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Deadbeat dads love abortion. Don’t let men pressure you to kill their offspring so that they don’t have to take care of their responsibilities by being fathers or paying child-support. Fight the patriarchy!

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Why Abortion is a Tool of the Patriarchy

Men often pressure, force, or coerce women into abortions. They threaten us into it or otherwise try and manipulate us. Men (not all but too many to not talk about) use abortion as a way to use women as reusable and disposable sex objects so that they can have sex with them all they want without having to take care of their responsibilities. There are even movements called "bro-choice" and “men for choice” that ironically point this out, with "bros" talking about how abortion is good for them specifically because of that reasoning....and somehow the “no uterus no opinion” idea conveniently doesn’t apply to “pro-choice” men. It treats our bodies as garbage disposals; as in, what you put into us can just be chopped up into little bits and the bloody mess taken out so that you can use us over and over again. Abortion is a deadbeat dad's favorite thing. Rapists use it to continue to rape and control their victims, as it gets rid of the “evidence” (not only DNA evidence to prove he was the rapist on trial, but suddenly having a child is evidence that she is being raped to everyone around her as well) and thus they can get away with raping her for longer, and pressuring her to abort is another way to control her too. This happens with standard rape and statutory rape as well, and some abortion clinics have even lied about the age of statutory rape victims or didn’t contact social services when she comes in with an older man, so that they can give underage girls abortions. Alice Paul, the feminist who created the Equal Rights Amendment act (ERA) has stated, “Abortion is the ultimate exploitation of women.”  There are so many ways in which that rings true. Men also have killed many women for not aborting, or otherwise harmed them by throwing them down stairs etc. to try and cause a miscarriage, or slipped them the abortion pill without them knowing it. Without men and the patriarchy, abortion wouldn't exist. Not only that but it was the men of NARAL who sold abortion to feminists and the world in the late 1960s by making up lies. One of those men, the abortion doctor Bernard Nathanson, flat-out admitted that they lied. And it was men who were the ones to vote on Roe V Wade and men have always been the abortion doctors, and prey on women by telling them that their children are not children but clumps of cells etc., so that they can get their abortion dollars. Some of them have admitted they make lots of money from abortion. Also, male bosses make women feel like they can't be mothers while working and that abortion is what they should choose, which is just another way to coerce. Same with being single or poor or going to school or what have you. Women get abortions because of the mother shaming society we live in making them feel like they have no other choice. If men could get pregnant, abortion wouldn't exist, because people don't tell men that they can't be career men and fathers at the same time yet women get constantly told that we can't be career women and mothers at the same time so abortion is necessary for our success. This is one of those tactics that those men from NARAL used to get support for abortion. It's just sad that it worked. The abortion-and-pro-choice-industry tells us that the wombless male body is normative and that in order to have equal rights to men and compete in a male-dominated world, we need have abortion so that we aren't "bothered" and "bothering them" with the concept of having children. Instead of raising women to the equal rights level of men as we are, we are taught to get rid of what makes us uniquely female because it is a "burden", and that we should lower ourselves to what we deem as the worst kind of men--deadbeat dads. Instead, we should be empowering pregnant and parenting women, and telling them we CAN do it. You CAN be pregnant or a mother while going to school, you CAN be pregnant or a mother while working, you CAN be pregnant or a mother while a teenager, you CAN be pregnant or a mother while single, and you CAN be pregnant or a mother while poor. Rosie the riveter is a great example of the "yes we can" concept yet somehow when it comes to pregnancy we have turned it into "No you can't, have an abortion." Having kids does not mean you have to give up a life worth living, yet that is what the abortion industry wants us to believe, but it goes against everything feminism stands for. There are many women who regret their abortions, and have depression from it, PTSD from it, suicidal tendencies from it, or have actually killed themselves from it. You can find their videos on youtube or their stories in writing, just by looking up "I regret my abortion" or "abortion regret" on google or youtube. Because women are basically told in various ways that we have no other choice to abort yet people turn around and say it is somehow “our choice” when debating abortion, we are the ones who end up as the scapegoats and thus have to deal with all the heaviest feelings from it. We are told we can’t regret it because it was “our choice” despite the fact that we choose it because we are told we have no choice. The men who pressure us into it get out without having to deal with it because it reinforces old-fashioned stereotypes that anything having to do with babies is “women’s work.” There are so many women who feel this way that there are endless amounts of organizations around to help women with post-abortive regret, which wouldn't be able to be around if women never regretted it, yet these women constantly get ignored so that the abortion industry can act like women rarely regret it to keep women supporting pro-choice politicians and coming into the abortion clinics and giving them their hundreds of dollars for each abortion. Women's voices of regret are being swept under the rug like crazy. That is what misogyny looks like. Although not all men do the things I am describing in this article, and in fact abortion can hurt men and make them regret lost fatherhood just like many women regret their abortions as well, it still happens far too much. Also, it truly shows we are oppressed when people act like somehow we need to have a right to treat our children the way we have been treated by men, by oppressing them and treating them as our property to be disposed of as we see fit, and instead of giving us actual help for our situations. Offering abortion is an easy way for people to blow off our problems and act like they helped us. An abortion doesn't make a poor woman not poor or a raped woman un-raped or an abused woman not abused etc., it just throws women right back into these situations after she leaves the clinic. All it gives her is a dead child on top of the problems she has, it doesn't help the problem at all. It doesn't solve the root problem. On top of all of that, sex selective abortion kills females in the womb just for being females because people want sons. This happens in various countries including our own but in the ones where it is most prevalent, there is a gap between the amount of men and women, as a decent chunk of women were killed in the womb. Pro-lifers believe in women's rights, we just go one step further and say that ALL women should have rights, not just the born ones, for we truly don't have rights if they don't start when we first exist.  Women deserve better than all of this. We deserve better than being given a bad choice that no one really wants and we basically just choose because we are told we need to choose it. No woman walks into an abortion clinic happy to do it. This is something that both pro-choicers and pro-lifers agree on. We just need to understand that that horrible choice that no one likes or really wants shouldn't be held up as an example of wonderful women's rights. It's something that comes from our oppression and is something we should always be fighting to end, because it hurts us too. All of these things are why when I was 14 and found out what abortion was, I was pro-life *on the specific basis* that I am a liberal feminist. I started off by having many feminist reasons to be against abortion before I could even know the politicizing strategies of each side. And when I started to hear the stereotypes that abortion was supported by feminists and opposed by those who aren't, I automatically assumed people were joking, because that would never make any sense. Abortion is pure violence, on our children and us. It would never fit in with feminism. It is just more evidence that we are oppressed. For more information on Pro-Life feminism, google or facebook search (or enter in the websites of) the organizations: Feminists for Life : http://www.feministsforlife.org/ Feminists for Nonviolent Choices : http://www.ffnvc.org/ New Wave Feminists: https://www.newwavefeminists.com/ Feminists Choosing Life of New York Action:  https://www.fclnyact.org/ and Pro-Life Feminists:  https://prolifefeminists.wordpress.com/

