No Romo, No Problemo

[untouchedbycupid]

hi. welcome to whatever this blog is going to become.

i’m aroace, and after spending years feeling like i was standing slightly outside of conversations about love, attraction, relationships, and even queerness itself, i finally decided i wanted a space dedicated to people like me.

this blog is going to be for, aroace culture, memes, identity discussions, queerplatonic relationships, late-night existential thoughts, joy, anger. community, the weird loneliness that comes with being told your experiences are “just friendship”, and the even weirder relief of realizing there are other people who feel the exact same way.

being aroace can feel strange sometimes because the world is built around romance and sex in ways people don’t even notice. songs, movies, books, family expectations, conversations with friends — it’s everywhere. people act like romantic attraction is universal, like everyone is moving toward the same ending, and if you aren’t, then something must be wrong with you.

except there isn’t.

there is nothing wrong with building your life differently.

there is nothing wrong with not wanting romance. there is nothing wrong with not experiencing sexual attraction. there is nothing wrong with valuing friendship as deeply as other people value romance. there is nothing wrong with not fitting into the story people expected you to tell.

i think a lot of aroace people grow up trying to force themselves into narratives that were never made for them. i know i did. you convince yourself that eventually it’ll “click.” eventually you’ll meet the right person. eventually you’ll understand what everyone else is talking about.

and sometimes you realize the reason it never clicked is because you were never broken in the first place. you were just trying to read from the wrong script.

anyway. this blog is not going to be all doom and existentialism. i also want this to be a place for happiness because being aroace is not inherently sad. there is so much joy in platonic love. in friendship. in community. in knowing yourself. in realizing your future does not have to look traditional in order to be meaningful.

also there will absolutely be garlic bread jokes here. i do not make the rules.

if you’re aroace, aro-spec, ace-spec, questioning, confused, or just here because you relate somehow: welcome. i hope this blog makes you feel a little less alone. ♡

[thedaygoesupinflames]

look im not saying aromanticism makes characters more interesting automatically but yeah no thats exactly what im saying

[aroarolibrary]

Welp, you all won’t believe what I stayed up to 2 am working on!

Anyway, have an aroace themed Project Hail Mary cover. I tried to keep a good chunk of the OG cover design (because I actually really like it) and just added in some fun additions to it~

Maybe one day I’ll actually be able to learn some book binding and actually put this on the book 😆. Hopes and dreams.

[biornicles]

fun fact "a-spec people can still feel love even if it's different from what amatonormative society considers love" and "some people don't experience love at all and that's fine and doesn't make them any less human or worthy of respect" are two statements that can and do coexist

[child--ish]

being aroace is a little sad sometimes because wdym everyone is so, so, so pretty but you can never appreciate it the same way they do, and most times, they don't even see it?

i have never seen a 'truly' ugly person. i have never met a mediocre one, as well. why am i forced to be a dejected observer of beauty when in the museum of mirrors, of windows, people never see the muse?

and it does and will sound hollow aloud, and some beauty does take a little, or even a while, to notice. it doesn't mean it's not there. do all paintings get appreciated on the first look? do all paintings get analyzed on the first look, too? the meaning doesn't get worn out of the canvas if you don't notice it.

you're all so, so handsome.

[brilliantsmiles]

I hate when someone gives me a look of pity when I tell them that I have no plans to marry or date. Like I wasn’t upset about it before but now you’re making me feel like I should be

[pleasantpostpeanut]

Because it still bothers me that people use A-spec like it only means asexual, here’s a list of all the identities under the a-spec umbrella. If I missed one, please tell me and I’ll add it.

A-spec stands for:

Anattractional

Aromantic 

Asexual

Alove

Agender

Aplatonic

Afamilial 

Asensual

Aphysical

Analterous

Aemotional

Anaesthetic

Aqueerplatonic

And any combination of the above

[aldred-reads-writes]

Have some angels and a very nice day :)

[itsybitsybatsyspider]

[depressedcryptographer]

Asking for touch as an aspec is so weird like “hey, please touch me, but not in a sex/romance way, just in a human contact way. Interact with my body’s touchscreens. Punch me in the face or something. Please. I’ll take anything at this point.”

Edit: of course everyone here has blanket permission to tag this as Blorbo from their Shows. We love seeing representation, implicit or explicit.

[rabbitheatedgrrrl]

Not wanting to have sex is NOT a problem. It doesn’t matter if you are asexual or allo, there is nothing wrong with not wanting sex. It’s just an activity. That’d be like saying that if you don’t like soccer, you need to go to soccer therapy to figure out why you dislike it and figure out how to like it because it’s for your own good. See how ridiculous that sounds? IT IS OK TO NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX AND IT IS NOT SOMETHING THAT NEEDS TO BE FIXED!!!!!!

[hanalia1257]

Me to my family

[whimsy-on-the-moon]

All ships are better when you make them weird and aromantic about it I fear