#former radqueer

[ex-rq-infirmary]

Your blogs aren’t being deleted because you’re being oppressed.

Your blogs are being deleted because you pose an actual threat to children who use this site.

[recovering-radqueers]

To RQs leaving the community...

You are not a "traitor."

You are not transphobic.

You are not "betraying" anyone.

You have the right to leave communities that no longer serve you.

You will find a safe space where you feel comfortable.

You are loved.

-Mod Ally🌧️

[luxymaggots2763]

"Rq community isnt a cult!"

CW: mentions of grooming, sh and paraphilia.

I am NOT a cult survivor (expect for rqc, which will come up later) but since i was a thirteen, i have been interested in cults. Which "side" you are on, take a seat and a good look at the traits of a cult:

The pure thought, the concept of trying to justify harmful behaviour and thoughts (yes, thoughts can be harmful. For example, you wouldnt say that a person who feels no distress thinking about killing people would be any less mentally ill than a person who does, yeah?) Is very cult-y to me.

"We just want appectance! We just want peace! Our beliefs are valid!"

The whining bounces through the walls of the giant box, echo filling the space of the mob yelling.

Its all an echo chamber.

This is where my experience comes up... or should i say our experience?

As someone who is a CDD system (questioning polyfragmentation and being a ramcoa survivor, medically regonized but not yet diagnosed), our alter Solar was both groomed by our abusers and later groomed online (we were collectively victimized, but Solar holds those memories. Those groomers were radqueers.).

Most of their existence, he thought that harmful paraphilias were a normal part of life and totally appectable and something to be proud of. She caused our system many drama situations, got us deeper into a manipulative and co-depentent friendship and frequently stalked radqueer communities and idolized them. They also antagonized people in-sys, often reaffirming intrusive thoughts, triggering flashbacks and manipulating vulnerable alters into harm the body for pleasure.

Recently, Solar has taken accountability of harming our system, no longer thinks that paraphilia is normal and is aiming to recover. He feels like her whole "life" has been wasted and is struggling with SI, overcome with regret. But one thing they do not feel is shame for leaving these echo chambers. He will not feel shame for being a survivor. She will not be licking the boots of the very same people who took advantage of them. They are a survivor of the rqc. Suck it up.

Conclusion:

From personal experience, radqueer community and people associating positively with it are an ouroboros. Only talking and taking sources and advice from each other, ingnoring and demonizing critics (for example, Hushypuppy) and mental health professionals and often, destroying themselfves. Its no secret that radqueers are extremely mentally ill and isolated people, looking for a community and appectance.

Where there's prey, there's predators. Malignant people will join these communities for the purpose of hurting the mentally ill.

Are you a radqueer reading this? Now, listen very carefully. I understand that you may feel conflicted, paranoid maybe angry? Maybe you're trying to cope with humor by laughing at my post? I understand your denial, but i need for you to listen to me.

No person should be left to succumb into a swamp with no bottom.

GET OUT. While there's still time and hope for you. Especially if you are underage "chronologically". These people are not your friends, they are victims and their abusers. They dont care about you or your mental health. Log off. Talk to someone you are close with. Family, friends, teachers, psychologists, therapists... Seek real connections and listen to the opinions of people outside of the internet. Even if its hard. Even if it hurts. Caterpillar needs to struggle to become a butterfly.

Bless for all of you. Farewell. Maybe i'll post my trash art later.

[indigovivian]

Former radqueer and all alone

I am no longer in the pro-para/lolishio/proship/radqueer community (it all blurs together, really). Three years ago was when I made the decision to leave and to receive professional help. I completely disconnected from social media and took a very hard look at myself. I didn't realize how disgusting I truly was. I became a part of this community when I was a teenager. I was confused, scared, and ashamed of the attractions and addiction to this stuff. The reality is that if you made a ven-diagram with proshippers and pe*os, it would be a circle. "Reality is separate from fiction" becomes hard to believe when you see people calling real girls "lolis", using pizza emojis, and saying they have "no limits."

I wasn't just a "radqueer." I was a mentally ill person who wanted to be loved in a world of so much hate. I needed help, and I'm so glad I'm finally getting it. I'm upset when I think of the much more healthy life I could've had if I got it sooner. Equally, I am upset at the loneliness I feel now. I have left the "cult" but at the expense of losing all my friends.

I really wish I could find more people like me on here. I dream of having pro-recovery friends who just get it. I want to be understood. I want people to recover with. I want to be loved.

I am open and free to talk. I hope others will too.

[radinclus-not-radqueer]

Radqueers are a cult.

I am a cult survivor, I have been one far before I was in the radqueer community. As a cult survivor, the radqueer community IS a cult. If you've never been in the community, and have only been an outside observer, it's understandable that you wouldn't realize this, but claiming radqueers are "just assholes" is a slap in the face to people like me who have been permanently traumatized by them.

