Life saving advice, words of hope and recovery

May my healing journey and education in psychology, yoga, fitness and nutrition inspire and rekindle hope into victims of violence and chronic illness as well as help those who are healthy to have more empathy and compassion.

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We go through our lives collecting labels. We agree to identify whether we realize it or not. Watch the whole video to get the impact of the message at the end. Writer, Director, Actor: Misted Forest www.mistedforest.com Social links @MistedForest Cinematographer, and Editor: David L. Minard www.Z9Media.com Music Jeff Bullock www.reverbnation.com/JeffBullock

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Do you excessively Exercise?

For the first time scientists have found a link between excessive exercise and eating disorders. I find this interesting. I think that diet culture really pushes people to burn excessive calories which lead into obsessive exercise habits. 

Read the article to learn more.  K. (2020, February 05). Excessive sports in cases of eating disorders: Psychological mechanisms decoded. Retrieved September 11, 2020, from https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2020/02/200205103238.htm

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This always put a big smile on my face. #EthicalMemes

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You know your in a good relationship when...

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Teaching a free demo on 24houryoga.org At 7:15AM Tue PST Style is Vinyasa Flow 8:15 AM Colorado Time 10:15 AM New York Time 4:15pm France Time 7:45pm India Time #yoga #vinyasa #free #24houryoga #universal #online #flow #hatha #fitness #exercise https://www.instagram.com/p/CEXSb_5jgR2/?igshid=1us97743welbf

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hope everyone knows this :) #EthicalMemes

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https://cptsdfoundation.org/wearehealingtrauma/

Hay y'all there is a CPTSD recovery summit in September.

I thought I would share it on here. Registration and all the lectures will be free for a limited time. Let me know if you will go.

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an explanation is not owed

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When I was a child I was bullied super bad and the kids used gaslighting, among other tactics including school wide scapegoating. It got so bad I tried to commit suicide. Luckily my attempt failed and my mom pulled me out and brought me into a new school.

Now I recognize abusive behavior and I fight, tell and set boundries to prevent future abuse.

Be warned it can happen to you by anyone. I once had a doctor, life coach and a teacher gaslight me. Luckily I talked to other professionals in the field and found their words and behaviors didnt march up with reality.

The more power someone has, the more they want to keep it. Also in reverse the more some feels they lack power and control the more the clinge and want it over others.

I'm an empath and a HSP, so I have attracted a lot of abusive people. Luckily my love for psychology and the knowledge I have learned in my degrees as well as life experiences have helped me stay sane and for the most part hopeful and positive.

No one deserves to deal with emotional abuse. Seek help. You are not alone.

But I am not blind. All of the abuse over the years has took a toll and I am actively working with health care professionals to remove the trama and heal.

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Season 2, episode 4 of the Anime series

March comes in like a Lion

Was about bullying.

It brought up painful feelings from childhood. I was bullied severely. So bad at one point, then when I was 11 I tried to commit suicide.

When I was bullied here is what I had to do to stop the bullying. Not all methods worked with everyone but 90% it worked. But like in this episode what mattered in the end was standing up for what I knew was right.

Step

1. Try talking to the bully

Step

2. Talk to your teacher and parents

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3. If the bullying continues, talk to the vice principal or principal. Bring a record of detailed notes with all the things the bully has done to you and others. Write the day and time or each instance and how no one had done anything to stop the bullying. Also mention the steps and adults you notified and what they did or did not do.

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4. If they don't do anything demand that they suspend or expel the student, if they don't call the police.

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5. Call the police. The police will talk to the parents of the bully and the bully. Trust me, by this step it almost always makes a change.

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6. Get other students to write a petition and take it to your local news.

I have tried all of these steps except bringing it to the news. I will tell you that with almost every bully it got the kids to change.

Sadly as a minor I got in physical fights to stop a lot of the bullying. Sometimes it was the only way.

Children can be cruel. But if you don't set your boundaries and teach children boundaries, when they become adults, it will be a lot harder and more dangerous to change their destructive behavior.

I am here for you. You are not alone. No one deserves to be bullied.

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Creeps in the modeling industry

So I have been a professional model since 2012. I will tell you that 2/3rds the people you work with are decent but 1/3 are creeps.

So here are warning signs to look out for:

1. Catfishing: Often people will send you photos and claim it’s their work. Make sure you get their portfolio and cross reference it with other sites to make sure they aren’t stealing. It’s easy to steal someone eles’s photo and say “ hay look what shot I did.” Yeah... did you though? Talk to other models and photographers to see if they know them and if they have worked with them. How was the experience? 

2. MWC stands for Man with Camera. That basically means a man who takes pictures of beautiful woman not because they love photography but because they just want every opportunity to be alone with a woman. AKA a pervert

3. Follow safety guidelines for meeting new people. 

Meet first for a test shoot in a public space

Have phone calls talking about the shoot, ideas, professionalism, expectations, etc

Read their guidelines for shooting, you can check out mine here: https://www.mistedforest.com/aggreements

Talk to other models and photographers, join public forms for creatives and websites like model society and model mayhem

Join a club or agency if it makes sense for you

Have strict cancelling policies

Talk about money v.s trade up front

Talk about and have in writing what will happen to the photos after shooting.

4. JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE HAS TALENT, FAME, or MONEY doesn’t mean they are a nice person!

5. There are plenty of good, professional people out there. The sooner you set you boundaries the quicker you will work with people who respect you, your time, and your talent. 

Sadly it is really common in the modeling industry to have agencies, photographers, set directors etc take advantage of models. This could be threatening, coercion, blackmail, or being really tricky for the model to do things they don’t want to do. BE STRONG. That behavior is against the law and is not moral. You don’t have to be harassessed. 

