a year or so ago i realized that i wasnt agender like i thought i was, but i was in fact a cis man and hadnt even been masculine enough to experience gender euphoria. i realized that i wanted to be more masculine in my appearance, and i told a ton of queer people around me that being masculine made me feel happy and i wanted to try and be more masculine. all of the reactions i got were not supportive. they told me i needed to be more comfortable with femininity, that i needed to try to be more feminine, that i shouldnt view femininity as negative, that i shouldnt let the men in my life tell me im not manly enough (no men in my life were telling me that). hell, my therapist at the time asked me if i thought i might be a trans woman (i no longer have a therapist). i hope this isnt like, taking away from my trans brothers, but i relate to them when they talk about how queer communities treat masculinity like its inferior to femininity and how other queer people will tell them to reconsider. idk if this is a coherent ask i just found this blog and had to vent
This is anti-masculinity.
You discovering what presentation made you happiest shouldn't have been treated as some sort of betrayal or hatred of femininity.
Calling him a good boy when he lets me put him in makeup. Not because it makes him pretty but because I wanna see it get messy when he sweats and cries and I rub my cock all over his face.
currently rotating fem!versions of the cast in my head just for funsies. Armor is serious, I need something fun today to consider.
Cut for silly and group reactions to, I guess, forcefem? TW though it's mostly just mild stuff.
"So… this happened," Mista said, pink flushing her cheeks as she tried to pull her suddenly-not-large-enough sweater over her braless breasts. "I was just fuckin' making lunch in the kitchen and bam, I'm a chick with a 44D and my dick's gone."
Giorno looked equally sympathetic and frustrated as she nodded; she'd traded out her usual open jacket for a long button up white shirt, and her slimmer upper body disappeared under the fabric. "It's gotten all of us. An effect that hit the whole house, and I don't know where it came from yet or what the enemy's purpose might be."
The gang were making their way into Giorno's office. Quickly, they had realized the situation, and they were now bringing in and trying on various bits of clothing to try and cover themselves up or at least find something they could be comfortable in for the moment.
Abbacchio had just growled and loosened the strings of her coat until she could comfortably breathe, without making any other changes; she was currently scowling at Narancia, who had decided 'fuck this' and just thrown off her top to happily walk around naked from the waist up, idly fondling her A-cups and grinning like a huge, huge moron.
"Will you fucking stop that," the goth growled.
"No way!" Narancia grinned. "These feel amazing! They're so soft." She squished them together again, finding the mirror and gazing happily at herself, purple eyes huge and excited. "I'm never taking these off."
Giorno was still pink-cheeked. "We can expect a … variety of reactions to this situation, Abba." she exhaled.
"It's fucking indecent," the goth grouched back, her lips turned down. "He's so goddamn happy about it."
Trish, who had not been in the house when the attack happened, found the girls gathered and blinked at all of them for a few minutes, then started to laugh hysterically. "oh. Oh GOD. I hope this lasts a while!" she gleefully cackled, doubled over with her hands on her knees, laughing.
Giorno turned a rueful eye toward her friend. "It's not funny, Trish," she pouted.
"No, it REALLY is, you just have to see it from my side," Trish giggled, sweeping forward and slipping her arm over Giorno's smaller shoulders. "Did it get Bruno too?"
"Unfortunately," the statuesque brunette appeared, with a sigh. She had also switched, like Giorno, into a button-up shirt, only it didn't fit her too well, and her buttons were straining around her chest. "Risotto and I were working out downstairs and. Well."
The hitwoman, right behind Bruno, grumbled. "I should not have this much breast tissue," was all she managed, and she was also naked from the waist up, a long white towel thrown over her shoulders that just barely covered her pierced nipples.
Giorno leaned against her desk, arms crossing over her chest. "Obviously we need to find the user, but we need to also need to make ourselves comfortable and deal with this transformation as best we can. I'm open to ideas at this point."
Abbacchio looked to Bucciarati. "Can't Requiem just… fix this?"
The brunette shook her head. "I asked. It won't. Not can't. Won't."
Giorno winced. "Well, that tells me something, anyway. It says that this is something we're supposed to deal with for a while, I guess."
Mista made a gun-shape with her fingers. "Don't give a fuck as long as it hasn't messed up my aim. Learning to piss is gonna be an experience though."
The most irritating phenomenon I've seen on tumblr recently:
Person 1: forcefem all tboys lmao they deserve it [blocked]
Person 2: those fucking perverts. this is why all kink is bad [blocked]
Person 3: forcefem is for women ONLY why the fuck are men trying to pretend they can be part of it. It only counts if you're going on HORMONES [blocked]
Person 4: Forcefemme is something divine and beautiful. I create you like a carpenter does a statue. Also fuck forcemasc forcefemme is POLITICAL forcemasc is STATUS QUO [blocked]
Me: Wow, nobody here can be chill about kink, huh? We really can't just be perverts who enjoy consentual non-consent in peace, huh?
