Dysphoria can be disabling, and often is, or at the very least heavily debilitating. While I don't believe in it being a requirement or anything I do think people with atypical dysphoria can really benefit by doing a bit of introspection on it.
I've always explained things better with examples, so I'll give one my my experiences; something kind of private I don't like talking about. In middle school, I had really bad atypical dysphoria surrounding my race. I'm bodily white, but I had a really strong desire to be black. Any race other then white, really, but specifically black. I also have moral OCD so these urges really really bothered me, made me feel like a horrible person for wanting something like that, even though I couldn't control it.
Now, for some context, growing up in elementary school and middle school I was bullied really harshly, socially isolated due to my autism symptoms to the point i really only had one close friend who was also autistic and socially isolated. I would always watch all of the black students in our class hanging out, connecting with each other even though I knew some of them were similarly 'weird' or had less friends, not to the point of me or my best friend but still to the point they weren't popular. They'd sit together at lunch and talk sometimes, hanging out at recess or leaving study hall to go to BSU. I was so jealous of these people having what I perceived as an easy thing to connect over, their race and shared experiences, that it manifested in me wishing I was black too, even though all I truly wanted was friendship.
Every other time I'd try to make a friend, I was met with blank stares, insults that I didn't realize were insults, laughter, mockery. I didn't understand what I was doing wrong. I just wanted to have a way to make friends in a way that I didn't think I could easily fuck up.
Anyways, eventually I graduated middle school and I transferred over to a predominately black high school. I was initially a little bit worried about this, I was scared I'd act weird because of the dysphoria and once again I'd end up with no friends, just this time without my best friend there to support me. But that didn't happen. I made a few friends almost immediately then ended up part of a much bigger 10 or so person friend group. It was mostly black kids but generally the group was pretty mixed racially, but no one really cared about that. For the first time I was actually a part of a group of friends that I would have been a part of regardless of what race I was, and when that happened, when I realized that, the dysphoria completely vanished. Around that same time, desirdae was coined.
I'm not saying everyone's experiences will be like mine. The explanation for your dysphoria might be something really simple or obvious, like being an alter in a system or being alterhuman, or just wanting to be like someone you look up to. But its worth a thought, I believe.
