#datingwithadisability

[tooyoungforawalker]

Spoonie Starts Dating...

Guys!! I went on a date for the first time since I was diagnosed with JIA. As much as I try to embrace who I am, I didn’t want to tell him that I have a chronic illness. Like, “Hey! Nice to meet you. BTW I have a lifelong disease that is completely unpredictable. Oh, and I’m really into alternative music”. So I decided the chronic illness detail could wait until a second date. I took down my disability placard and attempted to hide it. Long story short, he found it. I’m 99% sure my face turned bright red. All I could think was, “Crap! I really liked him..”. Well it turns out, there really are some great people out there. He was extremely nice about it! He didn’t even say sorry (one of my biggest pet peeves)!!!! He asked a few non-invasive questions, and then acted like I just told him my favorite color. The conversation just kept going.

Moral of the story: The truth is I can’t hide my disability. It is something that is a part of me, and I hope to someday talk about it the same way I talk about my favorite color. I hope every lovely spoonie finds the same strength to do so. It’s finally time to let go of any shame or taboo that society has placed on us.

Love and spoons,

TooYoungForAWalker ❤️🥄

[allysonmariehope]

Repost from @carson_tueller. I’ve never identified with a tweet more. Writing this because I’ve been asked this question four times within the last seven days. People actually use this as an opening line. No hi. No greeting. Just a message that says either, “Can you have sex?” or “Does your body feel pleasure?” This is dating with a disability. It’s hard. It’s demeaning. It hurts. This is my life. I don’t mind being asked questions, but at least bother getting to know me first. Or at least, attempt to. I’m really starting to wonder if dating is actually worth it? Sometimes I feel like my disability sucks the fun out of everything. PS: Google can also answer your offensive questions. #disability #disabled #cerebralpalsy #datingwithadisability #thisismylife #notapickupline https://www.instagram.com/p/Cawhd3mr361/?utm_medium=tumblr

[allysonmariehope]

This is dating with a disability. Why do I even try? Please excuse me while I go vomit. #datingwithadisability #welcometomylife #tinder #cerebralpalsy https://www.instagram.com/p/CaFyfL1PlLc/?utm_medium=tumblr