#faking crushes

[incognitopolls]

Have you ever pretended/lied about having a crush when you didn't actually?

Yes, to try to fit in with my friends who had crushes

Yes, I thought that was just what everyone was doing

Yes, another reason

No

It's complicated/other

Voting ended onJan 2, 2025

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[growinguparo]

I figured out I was aromantic asexual going into highschool over the quarantine. The more I embraced my identity the more I realized soooo many things I used to do or think indicated that I was aromantic(or just aromantic symbols)

1. The two "crushes" I had were people I thought might be nice (then I realized they were actually jerks so I no longer "liked" them

2. My relationship or crush advice to my friends was always "just stop liking then"or "just don't have crushes on people"

3. Always hated truth or dare because after saying that u "don't like anyone" for the 100 the time, people don't believe you and say your lying.

4. Hanging out with a boy as friends and people asking me if I liked him and my response was "ew what, we're just friends" then watching my friends look at me doubtfully

5. Whenever my mom would talk about me getting married or dating someone I would automatically cringe

6. Thinking that people made up crushes everyone ALWAYS had one (but for the record it's very possible some of my classmates made up crushes)

7. Always wanted to live in a small house by myself with a dog(like since I was rly little)

8. Pretty oblivious about picking up signs that "someone liked you"

9. Always loved playing with frogs in the pond and enjoying archery

10. And now I wear green all the time and it's a total coincidence

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Submitted by @r4306

[aro-and-ace-memes-thoughts]

I decided to have crushes on people I was aesthetically attracted to, but I didn't tell anyone because deep down I knew it wasn't crushes (also I'm almost always aesthetically attracted to people I never talked to or interacted with, so "love at first sight" made some sense to me)

[growinguparo]

growing up aro is feeling isolated from your friends because they've talked about their crushes from the age of eight but all you wanted to do was pretend that you were warriors in battle, so as you grew older you got pushed away because you were "weird" until you started to pretend to have crushes to fit in

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[growinguparo]

Aro culture is having a bunch of people ask you out as a kid and going 'sure, why not?' because you had no idea what it entailed, feeling nothing during the relationship and just thinking it meant close friends, then 'breaking up' with them without saying anything because you know you aren't going to care or see them again.

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[growinguparo]

growing up aro is trying to figure out how excited you should be when your mom asks you if you think a boy is cute

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[growinguparo]

As a teen I thought the whole "crush" thing was a joke. I played along because I thought it was hilarious - I would gossip with my friends about the cutest guys in our class, try to talk to them, etc, because it's a game, right? It's a fun thing teens do, isn't it? Then when it got real and my friends started dating I was like "wait what, this stuff actually *means* something to you????" (Then I had a whole crisis because I didn't get why relationships "clicked" for them and not for me lol.)

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[growinguparo]

i once made up a crush on this random boy in 6th grade bc at a birthday party everyone was talking abt crushes & bc i didnt say anything they started guessing who it was, & decided on a random boy in our class bc they noticed i was blushing & embarrassed when they said his name. anyway they pressured me, & me & the boy dated for a full year except we never talked or did anything, total strangers. when he broke up with me i was like?? okay finally. & thats the story of my only relationship

oof