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Did not see it coming it is some @sixpenceee shit 😞😐

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OH MY GOD I SAW THIS AND JUST WOW

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oh my what a plot twist

deathofaromantic

if you have ever suffered from…

• depression

• anxiety

• eating disorder

• self-harm

• ocd

• bipolar

• feelings of guilt and hopelessness

• suicidal thoughts

can you please reblog to show support for people who also suffer.

you are not alone.

Playlist by Imagine Dragons: "Imagine Dragons Best Of"

#Imagine Dragons #Tunespeak

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Have you guys heard about hotel 626?

According to one description:

You’re trapped in a hotel and have to complete challenges–like singing a demon baby to sleep–to get out. Hotel 626 uses several groundbreaking techniques to dial up the experience. Your webcam sneaks a picture of you and shows it to you later–inside the lair of a madman. Your one salvation is a phone call on your actual cell phone with directions on how to get out. To make it scarier, you have to play in the dark. Hotel 626 is only open from 6pm to 6am.

I’ve looked for this game EVERYWHERE but it’s not up anymore. Apparently they got sued, because some people called they cops once they relieved a phone call with a creepy voice saying “it’s not over.”

You can view walkthroughs of this game here

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I love these memes.

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Never not reblog sassy-sarcastic Jesus lovingly putting people on the right track.

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This guy I was talking to was saying how women play sports just as well as men, and he said, “One time I was reffing a womens softball game, on the full moon, and -“

And I was like, ” Why does it matter that it was on the full moon?“

and he was like “Well, you know, the full moon… women on the full moon"

and i was like ‘I don’t get it'

and he was like “Periods"

and he thought all women just get their periods on the full moon and i just thought it was really funny that he confused women with werewolves.

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Lycanthropy is a feminist issue

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A few months ago, I was driving home from my college campus. When I reached the first 4-way intersection outside of campus, I had to wait a bit to turn left as there were a lot of cars coming from the other direction.

“No problem,” I thought, “it’s 5pm, obviously there’s going to be some traffic.”

As I waited, the Camry two cars behind me came out, cut into the other side of the road, and cut off an oncoming car to take the left turn.

I was pissed, even more so because right when they cut me off I was about to turn. I ended up right behind them, slightly enraged but I tried to brush it off.

The street we were on was a busy one. Lots of people were parking on both sides, people were crossing the street every which way, all while the asshole in front of me was slightly swerving.

I ended up getting close enough to the car to see that the driver, a girl in her 20s, was texting while driving. I was fuming at this point. Then I noticed the sign on top of her car. She was a pizza delivery girl.

I recognized the logo on the sign and called the store, where I spoke to a manager.

“I was just calling to let you know that one of your drivers is driving erratically. She cut me off from behind as I was waiting to turn left onto the Boulevard, then she was texting and driving for a while. I just thought you should know because it reflects poorly on your company.”

I could tell the manager was pissed. He asked what the car looked like. I told him it was a silver Camry with a “Princess on Board” bumper sticker.

“FUCK. I know exactly who you’re talking about. I’m sorry. She’s been spoken to about this on multiple occasions. Don’t worry, she’s fired as soon as she walks through the door. What’s your address? I’m going to send over a free pizza.”

Do I feel bad that she lost her job? Not at all. It made the pizza taste that much better.

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bro…

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Not all heroes wear capes…

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HOSPITALS. ARE. ALREADY. REQUIRED. UNDER. LAW. TO. PROVIDE. LIFE. SAVING. EMERGENCY. CARE. REGARDLESS. OF. ABILITY. TO. PAY. OR. EVEN. CITIZENSHIP.

Stop acting like Americans have no access to emergency healthcare unless we socialize medicine.

kyidyl

IF. YOU. GO. AND. CAN’T. PAY. YOU’RE. STILL. THOUSANDS. IN. DEBT. THIS. IS. NOT. ACCESS.

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This hospital in my city just threw out a homeless man

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The hospital which took me in after I collapsed from the fist sized tumor over my heart, released me after refusing to diagnose it as cancer, which would have forced them to give me some kind of treatment. The doctor at the county hospital which took me in looked at their tests and said, “this is CLEARLY cancer, why didn’t they diagnose it? We can’t let you leave.”

Hospitals find ways when they want to, to avoid helping people when they want to.

“Oh that’s illegal, you should sue” “ with what money and how will I get the time and energy when I’m busy recovering from chemo?”

People who can’t afford treatment also can’t afford to protect their rights.

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Absolutely this: “People who can’t afford treatment also can’t afford to protect their rights.”

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A carnival float in Düsseldorf, Germany.

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wow.

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But… this was awesome!!

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Diversity on 100

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Were You Born Under The Gaslight?

