#aspec helpdesk

[aro-ace-chaos]

Aspec Helpdesk: Overcoming Internalized Aphobia and Amatonormativity

What is the Aspec Helpdesk?

A common struggle a lot of us face is internalized aphobia and/or internalized amatonormativity. Do you have any advice or resources about how to deconstruct and overcome those?

[aro-ace-chaos]

Introducing: The Aspec Helpdesk!

*Note: Please make sure to check the original post for the latest version before reblogging. This post will be updated frquently!*

Have a random question about being aspec that you want help with? Need advice? Well, I get a lot of asks like this, but I'm not really the most qualified to help in a lot of cases.

My aspec experience is just that: mine. It's limited in scope. I've gotten a lot of great insight from folks all over the a-spectrum, thanks to submissions on @aro-ace-culture-is and a lot of great aspec blogs on this site, but I can't always offer very good help.

For example, I am not someone who would be very good at helping someone figure out if they are demiromantic or demisexual, since I am a rose-averse bold-stripe aroace.

But that's where you come in. I know I have followers who are demiromantic or demisexual who would be of much more help than I am.

So, here's the idea: you submit a topic you want help with (via an ask, dm, a reblog or comment on this post, whatever. You can stay anonymous or attach your name to it). I'll be making some of my own topics, too! Then, when you see a topic you think you can help with, chime in! Provide your thoughts, advice, words of comfort, resources, whatever seems relevant! And I'll have the topics organized in this post, which will be treated as a sort of masterlist. I'll probably reblog a lot of your contributions, too. Please, PLEASE contribute, that's what will make this work!

And I am not limiting this just to folks who are aro and/or ace. Afamilial, aplatonic, asensual, atertiary, aqueerplatonic, etc. folks are all welcome to both ask for help and contribute. Just know that I will have less to say personally about things that don't apply to me.

Masterlist of topics below the cut!

Overcoming Internalized Aphobia and Amatonormativity

Aro/Ace-spec Dating

Media Recommendations

[aro-ace-chaos]

Aspec Helpdesk: Media Recommendations

What is the Aspec Helpdesk?

We all know there aren't enough aroace characters, stories that aren't romance/sex-centric, etc, so let's help each other out discovering new ones!

Do you have any suggestions for stories with characters who are canonically aspec or aspec coded?

Do you have any suggestions for stories that don't have a heavy emphasis on sex/romance?

Do you have any suggestions for TV shows, movies, books, comics, video games, music, etc. that are not amatonormative or are aspec coded?

[aro-ace-chaos]

Aspec Helpdesk: Aro/Ace-spec Dating

What is the Aspec Helpdesk?

While there are lots of aros/aces/aroaces who are nonpartnering, there are also lots who are interested in a relationship, be it romantic, sexual, or queerplatonic.

Do you know of any resources or websites for aro/ace-spec dating? Do you have any advice about finding relationships when aro/ace-spec? Please share!