Hey do you have any advice on coming out with your chosen name? My partner is gender fluid and experiences heavy dysphoria from their given name but doesn’t know how to ask our close friends to stop calling them that and is kinda weirded out by coming out to them. I don’t really know what to tell them because I dropped my dead name stubbornly when I came out as nb and never really had conflicting feelings on the matter and I feel like a shitty person not being able to help more.
i’ve been thinking about this for a few days, and ultimately, i just really don’t.
the thing is, i never did it. my bio-family all calls me by my birth name (i hate it), my friends all call me by either my birth name or my high school nickname (i hate it less), and my current family all call me by my high school nickname too.
i never actually chose a name for myself. it was always too much pressure. bpd will do that to you. the name that is perfect, beautiful, ideal, everything you want or need today will be the worst thing that has happened in your entire life next week, and that’s too much stress for me. to change my name that often sounds like a death sentence.
so i operate on kind of the far opposite end of the scale from you, and am just as unhelpful to your partner, unfortunately.
i tried googling around a bit, but most advice out there is for legal name changes, as i’m sure you know.
the best i can really offer is to put this in as many tags as possible and hope someone with more to offer you makes a comment.