The way femboys get treated like they HAVE to be confused trans women because boys can't be girly
This is toxic masculinity.
I see this a lot with trans men too, where if they are feminine they're assumed to be faking their transness.
Anyone of any gender can present fem, masc, androgynous, neutral, null, genderless, xenine, outherine, aporine, or some combination.
Presentation =/= gender.
Transfeminizing and cisfeminizing every man who presents femininely is not progressive or a trans ally move, it's just reinforcing gender roles. It's gender essentialism.
”i hate gay men just become women and be lesbians”
HAHAHAHAHAHAH SOOO FUNNY. YOURE SO FUNNY. /sarc SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!!!
achilian men should be allowed their masculinity. nobody granted them that much for a very long time. it doesnt matter of A FEW men oppressed your transition or love, there is no excuse to be turning around and doing the same fucking thing they did for you. if an achilian man were to joke about hating lesbians, they would be swarmed. but everyone just goes “haha based” “real” “men suck”
im so tired. im so tired of tumblr’s “forcefem lesbian” culture breaching into unwanted spaces. i just want to scroll without being told that i should not be a man/love other men
(sorry for the ramble im just so fucking annoyed right now… i know to just block and scroll and i do love lesbians i just want to scrumble)
This is toxic femininity, homoandrophobia, and androqueerphobia.
I've said it before, and I'll say it again - stop leaving kinks/fetishes untagged and/or tagging them under spaces they don't belong!
Additionally, stop speaking of kinks/fetishes as reality, rather than a fantasy! And stop using them as an excuse to shit on marginalized groups (or any innocent group, really. Even non-marginalized men are not inherently misogynists. Stop being gender essentialist.)
Forcefem is not a progressive reality. There are tons of people (some intersex men, some trans men, some enben) that are socially imposed as female, who are being violently forcefemmed through surgery, forced HRT, forced pregnancy, etc.
You can be into forcefem (or forcemasc, or any other force- umbrella, but I see this most with forcefem content), but you have to acknowledge it as a kink/fetish. It may not be a sexual kink/fetish to you, but kinks/fetishes can be nonsexual. Tag your content and stop forcing it onto people who don't want to see it.
I just got a reblog on art of one of my feminine male OCs where the reblogger “fixed her” by changing the pronouns to she/her and adding curves. Looked at their blog and their whole thing is taking feminine male characters and turning them into trans women.
Listen,,, if it were a character from some major show, whatever. Have your headcanons. But doing it to peoples OCs? Are you fucking serious? If you want a trans fem oc, make one yourself. Go into the tags for trans fem OCs and support those artists. Leave peoples feminine male OCs alone. Feminine men exist. Feminine men are allowed to exist. Feminine men are not all trans fem eggs. Feminine men deserve to have their representation.
Let feminine men exist. Not every person born with a penis who happens to be feminine is a trans fem. Some are just men who like dresses and cute things. And it doesn’t make them less of a man or take away their identity as a man and their masculinity.
Also just,,, DON’T “FIX” OTHER PEOPLES OCS?? WTF??
This is anti-masculinity, toxic masculinity, and toxic femininity.
So many things wrong with this. Transfeminizing every feminine man you see in media is just a roundabout way to reinforce gender roles - "feminine = girl, masculine = boy!" nonsense.
It's one thing to headcanon a character as transfem for fun, but if you're (general you're, not you anon) doing it to every single feminine man character you see, and calling it "fixing", then you're just being gender essentialist because you can't fathom a man being feminine. Feminine men don't need to be "fixed", they aren't lesser for not being women.
Also, think of the harm this has on trans men who were SPETE [link] or intersex men with estrogenized traits. Think of the harm this has on trans or intersex men who are gender non-conforming. You're sending the message that they aren't "man" enough because their bodies are estrogenized and/or their presentation isn't traditionally masculine.
Then, of course, the aspect of doing this to random people's OCs. Don't do that. It's weird behavior.
"i support trans people! :3" and the only thing the ever do is forcefem cis dudes.
like no not every single cis guy on the planet isnt a trans woman whose egg hasnt cracked yet. youre not being "supportive" of trans people, in fact youre manipulating trans men into thinking theyre bad for "abandoning" womanhood and make a lot of them depressed.
geez, i even feel scared to share my drawings of an oc of mine who happens to be a cis intersex dude, have medium/long hair and present femininely cuz what if people force me to turn him into a trans girl. fortunately im a small artist and people dont seem interested in my ocs but i see this happening to more popular charas A LOT. it even happens to real life men (who just happen to be queer or activists) and i hate it
let men fucking exist, trans or cis. intersex or perisex. you cant decide who is trans or not. its THEIR gender, not yours
This is anti-masculinity, toxic femininity, and androqueerphobia.
Womanhood is not a freeing experience to every person, just as manhood is not a freeing experience to every person.
