#boundary violations

[niggadiffusion]

My Experience with Boundary DisrespectLowkey Last Nerve | For the Tired & Fed Up. Over It.

I’ve been through enough in my life to know when I need to set a boundary. It’s not about being “too much” or “too sensitive”; it’s about self-preservation. The problem comes when people think those lines don’t matter, that they can waltz right over them like it’s no big deal. Let me tell you about the time Roman and Phil thought my boundaries were just suggestions, and how that shit shook…

My Experience with Boundary DisrespectLowkey Last Nerve | For the Tired & Fed Up. Over It.

[bipolarblogss]

[conscious-love]

Boundary Violations within Intimate Relationships

They are violating your boundaries if they:

try to pressure you into doing things

text/call/visit you when you told them not to

call/visit at late hours when you’ve asked them not to do so

show up at your work unannounced and/or without permission

interact with your kids/family/friends before you’ve told them they can

call you pet names they know you dislike

bring over food you’re allergic to, or bring food you’ve told them you dislike (and don’t bring anything else)

continue to hug/touch/tickle you after you’ve told them to stop (or tickle you even though you told them you don’t want/like to be tickled)

don’t listen when you ask for time alone

share photos of you online or with friends/family without asking

share your confidential information (stories you told them, medical history, phone number, address, etc.)

use your things without permission

invite people to your place without permission

read your journal/diary (physical or virtual)

go through your texts, calls or social media, listen in on your phone calls or conversations

record you without your knowledge (exception: to obtain proof of abuse)

give unsolicited advice

criticize or psychoanalyze you

interrupt you while you’re talking (often)

act like you’re their therapist (vent to you without asking)

smoke in front of you without asking if you’re okay with it, or do so even after you’ve asked them not to

expect you to do things that contradict your faith or values

do things that violate your faith

repeatedly show up late or cancel last minute

cheat on you

♡ Bella Love ☆

[michellemiyagi]

Adult Children of Narcissists

Adult Children of Narcissists

If you’ve grown up in a dysfunctional, or abusive environment, you may have been treated as something to be coerced and controlled. Your needs wants and feelings may have been invalidated, shut down, and denied. Or you may have been reprimanded for not behaving or feeling what others thought you should. You were caught in unpredictable, no-win situations, leaving you powerless. You probably tried…

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[trytobreatheandletgo]

IF A GUY IS TREATING YOU LIKE HE DOESN'T GIVE A SHIT, HE GENUINELY DOESN'T GIVE A SHIT.

Truer words were never spoken. If hes cheating, hes giving you the biggest sign ever of just what he thinks of you.

Mistakes are made. Some people are weak, morally. What are your boundaries? What do you want for your life? Would you rather be alone than have to wonder what hes always doing because he broke trust?

Its the toughest decision to make. Some people come back from an affair. So they say, but do they? If they do, they are the exception not the rule. The cheater has to really sacrifice to prove to their spouse that it was a one time thing and a mistake. But its human nature to always have doubt. I can never again fully trust my CH. I will always question whats happening, what his motives are. Is he telling the truth or not?

Only you can decide...

[conscious-love]

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[iliiuan]

This woman at crafting group the other day completely violated my physical space boundaries, didn't take a direct "I don't want to talk about that," continued oversharing gross medical stuff, AND THEN SHE FUCKING TOUCHED ME. So I stood up and told her that I go to crafting group to escape that, I have a three-year-old at home. Which, in retrospect was a sick fucking burn.

So she goes off to socialize with someone else, I sit back down to continue my crafting project. After awhile, she returns and apologizes. I said, "I appreciate your apology..." AND THEN SHE CUT ME OFF to say some other bullshit that I don't even remember. AND THEN SHE FUCKING TOUCHED ME AGAIN. Which made me glad that I didn't fucking accept her apology. (You'll note "I appreciate" is not the same as "I accept.")

So anyways. Now I've had three days of intrusive thoughts, anxiety dreams, and general grumpiness. Fun week I'm having.

Don't fucking touch other people without their express permission. Keep your gross medical bullshit to yourself, especially in mixed company. Stay out of other people's space bubbles. These are like basic, basic social standards. I clocked this woman as childish the first time she spoke, and friends, I was Correct. I'll be staying on the opposite side of the room from her moving forward.

[michellemiyagi]

Emotional Boundaries

You have a right to feel and express your emotions healthily. We are each responsible for our own emotions, processing them, and expressing them appropriately. No one may tell us how we should feel, or that we’re wrong for our feelings, or that we don’t really feel that way, that they know the actual reasons for our emotions, that they know us better than ourselves. We are the only ones that…

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