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heartonthefloor

Like….when everyone has mental illness maybe the problem is with the systems 🤔

creative-anchorage

[ID: tweet by Eidi ‘Reeki @TuhRxxk:

As someone training to become a therapist, y’all recommend therapy for too many things tbh. I think the activity y’all are looking for is “revolution”.

Tweet by The People’s Oracle @PeoplesOracle:

I been wanting to tweet this for a few days now… If EVERYONE needs therapy, then the problems EVERYONE is dealing with are systemic, cultural… too big to be confronted alone between two people. It’s actually a grave injustice to make individuals responsible for this.

Tweet by justine says join your union @kvetchings:

As someone who has been consistently going to therapy for years & working “on myself” ……. let me tell you there is only so much individual introspection and healing you can do when the structural forces and external events contributing to mental illness continue acting on you.

Individualized wellness culture gaslights people into thinking the problem and the solution lies within themselves. The truth is we literally have a sick society and it needs to get better for us to be truly well.

Tweet by Jules . he/him . Yup’ik/Cup’ik @feraltakahayato:

I wish people realized that suicide prevention isn’t always posting the hotline. It’s adequate housing. It’s basic health care including dental and vision. It’s affordable living. Proper care in active addiction. Proper care post addiction. It’s everything we need to live. /End ID.]

Look at me, my depth perception must be off again

'Cause this hurts deeper than I thought it did

It has not healed with time

It just shot down my spine

You look so beautiful tonight

Remind me how you laid us down

And gently smiled before you destroyed my life

Would you find it in your heart?

To make this go away

And let me rest in pieces (Let me rest in pieces)

Would you find it in your heart?

To make this go away

And let me rest in pieces (Let me rest in pieces)

Look at me, my depth perception must be off again

You got much closer than I thought you did

I'm in your reach

You held me in your hands

Would you find it in your heart?

To make this go away

And let me rest in pieces (Let me rest in pieces)

Would you find it in your heart?

To make this go away

And let me rest in pieces (Let me rest in pieces)

Would you find it in your heart?

To make this go away

And let me rest in pieces

Would you find it in your heart?

To make this go away

And let me rest in pieces

Would you find it in your heart?

To make this go away

And let me rest in pieces (Let me rest in pieces)

Would you find it in your heart?

(Would you find it in your heart, would you let me rest in pieces?)

#Rest In Pieces #Saliva #S

abudinges

Sabr: patience, endurance, self-control

ismaelguerrier-deactivated20210

From my series, To Hold and To Be Held

(Color pencil on paper)

Instagram: ismael.guerrier.art

edge-collecter

Y’all got my wife fucked up

Duke of Sussex, Prince Harry

subtleisntme

Still relevant 😒

oknope

“We’re lucky that our bodies require sleep, otherwise our cultures would have us working 16-20 hour days.”

— Shower Thoughts That Will Change the Way You Think About Your Entire Life (x)

subtleisntme

Our culture doesn’t require that?

edge-collecter

Y’all got my wife fucked up

Duke of Sussex, Prince Harry

noviembre-18

cheerupghost

petition to ban “slideshow” as an article format on the internet

anhslondon

I repeat girls don’t want man, they want Zendaya

manhood

HELP

subtleisntme

I die every time this comes around.

thisisthinprivilege

I work at a daycare with infants.

One of our baby girls is fat, in the 99th percentile for her age. She is super cute and sweet. Lately, she has been sick with various breathing issues, so she has been reluctant to take her bottles. Normally, she’ll take 4 ounces of formula at lunch and 8 ounces in the afternoon. Today, I was lucky to get to her take 5 all day.

There was a substitute covering a lunch break in my classroom today. We emphasized to her that we need to keep trying to get the baby to drink her bottle until she finished it. She said, “Why are you guys so worried about taking her bottle?”

My coworker replied, “That’s where all her nutrients are. She needs the nutrients and the water.”

To which the substitute replied, “But she’s so fat. She doesn’t need it.”

Thin privilege is a small, pretty baby getting better childcare because the caretaker doesn’t think she’s too fat to be allowed to eat.

thecrazygeek-rant

This reminds me of a cousin of mine who ended up with her kids being taken away from her by social services for a number of reasons but mostly for nearly killing her baby daughter. How?

By starving her. She insisted that her baby was ‘too fat’ and had an aim to remove any and all ‘chubbyness’ so her baby would be thin. She’d already been warned by her doctor about the baby not getting enough food, but insisted she knew best.

After several months of this her baby passed out cold one day and was rushed into hospital where the doctors found her to have severe malnutrition, a low body temperature and low pulse rate. They asked my cousin what she’d been feeding her daughter and she said “one bottle of skimmed milk a day. I don’t want her growing up fat.”

Even after nearly killing her daughter my cousin maintained her view that fat = bad and ended up with all her kids taken from her because she was starving them and neglecting them.

When your fatphobia leads you to starving your own children then you’ve got serious problems.

