Staidwaters

Fanfic reader and writer; find my stuff at https://archiveofourown.org/users/staidwaters. Currently absolutely obsessed with the amazing kdrama My Country the New Age; also slowly working my way through the 250 odd episodes of the delightfully ridiculous epic that is DMBJ. Any of the ideas in my stories or musings are free for other authors and artists to use; just let me know so I can go read it! (Gimme MOAR fan content please!) I assume that empty blogs are spam and block them from following me. if you are new, write a couple posts introducing yourself (nothing identifying or private!) or talking about a hobby or something before following.

[staidwaters]

Look, I barely use tumblr, and so like zero people will ever see this, but .... please watch the KDrama My Country: The New Age and write fic for it. I'm absolutely obsessed with this show and want more fandom creations to keep the story alive now that it's over.

Ignore the hokey-sounding title. It is epic, and adorable, and and absolutely everything I want out of a show. It has a wonderful bromance/political intrigue story that will rip your heart out, and it is so amazingly done. Gorgeous cinematography, great action scenes, excellent music - I went out and bought the soundtrack immediately- an intricately laid out plot with fascinating, unique and all too relatable characters...

It gets dark, but not in a way that made me not want to watch it. There is a lot of blood and betrayal- but the leads are pure hearted and determined to be good. They may have to compromise their morals to protect the people they love, but they never let it make them become twisted. (They weren't who they had been, but the growth wasn't in a bad direction, in the end.). I guess it made me feel sorry for the leads, but it didn't give me that icky, disgusted feeling that usually goes with shows labled "dark." But you might not want to watch it if you are feeling down.

Still - all you fic writers out there? Please check this one out if you are looking for a new fandom to write in.

[staidwaters]

I literally started using tumblr again August 2020, after years away, just to promote mctna. Because I was desperate for more people to watch it so more people would write fanfic for it. @_@. Gotta say; no regrets whatsoever. You folks are all awesome.

[staidwaters]

I assume that empty blogs are spam and block them from following me. if you are new, write a couple posts introducing yourself (nothing identifying or private!) or talking about a hobby or something before following.

[staidwaters]

I created a backup Tumblr in case I lose access to this one (I have forgotten my password and none of my guesses work, so if I have to relog in and the "forgot your password" doesn't work, I'll be screwed). Anyhow, it is @staidwatrsbackup (note the misspelling of waters) If I ever stop posting here, you can look for me there.

[buffysummers]

Rupert Giles + 🔥 🔥 🔥 [requested by Anonymous]

[this-is-a-love-story-isnt-it]

This insane update from Neocities

[ventresses]

This is a perfect time to read the brilliant and unforgettable graphic novel(s) Persepolis by Marjane Satrapi, about growing up in Iran during and after the Iranian Revolution, and the rise of the oppressive theocracy that persists to this day.

Both graphic novels are available free online (Persepolis vol. 1, Persepolis vol. 2)

It also was adapted to a wonderful film (co-directed and co-written by the author) which is available to watch for free on Sundance Now (sign up for the free trial)

[azspot]

“Because the truth is, tech doesn’t have an image problem. It doesn’t have a message problem. It has an intention problem. What’s wrong with the axe murderer who broke into my house is not that he hasn’t successfully persuaded me to buy into his narrative. What’s wrong is that he’s trying to kill me with an axe. Similarly, when you launch a product that’s designed to put millions of people out of work, block access to sources of verifiable truth, replace human creativity with slop, and lower the barriers to every sort of atrocity, the problem isn’t that you haven’t told the public a good story about those things. The problem is that you are trying to do them.”

— The 40 Most Rage-Inducing Problems in Tech

[santhipoma]

[noah-wyles]

IM SO UPSET

[natureisthegreatestartist]

Take a look at these African peach moths (Egybolis vaillantina). The shades of blue on their wings are so striking against the bright hues and dark edgings. Living art, right?

[annabellioncourt]

I need hot topic (specifically them, For The Bit) to carry a plethora of tour merchandise for Lestat as if he was a real musician.

[gothiccharmschool]

YES. YES, DEAR GOD YES.

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

I have no idea whether this is true, it seems way too stupid to be real and I have to assume it's made up, but I'm sharing because it has the vibe of something that would happen in a cartoon from the 90s that has characters burn a hole in a door by bouncing a laser pen beam between two mirrors

[leo-fie]

This is AI we're talking about. There is no bottom to the level of stupid it can get.

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

Yes but the idea that the AI actually has the capability to change the emails is idiotic. We've had to deal with annoying bullshit authenication for years in the name of security and the robot should not be able to change shit. Welding steel security bars over all the windows and then installing a massive unguarded glass door type scenario. They *have* teams in charge of security, it is ridiculous that a robot could do this.

Until proven otherwise I'm gonna assume that the hackers claiming this are pulling a prank and doctoring this because I am not ready to face a world this stupid.

[hempseeeeds]

the ONLY Thing I find not-very-credible about this is that people exploiting the fact that other people give their AI Tools unreasonably-broad permissions/abilities, has been Happening for several years? Why would that STILL be possible?

