#demifamilial

[no-longer-poet]

Happy pride especially towards EVERY a-spec person

[privygrid]

There's a moment from when I was in tenth grade that I remember so clearly.

It was P.E. class, and I was sitting somewhere near the basketball court, a place I liked sitting at because it was quiet and covered in the shadows of the trees around.

I was thinking, as we all do sometimes, and had this one specific sentence cross my mind.

"Am I supposed to feel something when I tell my mom I love her?"

It made me pause.

I wasn't sure how to answer it.

I wasn't sure how to even approach it.

For a few years after that moment, I always refused to think too much about it. I told myself I was mistaken. Because of course I loved her. She was family. I had to love my family, right?

Then I learned the term afamilial.

It wasn't an immediate "That's me!" kind of feeling.

More of a... "Oh, this exists. Nice."

It took me some time to realize I related to it. Took me even longer to accept it.

But I did, and here I am a few months later.

I'm demifamilial.

It feels right to say that.

It feels good to have a name for my experience.

It feels comforting to know there's more people like me out there.

Even if I can never come out to most people. Even if many would think I'm some kind of horrible person for it.

It still feels nice. Because I'm not lying to myself about this anymore.

So... to any afamilials reading this, and to anyone who may have resonated with this post, afamilial or not.

I just want you to know that you're not alone.

We're together in this. We always will be.

Happy Pride Month.

[thedaygoesupinflames]

damn they werent kidding that aspec community is stressful to exist in when youre demi

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[your-fav-is-afam]

Dipper Pines from Gravity Falls is demifamilial (mwahaha I love making characters from family centric media afamspec)

Dipper Pines from Gravity Falls is Demifamilial!

[the-best-gemologist]

*gives Cyan a pride flag of the mod's choice for pride month*

-- Anonymous Spirit 🩷👻

ooc: its demifamilial, one of my flags!

[the-basil-plot]

Every day I wonder why I, an afamilial, love Gravity Falls, a family-centric show, so much. Oh well at least I get to make all the characters afamspec. Demifamilial Dipper, go!!

[keyboardsmashorsomething]

We talk a lot about how hard Valentines Day can be for aromantics and arospecs. And that’s good. We should talk about that. But I don’t see much discussion of how it can be hard for afamilials.

My parents gave me a Valentines Day card. Proclaiming that they love me. It came with a cookie. I should feel happy. All I feel is guilt. So you love me. Alright. So why can’t I reciprocate? What can I say in response to this card that wouldn’t be a bald-faced lie?

“I love you.” -Lie

“I feel happy when I’m around you.” -Lie

”My ideal future is one where I still talk to you” -Lie Lie Lie

Why do I lack the basic emotion of familial love that everyone else, including my own sisters, seems to possess? It’s not like my parents are bad people either. There are real bad parents out there. Mine aren’t terrible. I’m glad they went on a lunch date together and they weren’t here when I opened the card. Because I couldn’t have feigned happiness.

Let’s pour one out for the afamspecs today. All of them. The afamilials and the greyfamilials and the demifamilials and the quoifamilials and all the other microlabels. Those who are familial-favorable, familial-indifferent, or familial-repulsed. The loveless afamilials and those who do love, just not their family. Do something you enjoy today. For me.