#acephobia ment

[mindflamer]

acephobic ppl saying asexuality is from trauma like ok even if that were true why are you chill with bullying people with trauma and pressuring them to have sex

[aro-culture-is]

aroace culture is being constantly unsure who will support you because most people don't :(

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[gothamsworst]

Bit self-indulgent but how would the dork squad plus Waylon react to hearing their so who’s asexual has had ex’s who have wanted to “fix them” in the past?

Jonathan Crane:

Considering he’s on the Ace Spectrum himself, he knows what you’re dealing with. Sure, no one has ever “offered” to “fix him,” but he has been told that what he’s going through has been/will be a phase for most of his life. So. It’s obvious that you won’t be hearing that sort of ridiculous stigma from him.  Your relationship is Ace Solidarity at it’s finest.

Edward Nygma:

Sure, Ed might experience sexual attraction (being the bisexual disaster that he is), but he knows how to control himself. He’s not an animal. And he’s sure as hell not going to try and pressure you into anything that obviously makes you uncomfortable. If he wasn’t willing to make it work with you, this relationship would never have made it past the first few dates.

Jervis Tetch:

Listen, the man exudes extremely bottled-up horny energy, but he’s still a gentleman at heart. He’d never, ever put his partner in a situation like that, regardless of his “desires.” Just the thought of it makes him feel sick. He’d only ever do anything that you were both comfortable with. Just hope he never meets any of your ex’s, because he will kill them.

Waylon Jones:

Hey, that’s fine with him. He might not be “Ace” per se, but his sexual attraction in-general is pretty lowkey, so it’s not like it’s gonna cause a problem between you two or anything. (You might wanna avoid him during his “heats” though, to save you both from awkwardness.) He could care less about sex, he’s happy just having you around.

[avtorsola]

aphobes fuck off challenge

[aro-culture-is]

Aspec culture is liking to have discussions abt stereotypes n stigmatism in the queer community, especially aspec stereotypes n stigmatism, but worried that it will turn into a cesspool of aspec hate n borderline aspecphobia (which sadly it always usually ends in)

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[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is deleting your aro side blog because the hate/discourse was too much for you

if it helps at all anon, I personally haven’t seen any aphobic hate/discourse sent to me since last year or so. it’s been fairly quiet as of late.

that said, take care of yourself and know that I’m proud of you for knowing your limits and establishing boundaries to protect yourself.

[cesium-sheep]

apparently today is a day of much thinking. there’s that [long post] about being disabled in a political hellscape (essentially me defending my existence I guess), then I had a [twitter thread] prompted by the guy who wrote the thread about fawning writing another thread about fawning, talking about how I got out of that.

then matt came across some Eerily Similar Shit to that one really icky anti-asexuality post someone I trusted made a while ago, and read it for my bitter amusement, and I ended up rehashing big chunks of that lesbian cruise [twitter thread] because they made a throwaway comment about the parallels between the logic of “asexuals are just self-hating gays” and the logic of “trans men who date girls are just lost lesbians” and I had to be like “no even the non-terfy ones seem terrified of people finding labels to identify with other than lesbian while still kissing girls” because. that was one of the Big Negative Vibes I got from the lesbian cruise article. (obligatory disclaimer that I’m not trying to take anyone else’s enjoyment away. I’m sure it was great fun and really validating for lesbians. there were some parts that were comparatively progressive (you can date nbs and be a lesbian, terfs make the author sad), it’s just as a queer person who looks like a girl and likes girls but isn’t a lesbian it wasn’t fun and validating for me.)

also the person I was caring for the other day is still freaking out about the same thing in a way where they just kind of ignore what I say about it. so I’m slowly getting more and more forceful about them talking to their doctor about this instead of me since they won’t be comforted no matter what I say.

so kind of a. heavy lifting brain day. not very good rest.

[scribbleboxfox]

lmao I just saw a post that was like ‘exclusionists don’t hate asexuals, we just don’t think they belong in our community bc they’re not “”””””inherently lgbt”””””” like shut the WHOLE ENTIRE FUCK UP and just say you don’t want aces to have a community where they can feel safe and accepted and stop pretending this isn’t the same exact shit you pulled on us bi folk before you decided we were “gay enough” for your stupid fucking club