“forcefem is homophobic and transphobic!! :(“
“forcefem is noncon. everyone who’s into forcefem is a pedophile rapist”
meanwhile half the forcemasc i see is:
- using slurs and other misogynistic insults
- common misogynistic phrases (which are usually used for queer or gender-nonconforming men or transfeminine women) like “man up” or “take it like a man”
- constant posting about violent rape or at the very least dubious consent
pretty much the entire concept is being toxically masculine in a gender-affirming way. meanwhile forcefem content i’ve seen is almost always gentle, except for sort of tongue-in-cheek “i’m sneaking estrogen into his food” posts (you can tell trans women are women because men don’t recognize when they’re joking).
a while back i heard something about women enjoying dark & taboo subjects, especially historically in old-timey erotica that was often abusive or rape-y. maybe it was an article or a video essay or something, i don’t remember. but the conclusion was that some women fantasize about non-consensual sexual encounters not because they actually want it to happen, but because they feel guilty for their sexual desires and imagine a scenario where the blame is not on them.
more recently i saw someone (perhaps ISFF?) mention the same logic applied to forcefem. forcefem is not about wanting to be humiliated, violated, or bullying. it is about comfort. people who think that is what forcefem is proceed to make forcemasc content that is about abusing feminine men and trans men. when you are making posts addressed to men that say stuff like “you don’t want to be a bitch, man up and take testosterone” you are not reclaiming anything, you are just earnestly spreading misogynistic tropes.
being kinky is not a problem, but it’s the hatred of trans women and the over-sexualization of everything to do when you are literally doing what you claim they are doing (which they are not doing). projection?