(Note. She still, to this day, maintains the view that she was right and the doctors were wrong. “They just want fat kids so they can keep employed treating them for all those diseases that being fat causes.” = her actual words.)

sinthiasweet

My mom had me dieting with her when I was eleven. She had me eating less than 600 calories a day because she was worried I was going to “get huge.” She even grounded me once because she found out my friends were bringing me lunches! I ended up passing out, going to the ER, and getting two IVs at once BC I was so goddamn dehydrated. Soooooo surprised they didn’t call child services… And looking back, this was the root of my anorexia. I’m nearly 22 and still fighting it. Please don’t starve your fucking children.

viergacht

For fucks sake babies are SUPPOSED to be fat, what is wrong with people? It’s just stored energy, and growing children need stored energy - an 11 year old is just about to hit some major growing years. Damn.

fattyatomicmutant-deactivated20

Fatphobia

Real

and it kills

mexicanxthighs-deactivated20190

This is no joke. people will literally starve their own babies cause they don’t want them getting fat. A parent brought in their six month old baby who was having breathing issues and kept getting sick. the parent was asked if the baby was eating regularly and the parent straight up told the doctor that they only feed the baby once a day. ONCE A DAY. A FUCKING BABY. they even had the nerve to say because they didn’t want the baby to get fat. people like this are real. they would rather have a dead baby than a fat one.

bigfatscience

My youngest son is a very big boy and has been since he was born. When he was 10 months old I took him for his well-baby check and vaccinations. The nurse noted his weight and said, quite casually, “He is in the 99th percentile for weight so he is at risk for obesity. You may want to keep an eye on that.” I said, “He is exclusively breastfed. He refuses to eat any solids yet.” What did she expect me to do? What would it mean to “keep an eye on” an exclusively breastfed baby’s weight?

She backed off saying, ‘Well he looks fine!” – proving once again that weight bias is not truly about health – But I know many other parents who are not as informed as I am about weight science and size diversity would react to this interaction by policing their child’s food intake, if not as an infant, then when he was an older child. This is exactly the type of seemingly-inconsequential interaction that starts the ball rolling on a lifetime of dieting, disordered eating, negative body image, and weight-based abuse for too many fat people.

Years later when he was five, another doctor measured his weight and height and commented that he is off the charts on both, but “at least he is in proportion.” And if he was not “in proportion,” I am sure I would have been advised once again to “watch his weight.”

I no longer allow healthcare providers to weight my children unless it is absolutely medically necessary. They are unable to control their weight talk, which is a known harm for children.

We need to completely eliminate weight talk from medicine, especially when it comes to children. Even the smallest exposure can have terrible consequences.

loverofbrownsugar

Wtf…

mainstreamqueen-deactivated2020

A friend from college had been going to the doctor because she was having trouble breathing. She was told to lose weight. Over the course of several years, she went back to the doctors time and time again, telling them that she’d been sticking to the diet but because of her breathing problems she had been unable to even walk for more than 20 minutes at a time. The doctor got her into an exercise programme and told her that she just needed to really try to lose weight because that was clearly the reason for her breathing problems. By the time they found the tumour on her lungs, it was inoperable. She only lived three months after diagnosis. She was 25. She’d had the tumour for over five years. The doctor was so focused on the fact that my friend was “fat”, that they refused to look for any underlying cause. They killed her.

thisisthinprivilege

Weight-first treatment KILLS. Fatphobia KILLS.

lady-yomi-deactivated20171102

I have 2 scary stories to share about fatphobic doctors & parents harming their childs/patients’ health:

1. The 4 years old daughter of a friend of mine came to our house to spend the weekend. She gave me a letter from her mom that said that the child was in a glutenfree diet because she was getting ‘awfully fat’ when eating cookies or bread (my celiac ass; who gets dhiarrea and loses a scary amount of weight whenever I eat something with gluten was like ’???’).

You can bet that I went to the supermarket with the kid and told her ‘go & take whatever you feel like eating’ and the poor child came back smiling with her arms full of biscuits and cupcakes.

She didn’t got sick (as a celiac would get) and told me later that she hated the diet her mother made her follow; because her cousins didn’t had to pass through that.

And what’s the scariest thing about this story? Her mother was a NURSE. A fucking nurse who didn’t have a clue of the harm that she was doing to her daughter’s body!

2. My little sister started to feel fatigued and dizzy at 9 years old. She felt nauseated at the sight of food and had abdominal pain that increased with physical activity.

Mom got her to the ER and the doctor dismissed it saying: ‘she’s fat and probably is feeling ill after eating too much burgers, get her to make some exercise and she will be better in no time’.My mom didn’t felt ok with the diagnosis and took my sister with a second doctor who also told her that ‘the child was just fat’.

My sister’s skin was starting to get yellow as the days passed and the abdominal pain was getting awful so my mom (heaven bless her!) got her to the ER for the third time:

SHE HAD STAGE 4 HEPATITIS AND WAS ABOUT TO DIE.

