Suit Up Rinse & Repeat

I like being able to look presentable and to experiment with ties; fashion is for the curious and experimenters to find out what looks good for them. I have a passion for cars. It is a beautiful piece of canvas that you can put your sweat, blood, and...

[kuutamosonaatti]

Sämpycat in snow

[chubbycattumbling]

THIS IS MAGICAL

[awesome-picz]

Wholesome Cat Posts That Will Hopefully Make Your Day.

[rraallllyy]

[toko-t]

ネコ

[babyanimalgifs]

Find someone who supports you like this cat supports his owner’s music

via @sarperduman

[pale-manmi]

OH MY GOD THE cat is enchanted

[rilli-luci]

@corixr

[ro-zden]

I like to think this piece is called “The Kitten’s Lullaby”, and it was considerately written not to use the very keys his cat occupies.

[feltelures]

Sarper actually does write the music he plays on Instagram, and that one of his (nineteen) rescue cats is a regular at the piano, so it’s very, very likely he wrote that piece with his little friend’s comfort in mind.

He has a crowdfunding page for his rescue kitties, because feeding and caring for 19 cats on a piano teacher’s salary is…difficult. Please consider donating if you’re in a position to do so!

https://gogetfunding.com/help-me-take-care-of-my-19-rescued-cats-3/

[mydruggedthoughts]

[maudsuicide]

Testing! Testing!

RB if this thing works!

[fanotastic]

[fanotastic]

Flagged upon posting, you cruel bastard.

[queen-ofxthe-clouds]

I’ve been laughing at this stupid fucking video for 30 minutes

[the-last-of-the-frosty-boys]

Yall sont understand this is the funniest thing ive experienced in weeks

[fish-food-s]

holy fucking shit

[koki-kariya-personal]

I hope V2 has this level of Quality

[artisticlog-deactivated20231213]

How about some color therapy to soothe your soul this weekend✨🌈

[sweetoothgirl]

Gluten-free Pear-Walnut Cake with Vanilla & Cardamom

[daeranilen]

"Should parents read their daughter's texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"

Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, “Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?”

I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.

I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”

Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.

Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.

It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.

It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.

[daeranilen]

Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:

Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.

Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.

Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.

Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”

TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:

You do not respect their rights as an individual.

You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.

You probably haven’t been listening to them.

Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.

[daeranilen]

Part of me is really excited to see that the original post got 200 notes because holy crap 200 notes, and part of me is really saddened that something so negative has resonated with so many people.

[isitscary]

I love this post.

Too many parents wonder why their kids aren’t honest with them, and never realize their own non-receptive behavior and their failure to listen are the reasons why.

At one point or another, a child WILL keep a secret from you, but if it’s to a point where all their emotional feelings are being poured away from you as opposed to toward you, it’s probably because you haven’t been emotionally trustworthy or open. 

[intersectionalparenting-deactiv]

Adultism :(

[sw-or-gtfo-deactivated20211219]

not to mention, you then take away one of your child’s coping mechanisms. if your parents read your journal, you’re never writing in it again. if your parents monitor your conversations with friends, you won’t tell them when you’re depressed anymore. if you have a therapist that reports what you say to your parents, you won’t tell that therapist anything. now all those methods of venting, feeling better, self-soothing, sorting out your issues, and feeling safe are gone. “i want information” is not synonymous with “i want my child to talk to me.” those are two separate goals, but i think parents conflate them – i want my child to talk to me, but since they won’t, i’m stealing information from them. no. you didn’t ever want them to talk to you. you wanted information. if you wanted them to talk to you, if that was your entire end goal, you would have approached things completely differently. stealing information from a child ensures they will never talk to you again. but if all you want is information, then you can take it however you want and call it a parenting success. if what you wanted was a child who talks to you, you would apply the same principles you do to literally any other human interaction in your life, and cultivate a relationship and trust.

[cryoverkiltmilk]

I had to stifle my horror and revulsion at my last job, when a conversation about removing the door from a child’s bedroom came up, and I was only one not in favor of it.

May be worth noting I was the only millennial in a conversation that was otherwise full of baby boomers.

[this-is-me-irl]

[ambivalentme-blog-blog]

[giddytf2-deactivated20150525]

Always reblog big kitties with their leetle kitties.

[hamelin-born]

@luxroyalty

[fivekets]

[little-miss-hell]

“A Cat’s Guide To Taking Care of Your Human” 

[alexbam]

[french-verbz]

Well now I can correctly moonwalk away from uncomfortable situations

[timecouldnever]

Because everyone deserves to know how to do a mean moonwalk.

[whosfuckingbad]

guYS THIS IS IMPORTANT

[bisexuanal]

I definitely reblogged this sitting down not getting up to do the moonwalk at all

[gif87a-com]

[knightlyhoods-deactivated202404]

when you tryna chill but your siblings love annoyin you

[lovely-little-hellfire]

Favorite moment

[batbitequeen]

40 y/o white guy: Hey kid, ever hear about Rage Against the Machine? They really told it like it is! Fuck you I won’t do what you tell me!

me: Zack de la Rocha is Mexican Tom Morello is black Brad Wilk is jewish

40 y/o white guy: blue lives matter

[batbitequeen]

RATM: Some of those that work forces, are the same that burn crosses

40 y/o white guy that claims he likes RATM: blue lives matter

[lenins-and-things]

Was it Paul Ryan that claimed to be a RATM fan? Like, nationally? In public? On TV? And then RATM came out and shut him down?

[batbitequeen]

:)

[batbitequeen]

🙏✊🔥🙏

[mccoppinscrapyard]

Also I totally remembered this exchange:

[bass-borot]

The band is called Rage Against THE MACHINE Do these fuckers think that they just don’t like that one shirtless guy’s standup bit???? What do they think THE LITERAL MACHINE IN THE FUCKING NAME is?