#actuallydaydreaming

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[nessetarian]

Do y'all ever see a fellow MaDD'er who has a para with the same name as one of your paras, and you just get kind of . . offended? Because it's like they stole your para?? And I'm not talking usual basic names, I mean weird one's that don't sound normal.

I have a para named Sachi, and I just saw (for the very first time ever) someone's para also named Sachi and I still don't know how I feel about it.

No harm done, I mean I sure as heck don't own that name, but it just made me feel weird and uneasy as if I was losing my para as my own. Dunno if this makes sense . . just thought I'd share.

[maddcastle]

alright look since people don't seem to understand why maladaptive daydreaming is a big deal here’s a grand list of some of the reasons why.

first off: yes, you little babies, maladaptive daydreaming is often characterized by:

zoning out

“snapping back” to reality

which is often followed by mild alarm and confusion like “what where am i what am i doing whats going on”

seeking emotional satisfaction in daydreams that you didn’t get from real life

it’s often developed due to childhood isolation, not having a lot of friends, having too much time to yourself as a youngling

yep also those bless-ed long car rides

being deeply comforted by music and/or alone time because it means yay daydreaming time

intricate stories that exist inside vivid imaginary worlds (called paracosms) with their own highly developed “characters” (which are called paras, and i hope you're taking notes) 

constantly looking for an “escape” so you can daydream

repetitive motions to stimulate daydreams such as swinging on a swingset, bouncing up and down, pacing, spinning, etc.

an idealized version of yourself through whose eyes you live out these daydream stories (called parames, like para-me...)

BUT!!!! but but but but but but (and this is the stuff y'all seem to constantly be forgetting/overlooking/not taking seriously) maladaptive daydreaming is also characterized by:

deep and dependent emotional attachments to paras such as intimate friends, lovers, family, and pets that don't exist

deep guilt due to favoring paras over “real life” (called thisverse) people

a phobia that you will never be able to care about people in thisverse and will therefore be a terrible lover/spouse/parent, etc.

trancelike states where you lose time anywhere between a few minutes to several hours straight without even realizing it until you’ve returned to reality

maladaptive daydreaming steals so. much. time.

withdrawal-like effects if you don't daydream for a long time (even a day), such as shaking, nausea, agitation, aggression, breakdowns, etc.

you don't control your daydreams, they do whatever they want to, they are invasive, intrusive, and often unwanted

intense absorption, so when the daydream is exciting you will get an adrenaline rush and your blood gets hot and starts to rush and you sweat and breathe weird and see red and your heart rate goes up. when the daydream is depressing you will cry with real tears and your limbs actually feel heavy

it steals an incredible amount of energy

daydreams are often violent, sexual, and/or disturbing

difficulty focusing, high anxiety

paranoia caused by a feeling that you’re under observation

compulsive behavior (like, “i have to pace right now” even when your feet feel like they’re broken... I've often been afraid to look down because i thought i might see blood but i couldn't stop walking even when it hurt so much that i started crying)

sleeplessness, insomnia, nightmares

suicidal thoughts and tendencies (“maybe if i die, i’ll be with my paras”, “i can't take it anymore”)

feeling uncomfortable in your body/with your identity (i often have trouble recalling my real name because i’m so used to be my parame’s name, i avoid mirrors because i expect to see my parame’s face and it always catches me off guard)

weight loss or weight gain

appetite loss or appetite gain

dissociation and “out of body” experiences

avoidance and the death of your social life

not being able to feel anything either neg or pos about “real life” things because you're only concerned with your paracosms

speaking the dialogue out loud or whispering, acting out daydreams

i have seriously been asked if i’m possessed when i got caught daydreaming

it is so painful and so detrimental and it makes our lives difficult, it is not “cute”, it is not “lol relatable”, it  is not “creative”, and it is not “fake”

[superp0wer]

When the version of something in your imagination turns out to be accurate in real life

[clovericlare]

Maladaptive Daydreaming Para Portrait Guidelines

- Submit a written a description of physical appearance and general personality AND/OR picture references of your para - Let me know in your submission what you’d prefer your para to be wearing/doing in the portrait - specify what blog/url you’d like me to tag when I’m done

Rules: -no furry/anthro stuff pls, just a personal preference -up to two people per portrait -gore is good and fine, honestly i love it -nothing explicitly n s f w  at the moment thanks (suggestive and/or nudity is fine tho)

Keep in mind that I’m doing this for free, so I reserve the right to refuse or whatever. (I can’t imagine any reason I’d refuse a portrait unless it didn’t follow the guidelines but hey.)

But I’ll let you know if/when your portrait is on my schedule either way. 

(All drawings are tagged “daydream portrait")

[unstablemotions]

It's fearful-avoidant, socially anxious, maladaptive daydreaming time ✌😉💕

[unstablemotions]

Don't ya just love when you start daydreaming spontaneously in an inappropriate setting and then you start feeling disconnected from your body since it doesn't fit who you see yourself as inside your head and people referring to you as you feels wrong and you feel awkward interacting with others since you can't act like the person you are in your head, but you feel fake acting like your actual, real self

[unstablemotions]

Oh, I'm but a simple person: either stress turns me into a child, into an imaginary person or into nothing