despite everything...

...28 | cherry | she/it

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[lowpawly]

looking at any kind of trans supplies focused online shop is depressing because there will either be a complete absence of anything for transfems or like. a really sad transfem section with 5 items at the end of a list full of binders and packers and harnesses

[lowpawly]

on a queer sex positive online store. depressing

[xenasaur]

"nonbinary bodies" HMMMMMMM

[croifox]

My transfeminine body can be as nonbinary as any transmasc I'll fight any motherfucker who says different

[assortedinsanities]

thebreastformstore.com For breastforms + care, shapewear, wigs, shoes and jewlery

enfemmestyle.com For clothing, breastforms + care, shapewear, tucking and wigs

translife.uk For clothing, cosmetics, breastforms and tucking.

I get the frustration, but ultimately if you want stores that do sell things specifically for trans feminine people, searching for them and sharing them is the way to go.

If you are looking for lingerie style bras for a flat chest, those are marketed towards cis woman, who had cancer related breast reduction surgery.

And I get that it is frustrating that a lot of these thing are also marketed towards crossdressers, but the reason for this is the same as to why a lot of binders are marketed as "sports bras": sellers put every (vaguely) related term into their website in the hopes of selling to more people. Which obviously isn't great either, but at least I can better tolerate it, knowing it is marketing bullshit and not misgendering me for the sake of it.

[gemstonenostalgia]

Been a long time since I did the legwork of finding places but here's all my bookmarked lingerie brands that make lingerie for transfems and have transfem models.

Carmen Liu Lingerie - trans woman owned lingerie company that makes bras and panties specifically for transfems, also has plain cotton kids' underwear.

Juniper & Eve - cis woman owned from what I can tell but her starting point with the company was "make lingerie for a trans woman friend" and underwear types are sorted by style (flat front, gaff, or pouch front) rather than by gender.

Origami Customs - I kind of think of OC as more transmasc-focused but since I last checked their site they've added the option to select gusset width on non-gaff undies which I'm pleasantly surprised by. They also do custom sizing at no extra cost.

TomboyX also does breastform bras and tucking panties now but idk anyone who wears them so I can't comment on that specirfically. Just buying their underwear over the years I feel that the quality has dropped off while the prices have doubled. I get stuff on sale only. YMMV.

The only super specifically transfem

[emcapi]

I wanted to add on my small local store, the Tool Shed. They carry breast forms, compatible bras, gaff underwear, shapewear, some accessories like adhesive tape and wash, and dilators and lube. They also have a TONNN of books for sale (I checked and the "books and media" section for trans and intersex topics has 279 items)!

The above link is for their trans focused site, but they also have a larger collection here that includes all their trans products along with regular sex toys (and even MORE books.)

[candleswans]

while these are strong resources, the majority of these links have yet to offer transfem specific sex toys which is what the original post is about. i know transmasc specific sex toys exist mostly to accommodate tdicks (i checked the site and the majority of what is listed for transmascs are strokers, pumps, and packers). i am having trouble finding transfem specific sex toys listed myself. however i found the following resources:

allure's 23 amazing sex toys for transfems: offers toy options to alleviate bottom dysphoria, help maintain erections, and for those who are post op (dilators, lube, clit toys). also recommends some books.

the trans woman's guide to sex toys: written by a trans woman, specifically offers guidance and recommendations for transfems who are post op.

cute little fuckers: makes no mention of transmasc vs transfem specific toys but is designed by and for trans people. the toys come in unique shapes and sizes so they can be used creatively by anyone with any genitalia, definitely had trans genitalia in mind of course.

susan's place transgender resources: this is just a forum where somebody is asking for recommendations for their trans girlfriend with bottom dysphoria. lots of good recommendations from other transfems here, but also this post is from 2014 so some information may be outdated

cashmere mag: more sex toy recommendations for transfems.

sex toys for micropenises and "neo"vaginas: sex toys designed for those with small/"micro" penises (trans men on t with enlarged clits, trans women on e with smaller penises), and for trans women with vaginoplasty (toys that accommodate lack of natural lubricants and the need to dilate, essentially).

after a lot of digging it looks like there aren't a lot of sex toys out there designed specifically for transfems in mind :(( which really sucks because theres a lot of potential there. please add on if you find any!

[meowsapow]

"Friends with benefits" and the benefit is being my friend :)

[meowsapow]

We can also fuck nasty or whatever

[chaserba2t]

do any girls want to play hanging out and smoking weed in our underwear

[mistress-light]

Aliens (1986) • Dir. James Cameron 

[footlongdingledong]

i dont care if mondays rife,tuesday qednesday full of strife, thursday fuck my baka life, its friday im in sucks

[vviridescence]

happy thursday fuck my baka life, thank you for this post op i had this stuck in my head for days so i embroidered it

i might attach it to a magnet to go on my fridge lol

[teathattast]

[teathattast]

[subaru-copilot]

looks inside procrastination -> it's anxiety -> looks inside anxiety -> it's fear -> looks inside fear -> it's shame

[teaboot]

Surely these circumstances will improve with additional shame

[important-animal-images]

[lacikaszep]

2 molekula

[damazcuz]

Are you doing okay? We missed you at the devil's sacrament. He mentioned you by name. Everyone was looking around and cheering until we realized you weren't there. If you need to talk I'm always here. At the aforementioned devil's sacrament.

[sweetcherryliar]

shes gone

[pukicho]

yo i might be trans what do i do :)

Be

[ashes2caches]

t4t girl who has a body writing kink but also doesn’t like being mean to her girlfriend so she just writes stuff like ‘good girl,’ and ‘awesome,’ and ‘super nice’ all over her.

[juniper-petunia]

the most attractive thing you can possibly be is an earnest dork

[starrys-moving-her-blog]

the transfem princessgirl would like to ask you for the eleventh time today if u are really completely truly sure that it is ok for her to have fantasies involving holding ur hand, and if u rly do not believe that she is an evil monster for that

[lgbtranswoman]

Ice cold takes from a Transgender Woman:

Men are not inherently Evil

Everyone has the capacity for evil

Transgender Men are men

Transgender Women are women

Excluding Cisgender Men from your spaces requires Transgender Men to out themselves if they want to engage (Same for Women)

Anyone can be Non-Binary, there is no "look" or requirement

Non-binary masculine presenting people should be welcome in queer spaces, many are just treated as men and predators

Non-binary feminine presenting people should be welcome in queer spaces without being seen as "Woman-Lite"

Edited the wording on the first point because too many terfs keep thinking I'm their friend.

[lgbtranswoman]

This post has given me 80k notes and a blocklist longer than my follower+following count.

Happy 80k to what should be basic common sense/knowledge but is instead divisive because people are either transphobic, hate men, or both.

[hellyesbro]

I think if a transgender man does not want to be out as transgender the solution is for him to not hang out in trans spaces. Allowing cisgender men in our spaces is a danger to us all.