#agere vent

[rowanscgblog]

hey there, baby… it’s okay, come here a sec 🫂

i see you… i see the little heart inside that’s feeling heavy. it’s okay to feel scared, sad, or overwhelmed. even if it’s hard to be little, it’s okay to take a moment just for yourself. you can wrap up in a blanket, hug your favorite stuffie, or just take a slow, soft breath. whatever helps you feel safe… it’s gonna be okay.

you’re doing better than you think, sweetheart. even if it doesn’t feel like it. every little step you take, every tiny moment you give yourself, it matters. your feelings are valid, your little heart is important, and it deserves to be seen. it’s okay to be soft, to be small, and to need a break from the world.

you are loved, more than you might realize. you deserve warmth, little moments that make your heart feel light, and lots and lots of hugs. it’s okay to let yourself rest, to let yourself be little, and to know that even in the heavy moments, someone sees you. it’s gonna be okay, kiddo… you’re doing great.

[shhtickerbook]

“ ugly ” regression

☆ it’s not talked enough in regression about the hard big angry feelings. It’s not always relaxing and playing

☆ I want to yell and cry

☆ Throw my toys and push you away

☆ I don’t understand how to process these big feelings

☆ I can’t verbalise what I want

☆ All I want to do is scream and tantrum

☆ Things aren’t going my way and I’m not spoiled for feeling that

☆ I wanna scribble all over my pretty drawing in a black crayon

☆ It’s okay to feel this way

☆ It’s okay to get those feelings out

[faefetti]

Sometimes regression isn’t about being happy.

Sometimes regression is being so mad at the day you had and the people that are mean and the world for being cruel that you can’t help but get small at the end of the day and seek comfort and feel frustrated at yourself for wanting to regress and be safe.

Sometimes regression is having an ugly meltdown and crying about things that are happening and things that happened before and things you don’t want to have happen again.

Sometimes regression is the last defense against a depressive episode, the hope that nostalgia will give you the feelings you need.

Sometimes regression is coming down from panic and anxiety swirling, self soothing or being held by someone while you’re catching your breath and shakily drinking water.

Sometimes regression is not wanting anybody to touch you at all, wanting nobody to hurt you or overstimulate you or make you feel like you physically exist at all.

And sometimes regression is letting your little self drink the water you need, eat the food you deserve, put your face in the sunlight and do whatever you need to do to keep going. Sometimes it’s letting yourself sit and breathe. Sometimes you share that space with all of your feelings, simple and complicated alike while you’re little. Sometimes it’s just about feeling safe. ˚✧₊⁎💛⁎⁺˳༚

[jolitl]

i have a rant about regression and being childish in general and how it's perceived in society.

Because i only last year became more openly disabled and wearing my lanyard i was able to witness something very weird about how people look at you when you do anything considered "childish". It changes

I carry a plushie everywhere, I stim and watch cartoons in public and have bluey stickers on my headphones and backpack and phone. Before i started wearing my lanyard people would stare a lot. Like I'm doing something Wrong inherently by just liking the things i like.

When i started wearing my lanyard and hanging out with the other autistic folk, people's attitude changed. Now they stare, but if i look at them back they quickly politely look away or pretend they weren't looking. People talk more calmly and seem to tolerate better when I'm being childish around them or at least humor me or attempt to look polite sometimes in irritating ways because they're not really listening.

Agere can't be accepted by wider society until we break down this weird boundary where people look at you weird for just. Liking Cartoons. Or acting childish in any way Until you're visibly disabled then you're just given a free pass because people don't really take you seriously anymore. No we should be able to be ourselves And be taken seriously, neurodivergent or not. Being childish shouldn't be a flaw or a social bad thing. And that remains true for being neurodivergent people. people shouldn't stop taking you seriously just because you look childish. ahhhhhh!!!

[littleprincessheart]

sippy cups and bottles <3

[noturpinterestregressor]

The thing that annoys me most about those cutesy “I love agere because you don’t have to worry about adult responsibilities, you can just be a kid again” posts is that those responsibilities still exist. I hate that they do, but they still exist.

Feeling too small to go to work or attend class? Too bad because you have to or there are consequences. Figure it out.

Feeling too small to properly wash dishes or do laundry? You either have to figure out how to do it yourself or deal with not having clean clothes or dishes.

Feeling too small to make your own dinner tonight? Well, get yourself ready to go out to eat. Too small to do that either? You’re just… not eating tonight.

Like, I know that those posts aren’t really for me. But… I don’t like how feeling too regressed for these sorts of things isn’t treated as a bad thing. But maybe I just hate my baby self.

[canidkid]

current mental status:

Vent/rant under the cut for some context 🐶👍

[The vent: Social connections are all well and good until you can't go a day without feeling responsible for someone's wellbeing and the emotional flashbacks from years ago start making you feel like an overgrown child trying to control their environment by keeping people happy so they won't lash out at you because you don't want to be a bad friend. Or a bad kid, i guess. But the fact that you even feel exhausted already makes you feel like a bad friend and a bad person.]

[buggiebat]

i don't know if it's just me here, but i feel like i need so much assistance even if im not small. it's like... it would help me tons if someone was there to guide me through my tasks. not that they have to do everything for me... but just sit with me like a parent would with their kid to do homework... give me gentle reminders and guide me if im too overwhelmed or lost. but at the same time i don't want to be a burden, im a big girl and should be able to do my things alone and without any/much help... and yet, i can't get them done because i get overwhelmed and stuck, but the thought of the task bothers me all day long. :c

supposed to be big girl but i feel so so small still and i don't think that's too good...

anyone else ? :((