Jeremy and Jean are private when it comes to their sex life, except for a cheeky joke here and there among their close friends. But the topic does tend to come up when they're out and about with strangers and acquaintances, particularly in queer spaces where people are more open to explicit conversations.
In such situations, Jean more often than not gets designated as the "top" in his and Jeremy's relationship. People take a look at him — tall, large, broody — and it becomes a matter of fact to throw the label around. The opposite happens to Jeremy, whose smaller body and sunshine demeanor earns him the "bottom" role in people's minds.
Neither of them corrects the assumptions. In Jean's eyes, it's Jeremy's and his life, and no one is entitled to what goes on inside the privacy of their bedroom. Jeremy doesn't care about it — as biased and sometimes insensitive as it might be, it has been mostly harmless. (Of course, homophobic people do try to use it against them, but that is an entirely different situation than a gay man asking Jeremy about how he found a boyfriend who is a top.) In other words, "let them think what they want" is the mentality they've kept since the first time it happened.
No one but them needs to know how Jean unravels under Jeremy's hands, how much he yearns to be filled by him. Nor how Jeremy never quite knew pleasure like the one he feels when he satisfies Jean — how an orgasm by his hand, or with Jean over him, is amazing of course, but the high he gets when it's intertwined with giving Jean exactly what he wants? Unraveling his lover in the exact way he asks? It's like every sensation multiplied over.
And, of course, they weren't there to see how they fought to get to this point — the demons of their past haunting every step they took, still showing their ugly teeth sometimes, even now. But they learned to fight them.
So yeah, let them all believe the big, grumpy guy is the top and the California boy with the thousand-sun smile is the bottom, if that helps them sleep at night. Meanwhile, Jeremy is folding Jean in half and making him blush so hard he has to hide his face in the pillow, as Jeremy looks at him like he's his whole universe.
