#autistic dating

[itsaspectrumcomic]

It didn't work out

[rabid-goblin-freak]

Me: giving all of my love and affection to my fellow lesbians! 🧡🏳️‍🌈

[lesbianinthesea]

I wonder if this is more autistic coated, lesbian coded or asexual coded . My favorite stim is sex. It’s like a whole sensory board. You can feel where she’s softer or harder and places get softer and harder and wetter. You can hear her moan as you play and as you taste her, her pheromones smell delicious, you’ll get different textures as places, get softer warmer, slicker, and harder. You can even get deep pressure therapy if she’s sitting on your face. And then I get fascinated about what causes what does her clit get harder if I use my fingers or my tongue and what motion, Does power or speed make her slick. I completely forget. I’m having sex till she’s tapped out because she’s drained. But then we get to drink water eat snacks and cuddle it’s like a reward.

[eeveeas123]

🐯🐯🐯

Meltdowns ARE NOT a choice! People don’t do them on purpose! They’re a state of overwhelming emotions that can take over! If you think meltdowns are just excuse terms for tantrums, read carefully:

MY MELTDOWNS GET SO BAD THAT I CONSIDER K!LLING MYSELF IN THE MOMENT!

I’m confident I’m not alone in feeling that intensity, I usually don’t feel like hurting myself but during a meltdown? Stress and anxiety take over logical thoughts, it can feel hopeless in that moment but when I’m “Finished” with having a meltdown I usually don’t contemplate su!c!de. That’s how powerful a meltdown can be!

If you see someone having one, don’t film, don’t try to reason, don’t punish and don’t push it in their face hours later (Family and friends unfortunately do that in some circles). We’re not brats or monsters, we’re struggling with something most people don’t understand or validate…

[neurodivergent-bard]

Some gentle reminders for the aroaces who date or want to try dating:

- Not dating until now is absolutely okay and valid

- You don't have to conform to the allosexual social standards in your relationship

- Your comfort and happiness as well as your partner's are the most important things in your relationship and will always come above the societal expectations and standards

- Starting to date in your 20s and figuring our that it's not for you in the end is absolutely valid and okay

- There is nothing wrong with you if you have to take things slow and if you're confused, you're valid in your experience

- Never put your safety and comfort below anything else

[infatuatedlilbitch]

As a kid I loved Princess Bubblegum so much and Fin's really intense crush on her always made me feel some type of way. I've seen a lot of discourse over the years about how PB takes advantage of Fin's feelings for her, but for me she was so relatable to being an autistic woman and thinking a guy wanted to be your friend and was nice and doing things for you because he wanted to, not because he was in "love" with you and putting in his good boy points till he has enough saved up to date you or sleep with you. I was totally oblivious to it until they would blow up at me and accuse me of being manipulative, cold, calculating, conniving, you name it.

[legotwink08]

whats my type, you ask? someone who notices when i'm running out of my safe food, and buys me more. someone who is okay with cancelling plans and staying in because i'm already overwhelmed. someone who asks if i'd like for them to lie on top of me because they notice when i'm dysregulated. someone who is okay making compromises on what we watch because they know some kinds of shows/movies make me so deeply uncomfortable i want to crawl out of my skin. someone who knows not to read into my tone, that i have very little control over it and that i'm not angry even though i sound it. someone who understands that i communicate a little differently, and who takes the time and effort to sit me down and talk about how they can best understand and help me. someone who is okay that i've eaten the same meal every night for a week, who isn't offended by my inability to wash the dishes, who knows that we can find workarounds- we can make different dinners to cater for ourselves, they can wash while i dry. someone who recognises how intense and constant my RSD is, and who makes a real effort not to hurt me, even if it's incidental. someone who assures me as much as i need it, who notices when i'm vulnerable and comforts me. someone who is okay with my moods being so changeable and my alexithymia being so pervasive.

or, someone who doesn't see my autism as a detriment to our relationship, but something that makes me who i am, and deserves to be loved and catered to as much as i do.

[theseaofworry]