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

People get so unreasonably stupid about AI and I don't. I don't understand it. Like I know that there's the occasional tech-illiterate loon who thinks that AI is Proto-Lieutenant Data or whatever, people who take scifi too seriously, but why are the people actually using the tools being so stupid about it? It's some new religion I swear. Fifty per cent of the techbros I talk to it's like they're going "souls are real and we have imbued The Circuits with them". I know nothing at all about computers so normally I'd think I was the one in the wrong here but the guys in charge of these systems are just so so obviously stupid about AI over and over again and I. What the fuck is going on. I feel like I'm in Sailor Moon or something and an evil villain is brainwashing the masses to be super consumerist or whatever those plots were about except this week the scheme is making everyone trust the AI. It all feels so unrealistic how is this shit STILL happening. Overenthusiasm at the start I get, but there have been so many very public AI disasters.

[caparrucia]

It's Very Real.

[quakerjoe]

[storyweavingspider]

There’s a spider in your computer. Her name is Astrid. She heard the World Wide Web needed a World Wide Spider, but she needs some help getting to each place. Can you reblog her to help her get everywhere?

[scribefindegil]

I was in a long-term relationship that fell apart partially because I was ace and my partner was very much not, and every time we looked for relationship help we got told that I was the problem. Not just that a significant mismatch in sexual desire could be a problem in a relationship, but that it was My Fault, Specifically, for not being willing to suck it up and have a bunch of sex I didn't want. To my ex's credit, he cared about consent much more than any of the professionals we talked to and refused to pressure me even when my (lesbian, billed as progressive and pro-LGBT) therapist was actively telling him to.

But it meant that we had absolutely no help or support when we were trying to work on the relationship in ways that *did* value my autonomy. There's basically no advice for people who want to try to make a relationship where there's a big desire gap work that isn't "well you should just have sex anyway" or "just break up lol". And that sucks!

Sometimes breaking up is necessary, and that's what ended up happening with us because there were other reasons we worked better as friends, but there *should* be better frameworks for discussing what people want and need that don't automatically assume that one partner's feelings are automatically more important or valuable than the other's.

[geese-in-flight]

I was dating someone who wanted to be accommodating and work with me to figure things out but lacked the EQ to do so in any effective way. It was my first relationship and I was still figuring out what being ace meant for me. It’s been eight or nine years, but I still remember very clearly the moment I realized we’d been approaching the entire discussion as if my orientation was the problem to be solved, and that it would be equally as valid to say that hers was.

She was significantly less impressed with this revelation than I was, but I tried to hold on to it ever since (although obviously the real problem wasn’t either one of us, but the mismatch and the lack of tools to deal with it). I think it’s super important to remember that we aren’t the ones in the wrong while our theoretical partners are the ones in the right. I was surprised by how much I’d internalized the assumption and I don’t think I’m the only one.

[ineffectualdemon]

The other frustrating aspect of this is allo relationships will often have periods of time where libido does not match (I'm not derailing and this will swing back to asexual people)

Just after giving birth, during a family crisis, during a mental health episode, during health problems, during stressful periods at work

There are a lot of times when one person is horned up and raring to go and the other has no interest

And the solution often presented is that the person who is going through something should just put out because they are the problem instead of like...finding ways to engage in non sexual intimacy to reaffirm closeness

An asexual person is going to get 10x the amount of pressure and blame put on them and no advice on how non-sexual intimacy can help their relationships and if they get that at all it will only be to sell it as a bridge to sex they don't want.

I really hate the selling of intimacy as only equaling or facilitating sex. Intimacy comes in many forms and should be explored more by every couple as a non sexual act. And it the given importance it deserves. In fact I would argue if we as a society put more value on non sexual intimacy more relationships would be happier and healthier

And asexual people would stop getting shit for being themselves.

[scribefindegil]

Yeah, exactly! There are many different forms of intimacy, physical and emotional, and we need to stop viewing non-sexual forms of intimacy as inherently lesser.

And also you're right that while this post is specifically about the asexual experience, these problems affect everyone; desire gaps, whether temporary/circumstantial or ongoing, affect many if not most long-term relationships. And the solution needs to reaffirm bodily autonomy and compassion for everyone, not just carve out a specific exception for ace people. Too frequently I see people and institutions that, even when they're attempting to be affirming, essentially say "Well this is what a committed relationship Needs To Look Like . . . unless you already id as ace I guess" instead of allowing their general idea of what relationships can look like to expand and become less prescriptive.

No one should be pressured into sex they don't want. This should be a basic and non-negotiable tenet of feminism. But it goes out the window as soon as it's in the context of a committed relationship that isn't otherwise abusive.

[staidwaters]

Hsven't fact checked but it looks like Trump is claiming that Unitarians are not members of a real religion and can't claim it on military records etc.?

Holy fuck. Unitarian is absolutly, 100% a real religion, what the hell. There are Unitarian churches all over.

[aomitois]

rb and tag your favorite song that's not in english, japanese or korean

[shencomix]

My Fitness Coach is a Dark Wizard [Complete]

[staidwaters]

This is so adorable and delightful

And relatable. honestly, make-believe really does work for exercize. I used to pretend I was the only one who could stop a disaster but to do so I had to outrun the evil and get a secret weapon to the hero so they could defend us.

Heck of a lot more motivating that "you need to cause yourself pain going nowhere and accomplishing nothing on a treadmill for 30 min. Cuz its healthy."

[staidwaters]

From the New York Times, June 3rd

[knight-of-ashes]

It's midnight on a Sunday and my dash is several reblogs of an unscrollably-long and ridiculously well cited article on hagfish sex. I'm never leaving this website.