#afamposting

[basil-being-afamilial]

Hello aplatonic and/or afamilial person!! Are you perhaps looking for a word you can use in place of friend and/or sibling that isn't as hard to spell and generally inconvenient as "acquaintance"?? May I suggest to you,

✨️Accomplice✨️??

[Pt: Accomplice /end pt]

[basil-being-afamilial]

how to choose a new last name

how do i know if a new last name sounds good with my name

good last name ideas

do i legally have to have a last name

would it be weird to not have a last name

how to avoid cultural appropriation when looking for a new last name

why do people have last names

how do i know if a last name sounds good generally

easy to pronounce last names that aren't boring

help

[basil-being-afamilial]

*afamilials afamilial-ly*

[basil-being-afamilial]

Maybe a silly question, but how do you pronounce caedfamilial?

I am admittedly not a hundred percent sure but I've been pronouncing it like "cade familial"

[basil-being-afamilial]

nothing like *disgusted voice* a family to ruin your day and probably life

[basil-being-afamilial]

So the other day I was in the car with my roommate and I said that I'm not very comfortable with familial terms and I'd rather be friends or acquaintances or roommates (I don't particularly want to be friends with him I hate him but I figured it would soften it a little).

He said that I am a child and therefore don't get to make "decisions like that" about my life (reminding me very much of when he said "you're not a person you're a child") and that I need a legal guardian because I'm a minor. I agreed that I need a legal guardian until I'm eighteen, but that doesn't mean family and that doesn't mean I can't make my own choices.

I re-presented the discussion the way I'd meant it from the beginning, which was can we not use familial terms?? And he said "I don't think I'm comfortable with that." I said "I don't think I'm comfortable using familial terms" and he said that my opinion doesn't matter.

"I don't want this kind of relationship" being responded to with "your opinion doesn't matter" would not fly in any other kind or relationship.

"I want to break up with you" "your opinion doesn't matter" that would be considered so abusive

"I don't want to be friends with you anymore" "your opinion doesn't matter" that's so incredibly toxic

Why is it okay with familial relationships but not with any other relationships?? That's the thing. It shouldn't be okay in familial relationships.

[basil-being-afamilial]

My roommate is armchair diagnosing me with every mental illness ever because I said that there are people who love me more and do more for me than him (he only sees me every other week) (I can count on one hand the number of times he cooked a meal for me before he got divorced) (he has told me to my face that I am not a person multiple times) (literally the only logical conclusion from how he treats me is that he hates me)

[basil-being-afamilial]

I've recently realized that I'm most likely somewhere on the afamilial spectrum and realized that I only ever really have familial attraction towards pets, with only one exception (my Dad). I'm still learning to accept this about myself, I'm frustrated with the way society treats family as this extremely important thing and purposefully makes life harder for those without families.

Yeahhhhhhhh society is the worst. I wish I could do more to help advocate for afamspec and other lesser-known aspec identities. Most of my OCs are afamspec and I run this blog but I'm bodily fifteen and can't really do anything super concrete to help, at least not for a while

Is the way people feel about pets familial?? I've actually been wondering that for a while now. I've generally thought of my bond with my cats as platonic but I definitely did have a phase when I was younger when I insisted they were blood related to me/my brothers. Although that might've been cause I'm a cat therian

If you're looking for specific labels which I know you didn't say you are but my brain jumped to it because queerness is my spin so if you don't want labels just ignore this; the first things that came to mind are unifamilial and zoofamilial.