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FF2014 - ‘Bros Before Hos’ - movie review

FF2014 – ‘Bros Before Hos’ – movie review

Who knew that the Netherlands were so keen on the American culture that they could execute a concept better than we could imagine. One parts CLERKS, mixed with two parts THE RINGER, add a dash of every stoner movie in the 2000’s and ladies and gentlemen you have Steffan Haars and Flip Van der Kuil, BRO’S BEFORE HO’S. Winning awards for best comedy feature at FF, it’s a no brainer when you see…

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The Male Pro-Life Perspective

by Jack N.

As my first blog post of the summer, I figured I should take a bit of a step back. I was recently asked the question: As a man, why do you think you have any right at all to speak on this issue that primarily affects women?

This is not a new question. It is not one that I am unfamiliar with. But I think it deserves dealing with formally. And, as a male co-president of a pro-life group it is one that is important to answer.

Primarily, the reason I feel able to be involved in the pro-life movement stems from the idea that I don’t view this solely as a women’s issue. Of course it is a women’s issue. However, it also a distinctly human issue. Children of unwanted pregnancies are both male and female, and, moreover, there has never been a baby in the history of world that did not start off with two parents: one male, and one female. In the same sense then, crisis pregnancies often involve two scared young people, not just one, a new father as much as a new mother. This solidifies two things for me:

That men can be, and are, negatively impacted by abortion, differently but just as painfully as women.

Men, whose girlfriends, wives, lovers, abort their children, are as much parents as their female partners. They lose a unique part of themselves when their child is aborted. They feel guilt in a far different way than their female partners, but they are crippled and broken by it to the same degree.

That even with male involvement in the creation of a new life, so often women are left to deal with that burden completely alone.

