At the risk of sounding like those white girls with cutsey anime pics who try to make their blogs as “kawaii” as possible when they’re really just racist I genuinely fucking hate the pet names we have today. I can’t stand “bae” “boo” or “shawty” and to an extent “babe” because that seems like the only thing anyone calls each other nowadays and I hate it and get the immediate ick when someone refers to me like this like actually sick to my stomach. Maybe because I haven’t heard them spoken genuinely yet, maybe it’s just me, but whenever someone calls me these I have the immediate urge to ghost them but I also hate them calling me by my name because it just sounds boring and grating
Kind of figured this out whenever I was watching Star Trek and Leonard McCoy always refers to whatever woman he’s flirting with as “my dear” and I thought “I actually love that I wouldn’t mind that” but deadass imagine a Gen Z man calling you “my dear” and it not sounding anything other than cringy or neckbeardy so even if I get the pet name that I want I’m still gonna be unhappy because “my dear” doesn’t sound as charming IRL from a man around your age and it’s creepy when it’s an older man that isn’t Leonard McCoy because it just feels off and imagine asking someone to call you that it would fucking feel weird
I like how Dear sounds, I like how it feels, I wouldn’t mind anyone calling me, sometimes I listen to Otto and Arora audios and think “aww I wouldn’t mind that” but then it feels like a name reserved for a couple that’s been together forever so it would just feel awkward having someone around your age call you that and it feels weird when it’s someone older than you because it feels like “aww I’m grandbaby” no matter what.
I don’t know I’m frustrated about this and it makes me feel like it’s making my relationship issues worse and it’s why I have trouble dating or pursuing romance because of my weird expectations that I can’t control











