#aspd questions

[aspd-confessions]

Question for pwASPD, do you personally have alexithymia and/or a flat affect?

I have both.

[npd-confessions]

what’s boredom like for you? i know this is probably more related to aspd but ah well. i really don’t know how to phrase this question well but it’s like what does being bored feel like for you and what do you do to stop feeling bored

It feels like actual hell. I have 0 tolerance for boredom

[thehybridsystem]

CALLING PEOPLE WITH ASPD/SEVERE LACK OF EMPATHY!!!

hello! I've realized I literally cannot see my OC having "empathy" outside of (maybe) to avian and 100% to his mother

im thinking of having him have (unkown) ASPD and im currently researching and seeing he has a lot of the traits.

i do not have ASPD and therefore don't know if im showing him in a respectful way.

in the begining he is definitely seen as just an asshole with no empathy but then as he is forced by a god (btw he's still atheist after this) to attempt to cure a zombie it's revealed he has had a hard life and believes this is the only way to survive.

he has zero empathy and lies to him saying he is NOT a zombie and just a victim of war as he doesn't want to deal with potential emotional outbursts.

he remains very logical but over the course of the book he learns how to be gentle

avian (zombie) teaches him he doesn't need to be aggressive or angry to get his point across. he still lacks empathy towards lying though he learns that that isnt something you should do.

he has (and always have had) a strict moral compass, like for instance he (despite growing up in a homophobic cult) stood against the fact the gods hated gay people. though I don't believe that was out of empathy, more out of "this is logically stupid and if you don't believe in my strict set of morals your lesser than me"

like he thinks its morally right to be kind to people, but he also believes you should not feel bad for doing what you need to to survive, and everything he does is to survive and get what he needs.

at the end he falls in love with Avian (they're soulmates) Rowans father then trys to kill Avian but Rowans mother steps in front of the axe. Rowan then kills his father. he feels no remorse for killing his father, just kind of numbness and a new found sense of religion (due to things his father said and did)

that night they both die and Rowan ends up getting fused with the major God of the universe. he now has a even more strict sense of morals as he understands what is logically moral though he still has no remorse. (and also is stubborn and traumatized so he fucks up)

the only time i could see him having remorse is when he is told by onē (the God of the multiverse) tells him he is just a cog in a machine, he plays a very Important role in that machine, but he's still the same as everyone else, then he feels bad for fucking up so badly

i feel as though this is good rep but I'm not antisocial so I can't say!!!

[aspd-confessions]

would it still count as fitting the criteria if i’m not “in trouble” with the law so to say? I have done things that could maybe fit the bill as “law unabiding” but never been in serious trouble for it.

Many pwASPD can avoid breaking the law, though it's common to be in legal trouble, but not a requirement from what I know.

[aspd-confessions]

is it okay if i ask a question? ive tried google and articles but it hasn’t exactly helped

can pwASPD have it just not have a conduct disorder as a minor or is that how you develop it? ive been curious about this, you also don’t have to answer !!

A diagnosis doesn't always say for 100% certainty whether you do or don't have a disorder (ie. someone can have a disorder and not receive a diagnosis due to a number of factors (such as receiving inadequate mental health treatment as a child), or someone can get misdiagnosed). However, to receive a clinical diagnosis of ASPD, you must have a diagnosis (or maybe just documented clinical evidence?) of conduct disorder before age 15.

Typically, if an adult who did not receive a CD diagnosis fits the criteria for ASPD, they'll get "adult antisocial behavior (AAB) without conduct disorder" put on their record. This isn't a formal diagnosis, but it is a marker that warrants special attention and clinical treatment similar to ASPD patients.

(Ps. Conduct disorder, not **a** conduct disorder).

[aspd-confessions]

Does anyone else feel like all their behavior towards another person is manipulative, even if you aren't intending to be manipulative?

Like, I am/was a compulsive liar, and at this point I I'm not sure if what comes out of my mouth will be a lie or not, because truth and lies feel the same. Interchangeable.

Hell, I can basically will myself to believe whatever I am saying whenever I want to make it easier to be convincing.

But I'm trying to get better about it. The problem is that I can't tell the difference between the two anymore, so it's really fucking hard to catch. So now I just always feel like I'm lying.

Sometimes/depends on the person for me.

[aspd-confessions]

Not a confession but just a simple question.

I've seen someone ask if there's any terms for "aspd episodes?" Like how BPD has splitting, euphoria, NPD has crashes and highs, then HPD can have that too I guess? But I didn't know if aspd had any terms? It's just a small curiosity. Anytime I have an episode, I just refer to them as crashouts and call it a day. Do you do similar or is there an actual community term I just don't know about?

I think the only aspd specific term I know are exceptions. It doesn't matter that much though so yeah.

I'm very foggy right now and I can't think of any clinical ones off the top of my head if there is any. I'm sure there's community-made terms though. @npd-confessions might know of some?

[aspd-confessions]

Hello! So I have been for a while questioning if I might have ASPD and I was wondering if understanding friendships as "I want you to give me company/ attention when I talk to you/ To be someone to listen to me/ Make me feel less lonely and lost and in return for this I shall put the effort to return this to you in a equal or similar manner" could be understood as transactional way of perceiving them in a more emotional way than a material one, also when those expectations aren't being met I kinda of loose interested in doing anything with this person or they feel more like a burden that I talk because "Is the only person I put the effort in actually talking and I don't want to do it all over again with someone else " thought

I'd consider this a transactional way of viewing friendship, yes.