#clatterandclank

[dandelionchild]

Hi! Just sent you a link to download Resistance in kindle format through your submissions box. Let me know if you have any issues!

it worked great! i also read it in like a day and loved it. thank you so much!!!

everyone should buy resistance by b.r. sanders it is quite good and only 5 dollars on kindle and has queer and non monogamous characters. just do it.

[hunterbadger]

friends

it is a wonderful day

a shiba just walked by my window

i presented my master's research to a small group of friendly faces, looking cute as hell, and Officially Met A  Program Requirement

i have managed to not get rained or snowed on, though both have happened, through my very sneaky timing in walking between places

and i get to go see bee and sam & co in denver for ELEVAN DAYZ

all my life misery has just fucked right off

[hunterbadger]

not to be that asshole

but

im drunk and it's late and

i'm super excited to see BOTH of my partners this week after weeks and weeks away

also, sidenote, i just bit myself really a little too hard because i'm crazy excited 

and fairly drunk and otherwise smokily intoxicaet

i also lost my keys (they're probably in my friend's house or other friend's car, nbd, s'cool)

this is why i don't drink much anymore, crazy things like this always happen, i've spent more time than i want to explaining why i don't want to date white men (it's the privilege, bro)

bee. i love you. and i am going to swallow you fucking whole. and it is going to be a glorious ouroboros of lavahotlove. fyi. <3 THIS MOTHERFUCKING WEEK. MERE DAYS UNTIL I GET TO TOUCH YR MORE-PERFECT-THAN-CARLOS FAAAAAAAAACE. 

i'ma get gross but i gotta be real: i'm insanely excited to get a 9-5 for a coupla years and be just stoked to leave work at work and come home to my fuckin family. as someone who never conretely imagined herself comcretely partnered, it's been a big, awesome, expansove shift. i can't imagone my future withour it being orgnaized around bee and our family. i always predicted i would be child free by choice, and, so much for that, i met bee when they were two months pregnant and their daughter zadie is two and a half now and said my name for the first time on skype a few weeks ago and it fucking mattered in ways that i haven't understood before. my heart knows this is the most right thing i could ever do. build a new lift, in a new way, with new people, in a new place. 

i came into grad school, then conceptualized my alt-ac career, in very precise and individualistic ways that were simply not compatible with falling in love-of-my-life love, especially as a package deal (all told, my partner's in-home family includes child, husband ['dada'], my partner ['baba,' a parental term for my partner that this BRILLIANT CHILD is alreadu generalizing to transmasculine people in general, omg, three-gender baby with no personal gender referent, livinb hte fucking dreram]), and third co-partner ['mama'])

it's incredibly ideal and very aligned with my values

i don't feel like i'm making any sacrifices; once i relinquished my rigid expectations of moving back to the bay area (not feasible), everything has felt really easy and right, and i'm narrowing down the field of jobs i'll be applying for, and i feel really secure about my preparation

i never thought that i would end up in a situation like this, but i am overwhelmingly grateful that i have. 

okay. this needs edits so we'll see if i publish.

ETA: this got queued on accident, so i wrote it like a month ago (thanks drunk hunter) but of course i mean every word~

[hunterbadger]

If you don’t mind, share 10 facts about yourself, then send this to your ten favorite followers

- kittysense (the furious crying murderkitty)

(sorry if i forgot to tag anyone, it's a wake n bake morning)

1. i'm really excited that Daughter Selkie is getting reblogged. i was really frustrated and blocked that day (week) so i just tore it out so be fucking done with it. i feel much better now and i'm glad that it's been giving the feels.

2. i am DYING because i get to see my partner clatterandclank TOMORROW and HUG THEM LIKE A STARFISH FOREVER and put THEIR FACE all up on MY FACE and *omg flail*

3. i am like, sam winchester level proud of my sass for pranking jewdough this morning (evidence a few posts down)

4. today, i'm going to work on preparing a draft of my master's thesis, so i can publish it and be done with it and FOCIS on my dissertation and GTFO and go be with clatterandclank forever because i lahhhhve them

5. i've discovered three new sex positions in the last three months. (new to me, at least.)

