I've never met a "new atheist". The term seems to mostly come from a growing group of leftist writers and activists who are keen on distinguishing themselves from every other slightly different ideology, contributing to the very same tribalism they seek to expose among the people they disagree with. Instead of having an intelligent conversation, they look for anything which could be construed as a misstep or a threat and focus intently on amplifying those statements and attitudes which by themselves, do appear to be unjustifiable. How ever unredeeming their opposition may be, these "anti-new atheists" only serve to create more polarization and division, gently welcoming anyone to their camp who feels as strongly as they do about hate speech and the like, while repulsing anyone who has critical views on modern feminism or the rhetoric of the left establishment, which, by the way, has absolutely nothing to do with atheism. So, by identifying popular atheists as a cohesive group which is united by a hatred of women and minorities, the essence of what it means to be an atheist has drastically shifted in people's minds. I don't think this is good, because it only obfuscates the problems in our society, and creates a distraction which offers up a serialized drama between those who are perfect paragons of justice, virtue, and reason, and those who are pseudo-intellectual trolls. We all know that neither side exists, and even those who match those profiles often don't want anything to do with the tribes which have spurred up over the last few years. I for one am glad that there are still some popular atheists who don't even bother discussing feminism and social justice, and just stick to asking people what they believe and why. I see no reason to shove people into ideological boxes. We already have enough ideology in our lives.
