#complex dissociative disorder

[fleetingmantislegion]

all 7 logged alters in my system use he/him in a way

[fleetingmantislegion]

cdds are awful why is the nicest person in my system STEVE ROGERS

[fleetingmantislegion]

my traumaholder alter and i are highkey leftist unity

[the-changeling]

pwCDDs be like: why does that mood have hair

[cddtreatmentcenter]

Building alter relationships

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Building relationships takes time and effort. Alter relationships aren't different in that sense. Don't get frustrated for alters having trauma responses, rather try to understand them and show compassion.

open communication! when you're co-conscious with someone communication is not that difficult because the only thing missing is another physical body, however the difficulty increases quite a lot when others aren't yet known and don't respond or can't respond. it is still important to address those and talk to them even if it stays one sided for a while. you can also try reaching others by giving the message to another alter who may have more connection.

acknowledge their uniqueness! alters can be very unique beings so there isn't one size fits all when building relationships. they can be completely different in age, gender, likes, dislikes, maturity, vocabulary and needs. acknowledge their differences and adapt accordingly.

listen actively! give everyone basic respect, open communication and a listening ear regardless of their behavior. validating and acknowledging everyone is the first step to building a more healthy connection.

establishing boundaries! having clear boundaries for the system helps with forming a sense of trust and stability.

providing space! encourage authenticity by giving alters space to express themselves without judgement.

being self aware! negative self talk about hating DID or having alters is sending a message of hostility, which doesn't help with establishing safety or trust. being aware of how you can affect your system is important.

work on yourself! if you have access to a therapist you feel safe at go to therapy regularly. if you don't have access to therapy you still have to try and help yourself to gain tools for coping with emotions and communication between alters.

[m3llokeehl]

people with osdd/did will never be free because there's always some motherfucker preaching antipsychology and antirecovery and how 'you should just accept your disorder as is!' like you can't recover from this shit

[fleetingmantislegion]

dormant alter 4 like 2 years just came back im so done