Daniel Sloss- “Jigsaw”
ROMANTIC LOVE IS NOT MORE IMPORTANT THAN PLATONIC LOVE!!!
“You dont get to suck a dick and go number one, you sociopath” I’m dying
I remember an am-I-the-asshole post on reddit where everyone was giving the OP shit for being close with an opposite-sex friend when their opposite-sex partner was upset with their closeness with said friend, on the grounds of all the opposite-sex “just friends” they knew who’d gotten together later, and I was like, how many of your exes do you love enough to wish you’d thrown away your closest friendship for them?
Not just because most significant others become exes eventually, but because if the relationship is new enough that they’re just now hashing out the “problem” of the close friend it’s probably new enough that there’s no groundwork yet for loving the significant other more just yet, and if the relationship is insecure enough that the significant other is feeling threatened by the existence of the friend despite being established enough to have standing to object to the friend then I’d consider it highly likely that they’re not a good fit together.
A romantic/sexual aspect to a relationship shouldn’t be an automatic and instantaneous promotion over close and longstanding friendships, and I would seriously mistrust anyone who expects it much as I would mistrust anyone who pushes for marriage on the second date, or dumps a truckload of feelings on someone immediately prior to asking them out the first time.
Intimacy is built. Trust is built. Closeness is built. Distrust people who claim to have it readymade, or demand it be automatically granted.
