#be thoughtful

[madamsixx]

Okay, so normally I never write on this platform. I just like to post videos, and pictures, reply to Asks, and message some people.

But I just need to write this because there are some people who I follow on this platform who have written stories. And because a reader disagrees with what was written, they end up insulting the writer.

For me, insulting writers because of a disagreement with a chapter, character, or storyline is just counterproductive and it undermines the creative process. Don't forget that writers pour their hearts and souls into their work, crafting stories that reflect their imagination, experiences, and vision. Yes, readers are entitled to their opinions, but it’s important to distinguish between constructive criticism and outright disrespect. Insults not only hurt the writer but also stifle the creative freedom that allows stories to be diverse and thought-provoking.

Instead of attacking the author, readers should channel their frustration or disagreement into thoughtful commentary on the story itself. Or message the writer politely and have a positive and respectful discussion of what works and what doesn’t if you're unhappy with what was written. It allows for a broader exchange of ideas, with not only the writer but other readers themselves.

Anyone who has seen my comments under their stories knows that whenever I read a story I engage with the story rather than resorting to personal attacks, it fosters a healthier and more constructive dialogue.

And something that some of you ungrateful readers need to remember is that some of these writers use their stories as a way to escape real life and enter a fantasy world for their well-being. Some writers have suffered from abuse in their lives and use writing as a coping mechanism for comfort. And some writers suffer from mental illnesses. What I'm saying is that you don't know what a person is going through or why they're writing.

So if rude readers can't keep their nasty anonymous attacks to themselves they can end up ruining a writer's motivation to write. Which leaves stories unfinished and readers begging for the writer to continue a story. But the writer has every right to refuse because of the way some readers treat them.

Writers grow through feedback, but that growth comes from respect, not hostility.  Focus on the story and maintain a respectful attitude toward the writer.

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[beardedmrbean]

[goodmorninglou]

i feel like a lot of people ask me if being a larry is toxic/disrespectful and i want to clear the air by saying it can be. if the individual is toxic, of course it can be. just like being an anti. just like being an ot5 or a louie or a harrie or whatever. people are not disrespectful simply because they like one thing or another, however, ive seen as many toxic larries as i have antis. it’s not a matter of the topic, it’s a matter of the individual. don’t generalize when you yourself wouldn’t want to be generalized in return.

[genvieve-of-the-wood]

Please Don’t Shop Today or Even This Weekend

So many reasons....

So many.

I worked retail for years. Not always by choice. Sometimes we do what we must to take care of our families. What I hated most was how so many workers were treated, including me. I didn’t expect rainbows and warm fuzzies and neighborly conversation in my job. But I expected civility, respect and goddamn it- some fucking common sense. As the years wore on, I was amazed at the level of rudeness, entitlement and lack of logic in customers. Many were just fine, some even lovely and wonderful people. But some- I wondered who lived with you and did they know what a miserable shitweasel you were to those trying to actually do a good job of customer service. In the end, I was convinced there are people who get off trying to make others miserable in service and hospitality. Are there terrible employees in these industries? Of course there are, just like you have in any profession. But most are just trying to do what they must. Please, if you see douchebaggery to anyone in service, call it out. If you can, avoid the shitty sales that are bait and switch for many retailers. They will have deals after Black Friday, they always do. You are being set up to be manipulated. If you think it’s a limited product, do your homework and just stop expecting magical elves to produce what you want from “ the back” of the store. If it’s gone, don’t give anyone shit about it.. except the MARKETING department of that establishment that didn’t advertise limited quantities. The workers are carrying out corporate demands and if you don’t get your free worth less than a quarter pop culture item that is given to the first 100 shoppers don’t act like a toddler. Don’t yell at random people who don’t make the decisions to run a promotion just to get your bored ass in the door. And don’t tolerate people who act like this. Be kind but do not put up with shitty behavior.

Think.

Think about who, what, why and how you buy your gifts and items.

WHY am I standing in line for a free tote bag and I have NO idea why I bought this thing to get said tote bag...

Who is this for, me, my loved one, a co-worker, my neighbor, etc? Why would I buy THIS for them and is it worth it? Can’t this item wait? Did I put any thought into WHO I am buying for?

HOW will I give them this gift? Am I able to mail this? Can I wrap this or transport it? Will they know HOW to use this once they have it?

WHAT the hell is this thing anyway? What exactly am I buying? Is it worth fighting a crowd to get it? Is it crap? Some people are so happy with just a simple gift card, cash.

STOP just buying shit because someone made a fuss and advertised it on YouTube, television, streaming, newspapers, etc. Calm the fuck DOWN. Make rational decisions about how you want to give a gift and celebrate a holiday.

When the culture of commerce becomes more thoughtful, so do the interactions between buyer and seller. ***If you MUST buy, instead of make a gift, grow a gift, donate a gift, hell- BE a GIFT to someone, please do so with the idea that you can make this a mindful experience, not a capitalist orgy of sticking your card number in numerous places without really knowing why for a fleeting promise of satisfaction.