And yes I have herd of some really terrible and unprofessional behavior from models as well. But this blog isn’t really the place for that. I can talk about it somewhere else. 

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Going on a shamanic journey this weekend. Look out for future posts about my experiences. Will probably make it a vlog/blog series. With some exclusives only on Patreon

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Summer of 2016 after a trip to South Korea something was wrong. I couldn't sleep, I had diarrhea I was so exhausted even my dance teachers were like, wtf happened to you. Who would have known that it was a nasty bug that broke the camel's back.

After 4 years of going to doctors and getting dismissed and ignored about my chronic fatigue and weight gain, I finally got fed up and went to a holistic natural healer. She used a testing method that I had herd about but not seen at such a high level.

Boom 💥

Finally diagnosed what had been zappy my energy!💘💤

Ecoli (Corea trip) Strep (from surgeries) Candida and residual problems from a vaccine I got as a baby🤱.

Well geez! No wonder why I had been so exhausted with tons of food and environmental sensitivities🙍‍♀️🤦‍♀️ . My body has been infested with tons of unwanted guests🧟‍♀️🧟‍♂️.

So now I am on about 22 pills a day to clean out my liver kill and kill the bugs.

To not give them what they want (wheat and sugar) I am also on a gluten free, sugar free, little to no fruit (of course vegan still) diet.

Like #keto inspired.

It's only been 3 days and the people around me said I look more alive. I even went on a long walk yesterday with no caffeine, no problem!

😭 If it wasn't for my therapist going on Maternity leave I wouldn't have had to find a temporary replacement. That person knew people and I got this referral to a natural healer who only does referrals.

Talk about a combination of divine intervention and me giving life and people a change.

I am so incredibly greatful and I have hope for the first time in 4 years that I can accomplish my dreams to travel and live in Asian.

#🧘‍♀️ #🙏 #🤝 #vegan #healthiscomplicated #virus #bacteria #chronic #chronicfatigue #glutenfree #lowsugar #sugarfree #holisticmedicine #healthcare #struggle #pain #freedom #hope

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I feel exhausted after therapy; is that normal?

I have a fellow friend who is starting therapy working on her trauma and PTSD. She explained she feels empowered but exhausted. She wondered does it get easier? This was my answer to her:

When I do EMDR with my therapist I literally feel like I have fought a tiger. It's normal. Deep healing work is exhausting. Which is why the days I do therapy I make it a self care day.

 Depending on the part of the trauma or which trauma the tigers I fight change. Some experiences are more draining than others. But I think eventually there are less tigers. 

Is doing this work worth it?

YES! I am calmer overall and my  Hypervigilance has gone down. I had a point where my PTSD symptoms went down enough that I noticed, wow did this store always have a smoothie section? My husband laughed and said, yes... I told my therapist and she said that as we reduce trauma our threat response goes down. As it goes down we see more of life. That tunnel vision goes down. 

I also have better sleep. I still get triggered but not as bad. The hard work you are doing, TRUST ME, is so worth it.

Recovery from trauma isn’t easy, but the work is worth it. You will slowly get your life back. You will get your job back. You will be able to love again. You will be able to be sexy again. 

Keep at it.

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We go through our lives collecting labels. We agree to identify whether we realize it or not. Watch the whole video to get the impact of the message at the end. Writer, Director, Actor: Misted Forest www.mistedforest.com Social links @MistedForest Cinematographer, and Editor: David L. Minard www.Z9Media.com Music Jeff Bullock www.reverbnation.com/JeffBullock

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I just spray painted my board, now I am gunna vision it. Join me on Wed 1-3pm PST for a vision board workshop. I will be teaching the science and philosophy of creating a vision board and then letting you enjoy the creative flow. Go to www.facebook.com/MistedForest Then events to sign up. General tickets are a suggested donation of $15-$25 There are 25 free tickets available for those who lost their job due to Covid. -- If you can't make it I am recording it. Recording is a suggested donation of $25 Direct link https://m.facebook.com/events/2976342425795992?acontext=%7B%22action_history%22%3A%22[%7B%5C%22surface%5C%22%3A%5C%22page%5C%22%2C%5C%22mechanism%5C%22%3A%5C%22main_list%5C%22%2C%5C%22extra_data%5C%22%3A[]%7D]%22%7D&aref=0&ref=bookmarks #visionboard #vision #positivethinking #belief #creation #collage #art #fun #cocreate #magazine #upcycle #paints #pen #yoga #Wednesday #workshops #Mistedforest https://www.instagram.com/p/CAgOoQGh14M/?igshid=5nubqbuoh9wx

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Our thoughts can distract us from life. Let the beauty of life remind you, that your life is still good. Let the thoughts subside enough for you to breath. With depression or anxiety we can forget. Don't beat yourself up. Just smile and come back to a state of calm. #depression #anxiety #calm #lovethyselfcartoons #lovethyself #mistedforest #art #cute #mixedmedia https://www.instagram.com/p/CAY8FaphovT/?igshid=onnookbp0sko

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A few weeks ago I did a mirror practice. I stared into the mirror and drew myself. I witnessed all my pain, all my inner criticism. Through the end of the journey I felt deep relief, gratitude and love. We must release all falsehood of who we think we are to see who we truly are: Omnipresent, ever expanding consciousness Aka Pure Love It might take you years, or maybe only a few minutes to reach this state with yourself. I promise, you can love yourself because love is who we all are. Namaste, Misted Forest 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗 #selflove #lovethyself #lovethyselfcartoons #mindfulness #consciousness #zen #mystical #spirtuality #science #graditude #freedom #bodypositivity https://www.instagram.com/p/CAQrCLUB5Ge/?igshid=la360cjinltu