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I’m feeling less alone tonight.

Alone not lonely (2024) by Michal Bisola

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Random thought

♡ I love being alone, i love doing stuff alone. I love going on walks while listening to music. I love watching my favourites shows alone. Sometimes i don't like to hang out with other people, because then i won't be alone. It's not like i dont love my friends and family. I do! I just like being alone with my mind and my own hobbies. I love people, i just wished they could understand me better.

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I really hate when social commentators post about how great marriage is for your personal fulfillment and tell everyone to get married as if it's something people can just drop everything and do, like drink water or go for a run. You can't just tell people to get married. To whom? Not everyone's been asked. Not everyone's in a relationship. Not everyone even knows any good potential partners because they just haven't happened to meet anyone in their neighborhood or school or workplace. But if I say that, I'm just going to be told all the places where I could potentially find someone and given all sorts of advice I don't really want. I don't reply/comment anymore because I don't want to go down that road... because it's just going to be an icky conversation where the other person ends up implying that I have some sort of duty to go out and find someone to marry. Which, when it comes down to it, I don't. There's no law that says I have to marry anyone, ever.

So yeah these kinds of remarks about how it's really important to get married are annoying, because I think they are inappropriate, especially the way they're often phrased, but they don't really have a good response, either. If I name reasons why I'm fine with being unmarried, they'll try to convince me I'm wrong instead of rethinking their blanket assumptions about how everyone should live. If I point out that they're being unfair to people who, through no fault of their own, simply haven't found the right partner, I'll get unsolicited instructions on how to find someone. So I try to ignore this commentary. But it does suck.

#relationships #love #alone not lonely #just saw a post yesterday that was captioned 'get married!'#like it's something you can just DO because someone told you to???

Weird realization.

So I’m lithromantic. Being in [romantic] relationships is traumatizing for me. I’m aegosexual. Putting myself in a real-life sexual situation with another person is incredibly uncomfortable for me. I’m caedplatonic. I don’t really experience platonic attraction to people. Regarding my aesthetic and sensual attraction… I only feel aesthetic attraction to people I basically [idoloize], and I do not feel sensual attraction to ableist people. I think I struggle to feel sensual attraction, honestly.

If you notice, I don’t really have the types of attractions most “allos” have. I in general, don’t really have any kind of “attraction” to other people. I also have a personality disorder, so if I do feel “attraction” (that I am capable of feeling) towards someone, it is usually pretty intense. Also, I don’t really “have” anyone in my life. My friendships usually unfortunately eventually fall apart. It kinda feels I am in an unhealthy and socially dangerous situation by lacking a healthy support system? And also, I don’t really feel a pull towards other in-real-life people? I’ve also been in an autistic burnout for over a year now, so I kinda feel like establishing new connections and maintaining something would be really draining on the minimal executive functioning I do have.

Bottom line is I don’t think I experience “loneliness”, or at least not significantly enough to want to seek out a brand new relationship of some sort? I have also been longing for a snake, however sometimes I have bad days where I feel like I shouldn’t get a snake because I can’t even take care of myself? 😪. Idk it kinda sucks living like this in a perpetual state of not being able to recover from this autistic burnout, or be able to be a functioning member of society, or want to be a participant in society.