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Hi! I'm planning a novel and I plan on having a polyamorous relationship in it. Not the focal point, because I have no experience of a polyam relationship. So, the novel would have a closed triad with a woman, a man, and a nonbinary character. So... uh, do you have any book recs or blog recs or some tips as to which site to go to, what to Google, what to avoid? Thank you in advance!
First of all, thank you for taking the time to research your subject matter beforehand, it is much appreciated!
I will mostly field this one to the audience. Heck, I am going to tag @thebibliosphere in this one because she recently published a novel with a polyamorous triad as the protagonists.
It would be helpful to know what about the relationship you want to describe. Like, is it mundane slice of life? The story of how they became a triad? Problems in the relationship? Jealousy? (Let me just plug in that the polyamorous community has seen their fair share of jealousy plots and toxic relationship plots, so if that is what you are after, it will likely be taken as not very innovative).
When I was little my dad would say “I love you mostest,” and I would always tell him mostest wasn’t a word. And he always told me that it was in the Ellenburg dictionary, which I couldn’t see until I was 21.
I’m 21 now, and he’s not here to show it to me. However, at 21 I got into a relationship with two amazing partners who say “I love you mostest,” all the time. I haven’t told them this story yet.
Boyfriend: *kisses my head while our girlfriend is grabbing some food*
Woman who had been standing there since before our girlfriend went to get food: *glares probably thinking he’s a cheater or smth*
Girlfriend: *walks over with two bags of food and three drinks making us kiss her to get it*
Woman: *scandalised*
Lmao this happened at the mall today and it was the funniest shit
Just wanna give you the world, booty rubs and lots of flowers idk
I was asked for some advice for a couple just starting out wanting to explore polyamory, and if it's useful to two people it's probably useful for more. So.
Basically: untangle yourself from Us and become Me, and Them. I want you to find hobbies the other one doesn't want to participate in, I want you to have separate friendship groups, I want you to have at least one meal alone a week, to not always sleep in the same bed. Go places without telling each other exactly where you're going and how long you'll be. Spend time with family without the other, spend evenings where one of you is at home and one of you is out having fun. And when that all becomes normal and not a big deal, go and set up entirely separate dating profiles.
Mr., Mr., Mrs.
I wear a ring on my hand every day. It shows that I’m attached to you. It shows that I am a part of you. It shows that I am in love with you. It shows that I give myself gladly to you. It shows that I am important to you. It shows that I am beyond happy with you.
But it doesn’t show that there are two of you.
The three of us are connected, an endless swirling spiral that merges and melds like the sands of the ocean. We are not made of the same rock. We are fragments of other things, of other people, of other experiences. But we are together, as family, and we make up the shore.
Most others are pairs. They circle each other like a proton to an electron, pushing and pulling as exact opposites. But as three, we are more intimately together. I am the piece that pulls us all together, fitting in a slot between you and you. I am a linchpin, connecting the pieces that already fit together, but now are as one. I am the glue, the thread, the wiring.
I am what I am, your wife, your partner, your second lover, though law says I can not - and can never be.
Yet I am. And will always be.
Closeted Polyamory:
When you’re talking with extended family and they are discussing the difficulties in getting a hotel room
Them: I had to get a King sized bed because there were no doubles left. I mean, you could fit THREE people it’s so big!
Us: *awkward, pseudo-hetero/mono-sexual laughter* Yeah that would definitely be... unheard of. *shifty eyes*
