#being aroace

[spinyspinosaurus]

being aroace is so lonely, not in lacking a romantic or intimate partner, but lacking an experience most people you interact with can relate to

[symyne]

happy pride to our favorite girl

spoiler !!!

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[andromaex]

i keep having these incredibly perfect opportunities to come out as aroace.

dad: don't go out with boys.

me, holding the most conversational ace of spades imaginable: trust me. that is literally not going to be an issue.

and every single time i just smile and say okay.

because i know exactly what would happen. it wouldn't become "thanks for trusting us with that." it'd become the newest exhibit in the family museum of Things Wrong With You.

"see? we always knew there was something missing."

"that's why you're so cold."

"that's why you don't care about people."

i'm already the "loveless" one in their eyes. why would i hand them a word they'd use as a weapon every time i don't react the way they want?

so i just smile and change the subject because coming out is supposed to feel like taking off a backpack full of bricks, not passing your parents a new brick to hit you with.

[untouchedbycupid]

hi. welcome to whatever this blog is going to become.

i’m aroace, and after spending years feeling like i was standing slightly outside of conversations about love, attraction, relationships, and even queerness itself, i finally decided i wanted a space dedicated to people like me.

this blog is going to be for, aroace culture, memes, identity discussions, queerplatonic relationships, late-night existential thoughts, joy, anger. community, the weird loneliness that comes with being told your experiences are “just friendship”, and the even weirder relief of realizing there are other people who feel the exact same way.

being aroace can feel strange sometimes because the world is built around romance and sex in ways people don’t even notice. songs, movies, books, family expectations, conversations with friends — it’s everywhere. people act like romantic attraction is universal, like everyone is moving toward the same ending, and if you aren’t, then something must be wrong with you.

except there isn’t.

there is nothing wrong with building your life differently.

there is nothing wrong with not wanting romance. there is nothing wrong with not experiencing sexual attraction. there is nothing wrong with valuing friendship as deeply as other people value romance. there is nothing wrong with not fitting into the story people expected you to tell.

i think a lot of aroace people grow up trying to force themselves into narratives that were never made for them. i know i did. you convince yourself that eventually it’ll “click.” eventually you’ll meet the right person. eventually you’ll understand what everyone else is talking about.

and sometimes you realize the reason it never clicked is because you were never broken in the first place. you were just trying to read from the wrong script.

anyway. this blog is not going to be all doom and existentialism. i also want this to be a place for happiness because being aroace is not inherently sad. there is so much joy in platonic love. in friendship. in community. in knowing yourself. in realizing your future does not have to look traditional in order to be meaningful.

also there will absolutely be garlic bread jokes here. i do not make the rules.

if you’re aroace, aro-spec, ace-spec, questioning, confused, or just here because you relate somehow: welcome. i hope this blog makes you feel a little less alone. ♡

[nom-de-pluma]

And just like that, Lilith became my favorite Clawthorne.

[strawberri-syrup]

watching a video essay on the decline on queer media because of pandering to straight audiences and i am thinking about how i will most likely never see myself fully represented in mainsteam media because an aroace main chatacter fundamentally isnt marketable. so much of what media is and how people interact with it online is shiping. which is fine! but when you have a character that cannot be shipped in a traditional sense that means there’s less appeal and that sucks actually

[we-r-loonies]

um what if regulus moved to england from france (when he ditched the family company) and james lives in the flat opposite him and they fall in love in a very hallmark film way