#controlling partners

[amythystraine]

Chronicles of a Madd Housewife ~ a new genre

Link: https://www.amazon.com/Chronicles-Madd-Housewife-Its-Not/dp/B0CLJCJCQ4 This book takes you on a journey through an individual’s very skewered personal experience in a toxic relationship. Along the way you will learn how to identify and cope with a myriad of specific issues that arise with this toxic journey. You will also find advice on what to do once the dust has settled, how to heal and move on, or how to stay and rebuild.

Table of Contents Part 1: Coffee & Ruminations That’s a Problem…13 The Map & the Rendezvous…19 Time to Man Up…28 Habitual Cheater…32 A Prologue to Little Miss Mexico…39 A Most Unusual Question…42 How I Long for Stability & Security…45 I Can’t Tell You What You Want to Hear…48 You Just Wait…51 Why Are We Even Together…53 Finally, An Honest Moment…59 A Suspicious Mind…62 I Can’t Talk…66 I Know the Signs…69 The Kat Woman…73 Facebook Games with His Friends…78 Relationship Stuff: a squatter, life, business, moving, & wedding rings…83 Just When I Think He’s Normal…90 I Think I’m Going to Have to Move…93 The Gold Woman’s Band Appears: It’s Not a Wedding Ring!…98 City Place @ Newport Apartments…101 Unsupervised, He Says…104 I Heart You… 106 Part 2: Things You Should Know What if Your Partner is Emotionally Unstable…112 When Does Flirting Turn Into Cheating…120 Chronic Cheaters…124 The Archetypes of a Cheater…130 Nine Ways to Recognize a Liar…133 Finding Your Ex on Social Media…137 Do’s And Don’ts and Common Sense…142 Emotional Deprivation Disorder…146 The Serial Over-Lapper…149 Signs Your Partner is Not Over Their Ex…153 Falling In Love with Someone Still In Love with Their Ex…156 Emotional Cheating…158 Part 3: Healing & Rebuilding, or Moving On When It’s Time to Abandon Ship…163 Relationship Trauma…165 Surviving Repeated Infidelity…167 Boundaries and the Ex, What to Avoid…171 How Should You Deal with a Lying Partner…175 Walk Away Wife Syndrome…181 What About the Narcissist…184 The Emotionally Immature Partner…191 Three Stages of a Toxic Relationship…197 The #1 Destroyer of Relationships…202 Recovering from a Toxic Relationship…205

[scuffedgrannysblog]

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[hollyrawd]

Looking at myself

” I really don’t care what celebrities do,” he said, while I watched him dip some orange and mayonnaise covered prawns into soy sauce.  Cue another silence.  (He had shut down yet another conversation…) It was early December but really it felt like November. The month where everything slows down and tiredness sets in, after another long year with so many faces, flatmates and employers. So many…

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[lifeisthedisease]

When you leave a toxic controlling relationship the chances are they will STILL try to control you after the relationship is over. This is his final attempt at controlling me. I can't be controlled, I do what I want, I can't be manipulated into believing the way I live is wrong. I left, I moved on, I text him 3/4 times in 2 months about things I couldn't find and thought I left at his house. I didn't want a friendship, I didn't want to rekindle love. I wad exhausted, so mentally exhausted.

The ONLY reason I text him this was because I was sat crying because I didn't want the cat to not have his birthday tuna. I didn't want a reply. I told him that, all I wanted for my peace of mind was for him to read it so I could think of the cat eating his tuna on his birthday.

Yet the reply makes it sound like I was always messaging him. This is because he NEEDS to be the one to break contact. To control the contact between us. Do I care that I can't text him? Nah, what have I got to text him about? He can't attempt to control me anymore so I'm feelin fantastic. Also found out he blocked me on social media, my response? Great!! Now I don't have to feel like a bad person from wiping all our mutual friends from my contacts.

I had a lot of messages worded like this, like, you do this (which I usually never did) so I'm doing this! Constantly justifing his controlling behaviour by finding weird things I did that drove him to his decision.

Everyone please don't let yourself be controlled, be you, find someone who will love you for YOU. Don't you dare change for someone.

And lastly, the main message for this post; they will still try to control you after you end it, in the weirdest ways. Watch for the signs and cut ties.

[pureshh]

When 20 out of 20 hit so closely to your reality, its time to move on.

I’ve been trying to understand what is wrong with me, how I can get better, become better so that I can earn your respect. When in fact I’m running in circles, to your liking, weakening myself and become more and more powerless.

Why are you like that? What the hell happened to you that you have to treat your close ones like this?

[relationshipedia]

The Hashtag, #If My Wounds Were Visible, Is Raising Awareness About Narcissistic Abuse

The Hashtag, #If My Wounds Were Visible, Is Raising Awareness About Narcissistic Abuse

  June 1st is Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day. Let’s raise awareness by using the hashtag ‪#‎IfMyWoundsWereVisible‬ on all social media. Get involved in this campaign to raise awareness by logging into your Twitter account and send out a tweet using the hashtag #IfMyWoundsWereVisible and complete the sentence. https://twitter.com/RelationshPedia/status/737397584281534464 Let’s try to raise…

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[abuse-survivor-safe-space]

Is it okay for me to feel upset when my partner asks me to tone down my fashion sense (I'm goth) when I visit them bc they "hate when people stare at us"? It makes me feel like they're ashamed of me. Or am I overreacting?

Yes it is ok for you to be upset about that. Especially since that is controlling, manipulative, and can be considered a form of abuse.

It is your body, not theirs. They do not own you. They do not get to tell you what you can and cannot wear. It is NOT ok for them to say that to you.

You are under no obligations to dress in a way that makes your partner feel comfortable.

It is your body. Your clothing, your expression. It is YOURS. Not theirs.

It’s not ok for them to be doing that and you are not overreacting at all I promise.

It may be worth trying to explain that to your partner. It also may be worth trying to see if there are other little red flags like that.

Please stay safe anon, dress how YOU want and in a way that makes you comfortable. I wish you luck.

-mod cactus

(Disclaimer this is my personal opinion)

[intr0spectr3]

Yes, I'm totally a homewrecker for talking to people with partners. Hugging them? Texting them? Asking how their day went? You mean the "duties reserved just for partners"? My intent is totally to steal them from you. I'm gonna gather everyone's SO's and we're gonna order pizza and play Mario Kart and trade friend codes and be best friends.