#aroaspec

[failedjovi]

About my gender and sexuality:

I've identified as aroace and transman since I was 12 years old. At first, I identified as asexual, and later as asexual and aromantic. I appreciate the beauty of men and male fictional characters, which is why I also label myself as gay. However, I don't have any sexual or romantic desires for anything in real life, so I'm right to identify as aroace gay. I don't know, sometimes I just say I'm aroace

[crowdrinkingcoffee]

being arospec or aspec is trying so hard to find a balance between dismissing both amatonormativity and heteronormativity at the same time, because yeah, it’s somewhat heteronormative to see two characters in a show that are both men kiss and go “they’re just brothers, sometimes family kiss on the lips! they’re just friends! they must be roommates!”, but on the other hand, maybe they are just friends.

maybe kissing doesn’t have to be so inherently romantic. sure, there’s a strong possibility that they’re gay together, but that possibly is never 100% until it’s actually confirmed.

maybe the way they feel about eachother can’t be defined by any word in any language, they just exist in the spaces between, and that’s just as good as romantic love.

maybe, everyone is allowed to have their own idea of what these two fictional characters’ relationship is, and maybe we don’t have to fight about it, maybe we should just live and let live.

oh and by the way, a good way to check for both amatonormativity and heteronormativity at once is to ask “if one of these characters were the opposite gender, would they be shipped with absolute conviction?” and then follow up with “why exactly would that be the answer?”

[softrings]

Uhm. Any other aspecs only okay with seeing suggestive or NSFW stuff through your aspec lens? Like, convincing yourself "this isnt sexual/romantic!" Or "this isn't real", or "this is okay as long as its not ACTUALLY sexual/romantic!" bc... Erm.

[lgbtqiatext]

[its-just-hyper]

It’s that time of year again so I wanted to say, amatonormativity hurts all of us. If you wanna celebrate love today it doesn’t have to be romantic. There’s more to be said and I’ll probably say it later today but for now I’m gonna go eat breakfast

[grayv393]

I forgot how excited I get when I have a crush. Like I’m sitting here giggling and kicking my feet just because I’m going shopping with them

[contradictory-label-culture-is]

happy pride from your ftm butch lesboy gaygirl bi mess thing that is also aroaspec and ambiamorous. lol

Happy pride!! 💫💫

[pokenoire]

i mean this so sincerely when i say that you are the realest pokeani shipper i have ever seen. satosere IS so aroace /gen

THANKS !!!! I'm actually aroace too so it might be partially projection lol anyway, it's just my way of making SereSato-SatoSere more accurate

Ash has always seemed unconventionally attracted to Serena, the fact that he is so polite, kind, friendly and always complimenting everything she does is an indication, even in the beginning when he thanked her. I think people should share more insight into how Ash's love language for her is words of affirmation. He is falling so subtly even though people deny it (his affection for her doesn't necessarily have to be romantic allo)

The fact that Serena waited so long for him without any other crushes on her list gives me a vibe of emotional connection necessary for romance to happen, you see other characters like Tierno, Trevor and Saywer compliment her and even blush for her and try to make advances or compliments, but she is completely invested in the one who made her feel safe, protected, helped, and from the perspective of a neglected child it felt like the first time someone had actually listened to his concerns without brushing her fear a side, that didn't force her to do anything but helped her in her own time and maybe it didn't seem to have much of an impact because it was mentioned once or vaguely in a few episodes later, but to me it's about no one emotionally investing in her like Ash did. that feeling that she wouldn't fall in love with anyone else if that person didn't show that they were totally willing and available to show more than just "oh how beautiful she is" for an indication

Ash barely comments on beauty but seems to be okay with pleasing her and saying sincerely about how happy he is for her in such a genuine way that it works for her as well.

They are each other's light 🩷🥰

Many people say "SatoSere" but SatoSere would be > Ash loves Serena and is investing in feelings

"SereSato" has a more Serena-is-after-Satoshi-love approach as the show establishes this second dynamic more

Amourshipping does not have this separation because the Pokémon fandom culture is different from the others. There is no separation of dynamics so you end up saying everything at once.

You can also add "Amourdreamshipping" (It's on the Wiki as almost Amourshipping which I don't really like using) which is my own version to replace "SereSato" job can be Yuri or Yaoi whatever you want

Usually SereSato is male Satoshi crossdressing x Serena and does not involve Yuri SatoSere SereSato (Most of the Japanese SereSato fans I've met are at least fans of BL ships with Ash so I associate myself more with them than SatoSere fandom they usually draw more straight stuff) but this is my personal experience with the terms (just yesterday one of the people on my tl japanese on X talking about SereSato was a fujoshi as an example lol)

Of course there are factual differences between these two fandons on Anipoke with the 2nd involving more queer content than the 1st but the first option is more about Ash's reciprocal love for Serena if that makes sense