Local businesses have it very, very rough this year. If they didn’t qualify for government help, if they are still standing, they are not being held up by much. If you can, order online if they have a site or go when it’s not in this frenzy mode. Some of the best gifts I ever found were in farmers’s markets, individual artisans and creators’ pop ups, or just a few miles from my front door from a local small business.

And some of the best gifts I’ve received and given were not for Christmas, Yule, Hanukkah, Valentine’s, Easter or even my birthday- they were JUST BECAUSE I thought of you and why you would love, need or really like this on this random day of the calendar.

*** If you are at home due to quarantine and so are loved ones, if you aren’t having gifts shipped from stores, sites, etc- donate to a charity or cause they love, support or are passionate about. Make a video and get creative and silly. Start seedlings now of plants you can grow indoors or make cuttings of houseplants and send pics of their growth and give when you see them again. Tending a plant for a loved one has made me a better gardener. Give your TIME to someone who is cut off- make a Zoom, FaceTime, etc and just play music, watch a movie, share pics and memories, etc. Do a chore outside weather permitting, for someone who can’t get to it. Read a story to a young one with pictures online if you can’t be with them. Buy pantry items for a meal you know someone likes to make and eat (give them a heads up text first if it’s being delivered so they won’t miss it.) The best gifts are just random bursts of thoughtfulness that can happen any day.

It would be nice to make Black Friday just fade away and not put essential workers through it anymore. Until then, please...pause before you purchase. Don’t feed the idea that THIS weekend is the end all be all of obtaining gifts. Even online. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BUY ANYTHING TODAY!

[debbiescorpio]

[beclynn-herondale]

Maybe this is an unpopular opinion but I wanted to address this.

Also if you are going to comment be nice about it, don't start anything I am not up for it at the moment, we can have a civil talk but I will not argue or fight with you on this. We can find a middle ground and agree to disagree if you don't.

Something that I have been wanting to say is that, I am not like a lot when I read/watch a series I usually like most of the characters maybe not love but like, for me I respect all the differences in the personality and actions all of it. I value them all because every character someone relates to and loves, but there's hate in those tags or rude things said and I think what impact is this having on the people who love this character are they handling it okay? Are they upset? Are they angry? Are they depressed? Are they done? Are they thinking of leaving or giving up?

I want to say you never know what someone is going through and for all you know that character/person/series/book/ship is all that is getting that person through their life right now, and if said person relates to said character that you are putting hate, hurtful, rude things in, is putting more weight on them. Some I get it you say they're fictional for these characters/ships but to some they are not just fictional, for some fictional characters/ships shape some into who they are, gave them the will to keep going when they didn't want to keep going, for some fiction has been there for them more then anyone ever has or when no one was, shaped them into a better person, made them believe in something again.

I also hate it when you label one character one thing and hate them but there's another character pretty much like that but because their sexuality or gender is different well you stan them that makes no sense not calling anyone out or starting hate I am just saying judge on heart not gender, sexuality, etc. It doesn't make sense how one can make a mistake and because of what their sexuality or gender is you don't give them a chance or forgive even though they have improved or changed their actions to be better but if they are another sexuality or gender well it's not a big deal? I don't get that. Or because something wasn't written as well and that's why you don't like said character or series? How does that make the characters less?

I am sick and tired of the conflict and drama and fighting ok. I always say if something bothers you, makes you angry, you don't like it, you get upset or it messes with you stay away don't put hate in there. Also before you make what you think is a joke rethink it it may not be a joke to others. And just because one person did something with said character/ship doesn't mean the character or ship is bad. I feel a lot of time we judge these people, characters, series, ships by their covers and not their hearts or who/what they are.

And something for me when I have a ship I like it doesn't even necessarily have to do with gender or sexuality it has everything to do with their chemistry and personalities, the way they treat each, their love for the other, the way they interact.

Also some don't look as deeply into the characters as others, people miss things with characters all the time but the people who love said characters notice all the little details that a lot hardly pay attention to and miss it.

I'm not saying you have to like or love any of them but respect that to someone the said character/ship/series means to much to someone and is extremely important. HATE AND BULLYING ISN'T AN OPINION, it's not and it often gets passed off as such.

this also goes for content be kind to content creators they work their asses off and what they create can take days, weeks, months and sometimes years it's not cool to hate on it.

I don't mean any of this aggressively or rudely if it comes off that way it is not meant to be that way. Please also understand you don't have to agree but at least think about it, you could make someone's day by just being kind and respecting them or something they like. There are kind ways to say you don't like someone or something.

I guess what I am saying is be kinder even if it's just change a word you were going to say or a comment, maybe take a step back and think it through, is this kind/nice? Will this be taken a different way? Will this upset/hurt someone? Am I in the right mindset at the moment? Am I letting my emotions get the better in this moment? Could this have lasting effects on someone? Could this cause someone to quit? Could this push someone over the edge? Etc.

[brokenheartsandtwistedminds757]