE. I signed up for a free class/lecture on Water Gardens. I’m going. It’s time.

[ruthfully]

Jill. Jill you are wonderful.

[lostwolfling]

no joke, this is such an important aspect of overcoming trauma. I mean the trauma of abusive parents, the trauma of broke ass parents who got toxic because of it, the trauma of capitalism. Like fuck it. Go to Wrestlemania. Build a shit ton of terrariums.

[judgingyourgrammar]

I took a stained glass class during the pandemic and now I have a hummingbird hanging in my kitchen window. And this year I’m finally getting chickens!!

[prismatic-bell]

This is literally why I have my Sailor Moon thermos.

[alarajrogers]

it doesn’t even have to be the trauma of bad parents. It can be the everyday human pain of “I lost my favorite toy when I was 12 and never found it again.” It can be the parents who loved you and fully sympathized with your desire to have the thing, but honey, we just don’t have the money right now. It can be the fact that you no longer live with your brother who’s highly allergic to dogs, so you can finally have the dog you always wanted that you always understood why you couldn’t get, and you accepted it, but it was still painful. It can be the Atari games or Nintendo games or Sega games that don’t exist anymore that you played in your childhood.

As I’ve gotten older I’ve realized – you don’t have to be suffering some great trauma, something unusual and particularly damaging, to feel pain. You don’t have to have lost your entire home in a hurricane to have lost something you truly valued and miss a lot. You don’t have to have had toxic parents to have been denied some things you wanted because they just didn’t have the money, or the resources, or the health.

Time is pain. Loss and disappointment are part of human existence. But you don’t have to try to justify why your specific loss or disappointment is especially bad to admit that it hurts and do something to rectify that hurt in some small way.

[mj-irl]

Good advice

[klinger4yossarian-deactivated20]

enjoying yourself is a good thing

[kerryrenaissance]

And it’s allowed.

[1anonyymous1]

🌹 a flower for everyone not feeling their best today

[meowmentoz]

[spookymissy]

how many times do I need to remind myself that I need constant structure in my life or everything will go to shit???????????

[spookymissy]

being a guest student who has to get approval from my main school is stressful af

[harriyanna-deactivated20221223]

i took a deeper dive into the racism in the film industry, the hair and makeup aspects of it.

[jehovahhthickness]

More women should do this

[dicapito2-deactivated20230424]

Not the man being in shambles for a kid he wasn’t even going to take care of 🥴.

[uncletayeshouse]

Ignore as in he was in the other room playing 2k for a couple hours or like he ghosted and she couldn’t contact him? I feel like context matters here.

[meaningfulchaos]

Honestly I think even a situation like that would be grounds to terminate. There's nothing worse than living in the same household as someone and you are basically alone and its even worse when there are children involved. There's a certain level of neglect, checking out, and an attitude of "I'll get to it when I get to it" that some men think is ok simply because their physical form is in the house and it's not. If a dude can't even be present for his childs mother in the way she needs during the pregnancy that doesn't bode well for after the child is born.

No one wants to be stuck raising a child alone or with someone who thinks they can just duck out when the mood suits. Whether it be to the other room to play 2k for a couple hours or to a friends house.

There's this couple in my building their baby be in the house screaming its head of, just crying and the dude can usually be found during these times in his car drinking beers. He just leaves his child's mother to deal with the stress of raising their child on her own. He lives there, his physical presence is in the house but dude checks out whenever tf he feels like it and it's usually when his childs mother needs the most support. I feel so bad for that woman.

Playing 2K is not as drastic as all that but its in the same vein. It speaks to what's being prioritized in lieu of the needs of the family and thats a problem.

[metalheadsagainstfascism]

Men (and yes I mean "men" and not "people without a uterus") should not have a say in the abortion debate as long as they have the ability to check out whenever the mood suits.

I don't give a shit if he's the best dad in the world. If he's going to be allowed to check out and leave whenever the mood suits with no social repercussions, then he shouldn't be allowed an opinion on the debate.

This is not an indication of my opinion of men. This is an indication of my view on society.

Because subconsciously, every man KNOWS he could just leave to the bar and leave the kid to his wife and no one would give a shit. He knows he could work 80 hours work weeks and leave the kid to his wife and no one would give a shit.

Just like subconsciously every woman knows that if she tries to get an hour away from the baby, everyone will judge her for not being active enough in the kid's life. Every woman knows if she works 41 hours in a week instead of 40 hours, she'll be scolded for not being active enough in the kid's life.

People can argue with me all they want. People born with a uterus are often denied jobs because it's expected if they have a kid they'll be the ones that can't work late nights because she has a kid. But no one looks at a male prospect and thinks "If he has a kid, he won't be able to work overtime." That expectation is solely put on women.

-fae

[adulthumanproblem-deactivated20]

And yeah, we don't know the context. Maybe she was afraid of or didn't want the pregnancy, but he talked her into it. And then ignored her. Maybe they had problems before. Maybe none of it.

It doesn't even, as laid out above so we'll.

It's her choice, and her alone. Even if he was the best, most caring man in the world, it would still be her choice.

No, context doesn't matter. What does that even mean? You want to judge her based on whether or not you think her actions were justified? If he were "just playing 2k", she shouldn't have been allowed to terminate? What? Why is context important?

This is exactly the issue. Strangers thinking they get a say in what a pregnant person does with their body. Newsflash: you don't.

Society expects women to care for kids and house. Men can pretty much do whatever.

My brother in law does literally nothing in the house. I acknowledge he is disabled, but he is home all day and doesn't even try. You can do a lot sitting. I know, I can't stand/walk for longer periods either. But I still have to do everything myself, because I live alone. With my bil, my sister does everything. Even though she in a home for the elderly, often double shifts. She comes home, and has to cook, clean, do laundry, help their youngest with homework, etc. She often complains about the amount of work, but when I ask her why he doesn't help, why she doesn't make him help, I'm looked at like I am the crazy one. "He's a man!", I hear, with righteous indignation. Worse, her 22y/o daughter is already doing the same.

Men get so much leeway. Men don't have to do anything. It's accepted when they check out. What's worse, they then have the audacity to complain about their nagging wife.

How dare they.

I have a uterus, so of course I have often heard the question of when I will get married and have children. I always said the same: never. I don't want to be a maid for someone. I get met with laughter, or, worse, "You'll learn when you grow up". No. I know everything I need to know, and no thank you. (Luckily these questions start to fade once you hit 30)

[spookymissy]

the original poster said her friend would text him and he would ignore her for WEEKS

[kaplisbelial]

The witchy urge to be a powerful witch and work on it nonstop and the adhd urge to do absolutely nothing at all

[threefeline]

Just a reminder please go get vaccinated, or if you're able to, go get a booster shot :'/

Even if it does bypass the vaccine, your chances of being hospitalized go way down.