She survived after a long and painful recovery who involved being in bed for a whole year (remember that we’re speaking of a 9 years old child). Luckily they saved her liver and she didn’t went through a transplant… but let this sink:

If it weren’t for my mother, fatphobia would have killed her. Fatphobia kills kids and teenagers, fatphobia kills inocent people everyday. It treats human beings as lesser than others and hurts them in their most vulnerable times.

It’s a real shame that we all have so much stories to share about this issue. A REAL SHAME.

agreekdoctor

Future doctors, interns, and residents following me:

FUCKING TAKE NOTE OF THIS!

Don’t let bias against your fat patients kill them!

clatterbane

(#and this is just when we actually go to the doctor and tell them we have problems #how many of us just give up #or won’t mention anything that seems like too much of a ‘fat’ problem)

thelittlestastronaut

i’d really like my thin followers to reblog this if you can. fat people are already here for each other, we need you guys to help us out too. this is something i never see anyone actually talking about in-depth, and it’s disappointing. be there for your fat siblings, too.

labelleizzy

Tomorrow’s the 11th anniversary of my brother’s death from cancer. An early symptom of cancer is a sudden rapid weight loss, for no apparent reason. But his doctors COMPLIMENTED him when *he* went in, worried. He was 33 years old and already had a history of cancer, and those quacks FUCKED IT UP. By the time he was pissing blood a few months after, it had spread from his kidney (which they had to remove) to his liver, lungs, and pelvic bones. He was in so much pain.

He had a wife and an 18 month old daughter when he died.

Fatphobia kills.

fatandlikeitlikethat

This is a long post and a sad one…. I’m sharing to spread awareness.

marchesamedici

I’m wondering how many of these are American doctors because I’ve heard some horror stories about American doctors in particular that you don’t get anywhere else.

thisisthinprivilege

Most, but far from all, and we’ve specifically had a number of people identify themselves as Canadian. Don’t think your country is exempt.

mitski-miyawakis

when your therapist says “you wanna know what I think?” and you know you’re about to be read for filth

goingtohavetosaveyourself

This is not my picture- but husband just called, made me put it on video phone, and walked up and down the block to show me this amazing library and I really want to go to Kansas City now.

guillotinaturner

I never thought I would need to go to Kansas City but here we are

kalebork4short

Um...I live here, I like books (I probably have a stack of 20 to read don’t judge...) and have never heard of this library but you best believe imma be in that bitch sometime. BET!

kalebork4short

I’m bout to head out there and see what this is all about. ETA 16 minutes. I deadass threw on some clothes and was just like fuck it let’s go. Gotta hurry, it closes at 5!

kalebork4short

I deadass walked around the wrong building but, we out here!

kalebork4short

I worked up damn sweat walking out here but fuck it!

kalebork4short

Here’s the front door...

kalebork4short

This is right when you walk inside. Some punk ass dude said he was going to photo bomb me. I invited him to take a picture, but he was like nah bruh.

kalebork4short

A little lounge area, a cafe, elevators and stairs for those who want them! Its legit!

kalebork4short

Taking a stroll on the second floor now! We have some artwork, some videos!

kalebork4short

They have a place for kids and teens too on the second floor! It’s dope! They do say though that as an adult I couldn’t use the bathroom. They don’t want those problems! Kids was in there playing some Area 51 game? They got a spot for toddlers to chill! They got that little area like you see at the doctors office where kids can go and kill time. But kids play on iPhones and shit now tho but it’s still dope!

kalebork4short

3rd floor now. This place is friendly for those who are homeless. They got WiFi in here! Individual tables with outlets to charge your shit! Very very quiet in here since it is a library...duh K! Caught a young dude in here going over his football highlight tape. 18 years old, doesn’t know where he’s going to school, says he plays linebacker and running back. He was blasting on his highlight tape. He said his favorite player was Marshawn Lynch, just like mine!!! Also got a lil spot to watch tv! Onto the 4th and last floor...

kalebork4short

Restroom is also on the 3rd floor too! Heads up!

kalebork4short

4th and final floor now. It’s more secluded than the other three floors but they got books for years in this bitch! They got little study areas for people who want to chill and be by themselves. Whatever you want! Fiction, non fiction and everything in between!

kalebork4short

Back on the first floor! If you go straight ahead from the entrance you’ll enter this other lil study hall area. They got more places to chill! They got iPads and computers and shit you can use! This is a dope ass public library. If you in the KC area and wanna check out a book...bring yo ass over here! They gotchu! If yo ass need to study for a test...come park yo dumbass over here and study!

kalebork4short

I hope you all enjoyed the tour! Thanks to @jewleshasbadideas and @downtostars (I hope that’s the right name...) for bringing this to my attention! I’m hungry and I’m starting to smell a lil musty, working up a sweat doing all this walking... With this last pic...I’m out!