#doug kendall

[thehanfamily]

[buddieswitness]

thinking about a potential argument between maddie and doug after maddie offers to let buck stay with them for a while after they get married and doug not wanting that ultimately causing buck to be on the road a lot and grow his distaste of doug

[jackabbot]

9-1-1 • S7E06 ↳ “There Goes the Groom”

[blackholeunderyourbed]

Thinking about how while emotional neglect led Buck to dangerous stunts, it led Maddie to Doug, who early on would have provided the warmth and affection her relationship with her parents lacked. Margaret and Phillip fighting with her about the move to Boston and refusing to come to the wedding would have only made it easier for Doug to isolate her.

[desertdinerbuddie]

Maddie being the one who saves herself from Doug is so powerful. I love this whole arc.

[watchyourbuck]

the buckley siblings relationship is actually so dear to me. “standing in between you and whoever thinks they can hurt you is exactly where I wanna be standing.” I’m gonna sob uncontrollably

[getreadytorumble]

Female Eddie Diaz and Female Evan Buckley but everything changes.

Eddie:

Eddie deals with old fashioned norms, told to step up and be the woman of the house when her mom was feeling down re: abandoned by her husband to look after three kids. Having to take on cooking, laundry, dishwashing while her little sisters got to play and have fun.

Eddie quietly disappearing into the background until she meets Shannon, who encourages her to start in a nursing program. And then the same old story: Eddie gets pregnant, they get married before they even turn twenty.

Except Eddie doesn’t go the army. Eddie stays home like a good mom and wife would do, taking care of her sisters and son all while her parents constantly criticize her on everything she doing wrong.

Shannon works three jobs to keep them a float, relying on Eddie’s parents to pay house bills, having to constantly deal with them both undermining him as a man and he gets word of his mom getting sick.

This time she follows Shannon without complaint, it’s what good wives do after all, her parents are worried but it’s the first time Shannon and Eddie are behaving in their tradition gender roles without outside input.

They move to L.A. and Eddie is once again crushed under the weight of caretaking. Shannon is constantly out trying to find another job, leaving Eddie to take care of his sick mother and Christopher.

One day, while trying to regain their spark. Shannon and Eddie go out to a nice resturant, except a woman with pink marks above one of her eyes starts choking on a piece of bread.

Eddie jumps into action, trying the Heimlich multiple times before performing a tracheotomy, saving the woman’s life.

Buck:

Buck, still a failed savior baby and doing everything to get her parents attention. Maddie married Doug and they move away however when Buck can’t take it anymore and asks Maddie to come with her, Maddie says yes.

Maddie is too afraid Buck will turn out like her, she recognizes the signs she saw in herself. Sweet, trusting, lonely enough to accept anything so she has to leave Doug for Buck.

They travel the countries, hitting all the same spots as before except Maddie protects Buck the whole way, no more sleeping in cars and being in vulnerable positions just for some money.

They still go to Peru but instead of Buck randomly hitching a ride to L.A Maddie researches, and they get an apartment around the 118 and Buck still joins just because she thinks it’s cool but also because she wants to be a first responder just like her big sister.

Maddie finds her way to the dispatch center all on her own, after picking up odd jobs with Buck she is fully set on being a first responder again. They go through training together, getting their certifications much in the same way as canon.

Buck having settled into work, gets back on the dating scene with this dispatcher, who takes her to a nice restaurant. Except before the date can even really start she starts choking on a piece of bread, her throat starting to close up.

The last thing she can remember is a pretty women with a beauty mark above her.

[comradesummers]

i think we underestimate the effect doug had on how maddie views her parents. first off, he would have probably tried to stoke her resentments towards them in order to further isolate her from her family (not that he would have had to work all that hard given that they basically cut her off for making life choices they didn't like) so maddie probably sees her attempts to rebuild her relationship with her parents as a way to defy the control he had over her when he was alive. but also, because maddie went immediately from living with her parents to living with doug, she had no time to really process her childhood trauma. she was too busy dealing with the trauma of being married to doug. buck had years to contend with how badly his parents treated him. maddie only really begins to unpack any of that shit when she gets pregnant with jee, and even then, that stuff takes a backseat to the more pressing issue of her severe ppd (which is not unrelated to her issues with her parents of course, but that's still not her primary focus).

i also think that her "not bad people but bad parents" line stems directly from the warped worldview she developed as a result of surviving a physically abusive marriage. her concept of abuse is shaped by what she experienced with doug. the buckley parents never hit her or buck and they never threatened to kill them, so in maddie's mind they can't be all that bad. it's also worth noting that in her very first episode, maddie talks about how she used to judge dv victims who came into the hospital, which suggests that it took her a while to recognize that her own marriage was abusive. and that was textbook dv. imagine how much harder it would be for her to recognize her parents' behavior as abusive when it was far more subtle (though in many ways just as damaging to her) as doug's was.