Conversely, as men can be and are affected by abortion, we also help cause it. We are flakes. We are unfaithful, bullying, manipulative, disrespectful, entitled, controlling. Not all of us are this mind you, but enough are, that too many women see no other option than to abort their child. No, of course men are not the only reason for women aborting their children. But, when we refuse to fulfill the financial, physical and paternal obligations of fatherhood mandated by the equal part in the creation of their child, it often leaves women with no visible choice than to save herself the financial, emotional, and physical burden of raising a child without the support of the child’s father. This lack of support can be construed in one of three ways: by men who simply flee responsibility, leaving their significant other alone with the burden of an unplanned pregnancy and imminent child; by men who stay, but abuse, bully and manipulate their significant other into abortion instead, and in a far subtler and insidious way, by men who support abortion because they believe that women need it. This “bro-choice” mentality, while construed as a way for men to be more respectful toward women, in reality, makes it more impossible. Men who clamor for abortion on demand, regardless of intention, do nothing but enable an oppressive system. If women are unexpectedly and unintentionally impregnated, and are pressured by both the accessibility of abortion and by their significant others to procure an abortion, what possibly would work to dissuade them? Moral intention, you say? Guilt? Maybe. But I have a hard time believing that even the most sincerely well-intentioned woman will hold up against the pressures of a boyfriend and the system. Some do. But too many don’t. “But, but,” the “bro-choice” men clamor, “we press for abortion on demand so women who need it can have it! We would never pressure women into something they did not want, would never force them to abort.” This is well intentioned, but I refuse, in fact am unable, to see support of abortion as synonymous with support of women. Abortion, as an institution, provides a tunnel visioned, dichotic path for women in desperate situations. Pregnancy, regardless of its circumstances, is a biological, emotional, and physical roller coaster. It is always life altering, intended or no, and so it seems woefully inadequate to view abortion as a single, overarching solution to the transformative and nuanced burden of a pregnancy.  Furthermore, it opens the door for those men who are not well intentioned to get out of jail free. It allows them to use women for sex, and to not worry about the consequences because they have the “easy fix” of abortion as their ultimate backup.  This bro-choice mentality, in a way then, enables the other two forms of male non-support too. For the deserters, it ensures that their “mistake” is taken care of, and, for the abusers, it provides them with an accessible way to pressure their significant other. This, is the furthest thing from support.

In the end, I hope and imagine that while a woman may wish circumstances were different, when faced with the actual termination of the developing life within her, there is no real part of her that actively wants to end the life of her child. The maternal instinct is a wonderful and powerful thing. It reshapes a life, and guides it during the entire pregnancy and beyond. This maternal instinct drives mothers out of bed at every hour of the night to ward off nightmares and comfort in illness. It patches scraped knees, and works long horrible hours to support her child, one that was not wanted or expected but is here, and is loved. This maternal instinct, this maternal love, has driven and emboldened single mothers against all odds, through difficulty and despair, to raise children that have changed the world.

I am not trying to talk down the pain and hardship of single motherhood. I am not proposing that abortion simply be banished while the external societal problems surrounding single motherhood be ignored. I think it is hypocritical and ineffective to outlaw or limit the institution of abortion on any sort of moral ground without simultaneously working to fix the societal problems that make it a necessity in the eyes of so many. No. What I am simply describing is that clearly the option of giving birth to a unique,  loved, child—even in a non-ideal circumstance—is a better option than smothering that spark of maternal instinct and love at its source. I think it is far more supportive to give women the credit and understanding that in an ideal world they want to raise and support their children or at the very least want life for their children. Then, with this understanding, one must work toward making that ideal world as much of a reality as possible. To me, the idea of unrestricted abortion services, and the support of those services by men specifically is defeatist at its tamest, and degrading at its worst. It is giving up both the respect and support of the idea that women have the capacity and the desire to love and support their children, and it predicates a system of manipulation, death, and false choice.

Men who support abortion, support the inversion and invalidation of fatherhood too. What it means to be a father starts and ends with being a respectful, equal member of a parental union. The male presence in a pregnancy is to be the supporter, the comforter, the enabler of both the life of his significant other, and his child. By supporting abortion men negate their fatherhood. We limit ourselves personally, and in this, we hurt the world. There is already such a dearth of fathers with the children that are allowed to be born. I can’t help but think that this, at least in part, is due to the idea that men are not worthy to be equal partners of women in the process of a pregnancy. In most cases, an unintended pregnancy is a joint mistake: consensual sex leading to a pregnancy. If the issue immediately becomes the woman’s, both to raise and to abort, what use are fathers anyway?

So no, I cannot bear children. I will never have to go through the physical strain of bearing a child. However, this fact does not mean that I cannot support those who are able to. I do not believe that my aversion to abortion is indication that I wish to control women sexually or physically. I simply think that supporting abortion serves to perpetuate a widening disconnect between men and women and a widening disconnect between men and children. I am pro-life because I support the idea that women are strong, independent, worthy beings, who are able to overcome unwanted pregnancies, but are also only able to do that with the social, emotional, and financial support of those around her. I support the idea that men and women can be collaborators, that women are unique and remarkable but are not unapproachable, and regardless of the real and distinctly feminine problems facing women, we all are ultimately served far better if women are not simply, “out of necessity” provided abortion as the miracle fix.

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So basically he's making this video sarcastically to make pro-choice people look immoral. Douche.