When applied to a family, the gaslight treatment is a special form of dysfunction. It happens when you, a child, receive messages or encounter experiences within the family which are deeply contradictory. Messages which are opposing and conflicting; experiences which can’t both be true. When you can’t make sense of something, it’s natural to apply the only possible answer:

“Something is wrong with me.”

Today, scores of children are growing up under a gaslight of their own. And scores of adults are living their lives baffled by what went on in their families, having grown up thinking that they, not their families, are crazy.

I have seen gaslighting cause personality disorders, depression, anxiety, and a host of other lifelong struggles. Receiving contradictory messages that don’t make sense can shake the very ground that a child walks on.

The Four Types of Child Gaslighting:

1. The Double-Bind Parent: This type was first identified by Gregory Bateson in 1956. The double-bind mother has been linked by research to the development of schizophrenia and Borderline Personality Disorder. This type of parent goes back and forth unpredictably between enveloping (perhaps smothering) the child with love and coldly rejecting him.

The Message: You are nothing. You are everything. Nothing is real. You are not real.

The Gaslight Effect: As an adult, you don’t trust yourself, your validity as a human being, your feelings, or your perceptions. Nothing seems real. You stand on shaky ground. You have great difficulty trusting that anyone means what they say. It’s extremely hard to rely on yourself or anyone else.

2. The Unpredictable, Contradictory Parent: Here, your parent might react to the same situation drastically differently at different times or on different days, based on factors that are not visible to you. For example a parent who is under the influence of alcohol or drugs one day and not the next; a parent who is manic at times, and depressed other times, or a parent who is extremely emotionally unstable. Whatever the reason for the parent’s opposing behaviors, you, the innocent child, know only that your parent flies into a rage one moment and is calm and seems normal the next.

The Message: You are on shaky ground. Anything can happen at any time. No one makes sense.

The Gaslight Effect: You don’t trust your own ability to read or understand people; you have difficulty managing and understanding your own emotions, and those of others. You struggle to trust anyone, including yourself.

3. The Appearance-Conscious Family: In these families, style always trumps substance. All must look good, or maybe even perfect, especially when it’s not. There’s little room for the mistakes, pain, or natural human shortcomings of the family members. The emphasis is on presenting the image of the ideal family. Here, you experience a family which appears perfect from the outside, but which is quite imperfect, or even severely dysfunctional, on the inside. This can stem from Achievement / Perfection focused parents (as described in Running on Empty), or from narcissistic parents.

The Message: You must be perfect. Natural human flaws, mistakes, and weaknesses must be hidden and ignored. You are not allowed to be a regular human being.

The Gaslight Effect: You feel deeply ashamed of yourself and your basic humanness. You ignore your own feelings and your own pain because you don’t believe it’s real, or that it matters. You tend to see and focus on only the positive things in your life, which fit into a particular template. You are extremely hard on yourself for making mistakes, or you put them out of your mind and simply pretend they didn’t happen. You may be missing out on the most important parts of life which make it worthwhile: the messy, real world of intimacy, relationships and emotion.

4. The Emotionally Neglectful Family (CEN): In this family, your physical needs may be met just fine. But your emotional needs are ignored. No one notices what the children are feeling. The language of emotion is not used in the home. “Don’t cry,” “Suck it up,” “Don’t be so sensitive,” are frequently uttered by the CEN parent. The most basic, primary part of what makes you you (your emotional self) is treated as a burden or non-existent.

The Message: Your feelings and needs are bad and a burden to others. Keep them hidden. Don’t rely on others, and don’t need anything. You don’t matter.

The Gaslight Effect: You have been trained to deny the most deeply personal, biological part of who you are, your emotions, and you have dutifully pushed them out of sight and out of mind. Now, you live your life with a deeply ingrained feeling that you are missing something that other people have. You feel empty or numb at times. You don’t trust yourself or your judgments because you lack your emotions to guide you. Your connections to others are one-way or lack emotional depth. Even if you are surrounded by people, deep down you feel alone. None of it makes any sense to you.

Were you born under the gaslight? If so, you are not alone. You are not invalid or crazy or wrong. it’s vital to realize that you have been, by definition, deeply invalidated. But “invalidated” and “invalid” are not the same. “Invalidated” is an action, and “invalid” is a state of mind. You can’t change what your parents did and didn’t do, but you can change your state of mind.

SOURCE: [ x x x x ]

godslayerbabe-deactivated201906

I’m very glad this post is going around. I didn’t think it would get this many notes, since I usually just love posting articles I can relate to. But anyway I’ve been reading the comments people have been leaving on it and I’m glad that I’m not alone in this. I’m also reading how some people are just figuring things out in regards to it, or still actively experiencing gaslighting. Reading all the different experiences people have has been interesting and it’s also shocking at the same time how so many suffer or have suffered at the hands of their parents. I think it’s very important for those to be aware of how powerful gaslighting can affect a person negatively and/or that it exists and is a very real thing that can leave a detrimental effect.