#adhd dating

[rabid-goblin-freak]

Me: giving all of my love and affection to my fellow lesbians! 🧡🏳️‍🌈

[bootleg-nessie]

Neurotypicals’ idea of flirting is dropping really subtle hints and refusing to communicate clearly and effectively and then getting upset when nobody can read their mind or pick up on said imperceptibly small hints

[deanwasalwaysbi]

When my partner is just trying to tidy up but I have ADHD and issues with object permanence

[7gentlemanlysnails]

i got a severely adhd partner and lemme tell you there is nothing quite like being engaged to what i can only describe as a 6 foot tall toddler with the personality of a golden retriever

10/10 i highly recommend

[thatadhdmood]

Question for all ADHD folks I guess: At what age did you start dating or even having vaguely romantic friendships? I’m nearly 18 and I haven’t so much as told someone I like them yet. No first kiss, I’ve never dated anyone, I’ve never been asked out. Is this normal? I’m just wondering if late relational growth is a symptom or could be related?

_______________ oh mood im nearly 18 and i havent kissed anybody

ive dated someone online for a year and im trying atm to ask this cute girl out but like,.,.., progress is slow my lads

idk culd be because were a bit behind our peers developmentally for behaviour so we take a bit more to mature

and because rsd makes the idea of telling someone u like them and getting rejected sound like the worst thing in the world

and we dont get asked out as much because we appear #quirky and #weird and are kind of a mess generally so no one wants to be burdened by our fuck up ness

plus were bad at being in relationships because we’re unorganised and can seem like we ignore our partners for ages because we hyperfocused on something else and forgot everyone elses existence, and are forgetful of time and dates and things

hhhhh we do be HIGHKEY venting in the ask chat today LADS

idk thats my OPINION no facts or evidence here

put yall experiences in the notes or asks if u feel like exposing urself today

[abcsofadhd]

A loooong requested audio episode on ADHD and dating. 

I cover common problems faced and advice to face them.

There’s advice for the ADHDer and the partner.

You can also listen to it on:

Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/abcsofadhd/adhd-and-dating-common-problems-and-advice

Stitcher: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/abcs-of-adhd/the-abcs-of-adhd-basics-for-adult-adhders

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7bepHNmR27UP25AySyoIwk

Apple podcast: <still being dicks>

[adhdpie]

i’ve always “fell in love” with people in a weird way, like at first there are these HIGH PEAKS OF LOVE & ENTHUSIASM when i first have a crush and then like... 1 week later i completely forget the feeling. my longest crush lasted 1 month 😂 i feel like i can’t really fall in love with someone bc i get bored so easily and if i’m not constantly stimulated by people i forget them and forget my feelings

OH MAN #RELATEABLE

I’m pretty ace/aro so I haven’t done a lot of crushing on people but I’ve dated a lot of people who asked me out and like ... the initial excitement of new relationship! wears off pretty fast and then I’ve always been bored and wanted out. and I def think this is an adhd thing, or related to adhd? I have no proof and I’m not an expert or anything but that ‘I only care while it’s new’ thing applies to way more than school projects.

(there’s also a name for the type of romantic/sexual feeling that only lasts as long as it’s unrequited or new, but I can’t find it right now. maybe somebody can help us out ;; )

(sidenote tho? i’ve had a steady partner for over 5 years now that I love very much. and like: basically I totally got bored like usual about a month after getting together, but I was like ‘this person is still super important to me even though I’m not hyperfixated like I was at the start. so I’m gonna try to stick this out despite not feeling excitement anymore.’ and deciding to stick it out turned it into more of a commitment than a feeling.

so maybe love isn’t gonna go the ‘normal’ way for you? but if you find a person that makes you want to stick it out past the hyperfixation-like start of crushing on them, it’s totally #worth.)

[bootleg-nessie]

ADHD dating is just accidentally love bombing people because you forget they exist for hours at a time and then overcompensate by texting them back every minute for the next 4 hours