Suddenly Poly

You can call me Lavender. I'm queer/bi/demi. Early 30s. My partners C & T and I fell into polyamory really quite abruptly a couple years back. We're still figuring this all out.

[shegos]

This right here, this is better than any poem. DICKINSON (2019-2021)

[polyamzeal]

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[nonmonogamy-culture-is-deactiva]

I’m polyam for the benefits. Out here collecting partners with useful jobs like they’re pokemon cards

[geekysteven]

The housing crisis has gotten so bad that when you tell someone you're in a polyamorous commune, instead of assuming you're overly horny, they think you're financially responsible.

[imustbeamermaidrango]

The votes are in and the new Polyamory Flag is here!

The intention behind this design was to create a simple, bold tricolor, with a contemporary approach to traditional vexillological (relating to the study of flags) elements from the original “Pi” flag.

It takes the best of the original flag, including its color symbolism, and improves on those elements of the Pi flag which alienated viewers.

A white chevron flows outward to depict the growth and possibility of the non-monogamous community. It sits asymmetrically on the flag to reflect the non-traditional style of polyamorous relationships.

The heart reminds us that love in all forms is the core of non-monogamy.

As in the original polyamory flag:

Red stands for love and attraction.

Blue stands for openness and honesty.

However, this redesign also makes thoughtful alterations:

Gold represents the energy and perseverance of those in the non-monogamous community.

Purple to represent a united non-monogamous community.

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[dame-bloodrose]

I was born with two hands so I could hold both of my partners’ hands.

[maplebunie]

if 3 bitches named molly were in a polycule would it be a molecule sorry

[9:38 PM]

[maplebunie]

this is so funny. why is it like that? i didn't type that

[sunfoxfic]

Last night I spent a lot of time thinking about typical fanfic ship dynamics except instead of two people yearning to be in a relationship it's two relationships yearning to be in a polycule. A couple who works at a flower shop desperately conspiring on how to invite the couple who owns the tattoo parlor out on a date without making it sound like a friend thing. A couple who was hired to assassinate the crown king and queen but fell in love with them while gathering intel. A soulmate AU where all four people think they've found their soulmates but then it turns out that person from couple A is also soulmates with person from couple B, and both couples think they're the only one to realize this so they're trying so hard to figure out how to break it to the others.

[bisforbutch]

Reblog if you're polyamorous. I'm trying to see something

[xaveria]

i cant speak for other polyam people but being in a triad/throuple relationship in real life is just inherently funny. show up to the family function with two guys and everyone else has one guy. just seems like a power move every time even though we're just living our lives. hilarious. i recommend this for comedic value alone

[suddenlypoly]

I imagine it gets funnier the more partners you bring. Like you functionally double the size of the party when you show up? Hilarious! I don’t know how my interactions will be received so I brought my own fans THANKS

[queenjulia24]

HOLD UP HOW WAS I NOT AWARE OF THIS

[lichpire]

was gonna leave my comment in the tags but tbh i’m silent enough about this as it is.

seeing stuff like this is so upsetting because these terms were well known and widespread in the ace community but because of exclusionists many people stopped using terms like this because they felt uncomfortable and unsafe.

i loved these terms when i was in highschool, i loved the feeling of community, but i lost that because i didn’t feel comfortable openly and proudly calling myself asexual.

they’ve hurt so many people and damaged our community badly and i will never forgive them for that. we deserve to use our own terminology and feel safe within our community.

[atasteforsuicidal]

sometimes i notice i haven’t seen “grace” (grey-ace) in a while and consequently wonder if i made it up.

[slenders1ckn3ss]

I remember ppl - even other ace ppl - saying the card suit thing was “cringey” and “straight ppl aren’t gonna take us seriously” (sounds familiar?) So i guess the community wound up abandoning it. We were also having severe issues at the time with aces being stereotyped as “childish/immature” for associating things like cake, dragons, and space with asexuality, plus in general as most aces just don’t “get” allosexual things in media and irl. We were starting to be viewed as ignorant, virginal, childish, losers, etc. I haven’t seen an ace-cake thing in a good while now.

This was the infancy of exclusionary influence on us. I didn’t realize it did more damage than just closeting us. Whole symbols and terms have been lost. Community has been lost.

[cobraonthecob]

I remember three-four years ago I got myself into the ace community on Insta, and I came across these terms. People in these circles would talk about cake, space, dragons, and the black ring on the middle finger. Then, a year or two later, ace content fizzled out (I thought it was Insta’s algorithm figuring out that I knew all this and didn’t bring me the old stuff) and young aces had no idea what any of these were - including the black ring. Finding out young aces had no idea what the black ring meant nearly snapped my heart in two - I proudly wore the black ring, I drew characters with it, and it was my quiet way of communicating to others what my sexuality was. I was baffled at the lack of knowledge - and it turns out that exclusionists got their hands into our community and snuffed us out. 

Anyways, we need to bring this back. I thought the card suite thing was cool, it taught people the different ways people can experience attraction, I loved making jokes about preferring cake, I loved wearing the black ring and talking about it with my fellow queer people at my highschool QSA club. 

[kriss-watches-stuff]

I’m sorry, people don’t know about the cake or ring anymore? I remember being welcomed with spams of cake gifs, photos, and MS Paint drawings. I also distinctly remember that the block solo ring in the midle was meant as reference to the Ace of Spades (black, solo, middle of card). Only thing I didn’t know was that other aces could represent a more refined nuance. Let’s see if we can get this all rolling again.

Welcome to anyone who is interested in helping with the culture revival.

[stedebonnetsbignaturals]

I’m tired of dating apps can’t I just join a gay polycule pirate ship

[too-trans-for-here]

If you’re polyamorous and hate the poly flag? Go to this link and sign up to be alerted of the vote.

cast your vote for the first-ever globally selected polyamory pride flag. polyamproud is a volunteer group dedicated to creating a new poly

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