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[giragirameganedan]

[giragirameganedan]

[dizzyghoast]

honestly fandom has ruined me because now any time i'm in the desert and i see two vast and trunkless legs of stone or a half-sunk shattered visage i'm like "omg just like in Ozymandias" and its like come on girl not every half-sunk shattered visage is Ozymandias

[mewwon]

i feel like we really don’t need a million pride flags. it gives hogwarts houses and sweatshop temu accessories. it gives sense of identity through consumerism. it gives those pic art avatars fuckk whatever they’re called from 2019. and most importantly its unchic

[aetas-aurea]

You do not have nine lives. You have one body, one timeline, one set of years that will not be returned to you for revision. The elderly people who say they thought they would live forever are not being poetic. They are describing a very specific and very common failure of the human imagination to make the future feel as real and as urgent as the present. Your future self is a real person who will live in the body and the circumstances and the consequences of the decisions you are making right now. She deserves better than to inherit the results of your present comfort and present avoidance.

[theambitiouswoman]

Your brain doesn’t get tired from doing things, it gets tired from resisting things. When you’re doing nothing your mind starts overthinking and carrying the weight of all the things you’re avoiding. That’s why you feel so tired. It burns more mental energy than simply taking action

Do the thing

[theambitiouswoman]

I want to add to this that the less you do, the more your brain starts to question your ability to do anything at all. Inaction slowly chips away at your confidence because you’re no longer proving to yourself that you can handle things. This is also true when someone else is doing everything for you like a partner or a parent. Momentum creates evidence. When you stop moving, that evidence disappears, and doubt fills the space. Over time, even simple tasks start to feel heavier than they actually are because you’ve trained your mind to hesitate instead of act

Avoidance creates doubt, and doubt creates more avoidance. The only way out is action, even in small doses

[zombierightsadvocate]

The left: men aren’t responsible for the oppression of women. You can’t blame an entire group of people for something

Also the left: actually the rise of open and violent racism and misogyny and homophobia in society is all women’s fault because they were kinda mean to men on the internet and some of them are even saying no to men. Poor baby victim men are being forced against their will to become trump loving conservatives by women, who are single handedly destroying the left and democracy.

[thestrawberraebunn]

[wizardnaturalist]

a book should be $5 a little drink should be $2 and museum access should be free and all hours

[maykitz]

the persecution of lefthandedness is insane to think about because it was so intense for so long, in some places still is, without any clear profit motivation. sheer love of the game. as late as the 70s at least they were smacking my stepdad's hands for it with a wooden ruler at school, to this day he's in weird ambidexterity situation where he's not great with either side and notably clumsy due to poor hand-eye coordination. just wtf

[seeingteacupsindragons]

It is fascinating to me that people also think of handedness as an example of bigotry that just...went away. As you note, it...hasn't in some places. I know people who grew up in the mid-late 90s who still had this problem.

But also, and this is really important to keep in mind regarding bigotry that still causes in many ways larger problems, that the structural problems are not actually fixed.

If you go to any computer lab or public library, the mice will be on the right side of the computer. Sometimes they can be moved. Sometimes they can't. Many computer mice are curved to only fit in right hands.

It is impossible to find lefthanded scissors without going to a specialty store, because most scissor makers don't even make them. And it's not just a matter of grip; the slicing side of the blades is obscured if you use righty scissors in your left hand, so your cut is off.

All those signing pads with the little chained styluses? Almost always on the right side, often not even long enough to stretch to the left. Makes signing for lefties extremely difficult.

I caused actual muscular problems in college having to twist around in order to write at right-handed desks in college when there weren't enough lefty desks--and there never were. Some classrooms didn't even have a single one.

I could go on.

But the point is, bigotry isn't just a mindset shift. People can't just decide they're not bothered by that particular difference anymore and everything's fine, because society is still structured and designed to cause problems for marginalized people. And they're never even going to notice all the little ways their life is bent to convenience them that inconveniences others.

[crafty-butch]

anyone else notice how when "digital assistants" were just supposed to do specific tasks when you asked for them we had Alexa and Siri and Cortana, but now that they're being marketed as smart enough to take actions and make decisions on their own they've got names like Claude and Devin

[alice-is-annoyed-deactivated202]

[liones-s]

one of the most boring lessons I’ve learned is that when a task feels overwhelming, you just have to start doing it. Even if you’re not sure how to do 90% of it, look for one small component that seems close and start there. Sometimes it’s reading one article on the topic, or searching one related term, or literally just googling how to do the task. Do anything other than thinking about it. The process of working on a thing inherently makes it less scary.

[imustlockinimustlockin]

GENUINELY.

i have a small bright yellow sticky-note on my wall, right next to my pillow, that says 'I am very young and am learning how to live', and right next to that one i have another, this one bright green, which reads 'What Is The Easiest First Step? Do It.'.

[ruinedchildhood]

[cada-dreamer-127-deactivated202]

[blignick]

[virtualcremefem]

Basic radical feminism: Women are not objects

Liberal "feminists":

But what if women could be objects?

But what about women choosing to be objects?

But what about women who enjoy being objects?

But what about the complex cultural, personal, intersectional and political landscape around being an object?

[stuckinapril]

I think part of getting better is complete ego death. Like you’re not above setting a timer for 5 minutes and focusing on a task. You’re not above doing a very simple 3 minute workout to start. You’re not above reading for 10 minutes a day when you first get out of your reading slump, even if you used to read for hours. You’re not above starting slow and then building up to where you want to be/where you once were. What you are above is total inertia. Doing something really is better than doing nothing. Radically accept where you are, radically accept your limits, and go from there. Don’t let your ego get in the way.