6. i love personality inventories. here are a few of mine: INTJ, slytherin, chaotic good, pisces, strenghtsfinder top 5 are input-strategic-command-futuristic-ideation, and i always love to talk about them and learn about new ones so LET'S GAB if you wanna.

7. maybe this isn't surprising given that i'm a personality psych ph.d. and my favorite character is sherlock holmes (across iterations), but i LOVE puzzling out the internal mechanics of people in my life. i love y'all as people and also as RICH SOURCES OF DELICIOUS DATA

8. i write fanfiction that i don't want associated with my proper identity, and depicting acts that i would not even enjoy actually watching, much less participating in.

9. the book i'm writing for musingsdeme will be even darker than the porn, because the psychological dynamics are better-developed and crueler.

10. uh i guess since a lot of these were pretty negative we will end on a socially acceptable note: i am a huge softie. i am also a total fucking badass, but damn, if i care about you, i will fucking hustle to let you know i care. i'm also a softie on a larger scale: i am super affected by the bad things in the world - it's almost like i take them personally, or my compassion is painful. my sources of news are my peers (tumblr, facebook, links) because i can't handle more than that without getting depressed. i had a lil breakdown when there was some racist/sexist/queer&transphobic vandalism on my campus last year, and it wasn't even my building, but it hurt me to feel unsafe and to know that so many other people felt even more unsafe.

:/

okay so much for ending on a lighter note, ilu all~

[kittysense]

If you don’t mind, share 10 facts about yourself, then send this to your ten favorite followers

- clatterandclank via curiouskitty

I don't really have that many followers to choose from, but tagged some anyway!

1. As much as I hated to leave LA, I'm actually very excited to be living next to a corn field and kitty-corner from a cow pasture. I grew up near farms and have missed seeing them. 

2. I move between fandoms pretty regularly. Right now I'm all about Adventure Time and Gravity Falls, but that doesn't mean that I don't still love Game of Thrones and Battlestar Galactica, to name a few. I just have a relatively short attention span. 

3. My favorite tea is anything with hibiscus in it. 

4. I suffer from chronic migraines, and while the really bad ones only come every few months depending on how stressed I am, I have at least a low level headache most of the time. Sometimes I don't even notice unless someone asks or I happen to think about it.

5. I love baking and decorating cakes for people, and I'm pretty good at it for not actually having done that much of it. I have many times considered bailing on this whole clinical psychology thing to start a bakery, and sometimes it's mostly momentum that keeps me going (and the knowledge that a lot more people are good at baking than are good at the research and clinic work I want to do). 

6. When I graduate this time, I want to celebrate either by doing a motorcycle tour of the Utah National Parks or by going to Australia (if I can afford it). 

7. I want to get back to LA, or at least California, for the people, but if I could live anywhere in the world and still see them all the time, it would probably be somewhere more alpine like Flagstaff or somewhere in Colorado. 

8. I have a really short temper, but inconveniently when I get really angry I usually start crying and then people think I'm sad but really I'M FURIOUS and WANT TO MURDER.

9. I'm really bad at making it clear to people that I'm coming on to them or realizing that they are coming on to me. 

10. I played several instruments over the course of elementary and high school but have never been very good at any of them: piano, violin, clarinet, bass clarinet, guitar, bassoon. I was much better at color guard.

[hunterbadger]

dapperandroid inspired outfit, pre-hawaii

[southcarolinawoman]

clatterandclank replied to your post: OCharleys is another company that makes you...

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I know, right? When I run up on these, I x out of them, cuz I really am not that desperate yet (and hopefully won't get there.)

[genderqueerconfessions]

I'm a genderqueer parent, and my kid calls me Baba.

Aww that is cute