Here is a commonly used model of how cults work:

If you go through every single point in this, the radqueer community checks almost every one of them. People have already pointed this out many times before, however I will explain it again for people who haven't seen those posts.

(Skipping over ones that don't fully apply or that I haven't personally experienced. Most of these are pretty brief because I don't think anyone will read an entire essay for every point)

Rigid rules - radqueers force you to include everyone and everything, and never question what you're accepting lest you get labeled as "not a real radqueer" and harassed. You must accept any and all predatory relationships, or you'll receive the same treatment as "antis". If that isn't "rigid rules", I don't know what is.

Rewards and punishments - you coin a term people like, or make an "I love pro-cs" post? Everyone likes you, praises you, sends you asks telling you how amazing you are! You dare to question anything about the community? You get cast out, banned from servers, harassed, sent death threats, and doxxed.

Dependence and obedience - radqueers make their victims believe that this is the only community that will accept them. They say that every other community will hate them for their identity, and this is the only "real radinclus" community. This causes people to feel trapped there, or in other words become entirely dependent on the community for validation and support. They convince people that if they leave, or do anything wrong that causes them to be forced out, they'll have nowhere to go. This forces them into obedience for fear of being left all alone and being completely abandoned.

Deception - this one is very, very obvious. There's a reason why radqueers label themselves as "radically inclusive", "pro-consent", "pro-bodily autonomy" - they are not just saying these things because they don't understand what they mean. They're intentionally using uplifting, inclusive language that sounds really great and supportive to deceive people into joining them. This is also why they use emoji codes, so other radqueers will recognize them but people who don't know what radqueers are will be lured into their trap.

Propaganda - pretty similar to the above. They label everything as "radical inclusion" and tell people that they have to support all these things to be "truly inclusive". They make cute flags and emoji codes to make grooming, abuse, racism, ableism, and transphobia seem cool and fun, to further lead people into their trap. By definition, propaganda is "information, especially of a biased or misleading nature, used to promote or publicize a particular political cause or point of view". All these cutesy emojis, symbols, flags, and terms are propaganda.

Discourages access to outside sources of information - radqueers constantly say that all science, psychology, and medical information is "biased" and "bigoted". If you provide them with any information on how what they're doing is wrong, they pull out any number of excuses and then tell their "friends" how bigoted and exclusionist the source is. This makes it seem like radqueers are the only reliable source of information, and anything else is untrustworthy.

Insider/outsider doctrine - this is painfully clear with how they refer to everyone who disagrees with them as "antis". Even if you're just an outside observer, you pick up on this quickly.

All/nothing, good/evil, us/them dogma - once again, they refer to anyone who differs even slightly in opinion as an "anti" or "anti in training", and the second anyone decides to question why they're literally supporting nazis and blackface, they get labeled as an "anti" and "horrible person". They play the victim any time they get told that what they're doing is wrong, while crying and complaining about how much they're harassed and about how "mean" and "rude" anti-radqueers are.

Feeling chosen or special - radqueers very obviously convince themselves that they're so unique and special, which is why terms like transship or transhasapetcat exist. They want to seem really cool and special, and make completely normal things into obscure, "special" identities, like calling yourself translivesintheuk instead of just saying you wanna move to the UK. As someone who's been in their servers, they hoard identities like this because it makes them feel temporarily special and unique, which makes them convinced that what they're doing is right.

Guilt/manipulation - radqueers do this all the time. When someone says they aren't sure if they support something or not, radqueers immediately get all teary-eyed and upset, claiming that the person would be "basically an anti" if they decided not to support it. I've even seem someone cry and complain over being rejected by an anti-transnazi radqueer and claim that it was "ableist" that the person rejected them. Everyone defended and comforted the person who was rejected, immediately siding with them for fear of being "ableist", saying that it was wrong to be against literal nazis. This is very clear manipulation and guilt-tripping.

Phobia indoctrination - phobia indoctrination is where people in the cult make others terrified of leaving for fear of being hurt, killed, etc. As I've explained earlier, radqueers try to scare people into staying by saying that if they leave the community, no one will ever support or love them, and they'll never be accepted outside of it. People who went into the radqueer community after being anti-radqueer know firsthand how awful the harassment, doxxing, and death threats from radqueers are. People in the community who have doubts are very clearly too scared to leave, and people who don't have doubts have been convinced that no one will ever love them except for radqueers.

Anyways, I hope that this clears up how the radqueer community is a cult! Feel free to add on with your own experiences or additions, and please stop invalidating and shaming survivors.

[ex-radqueer-tim]

As an actual punk:

RADQUEERS. STOP. CALLING. YOURSELF. PUNK.

YOU'RE NOT PUNK. YOUR FUCKING WEIRD.

If you support identities like Transnazi or Transcancer or Transabled or whatever the fuck your not punk. Punk is about disability rights, religious rights, anarchy and not being a fucking asshole.

If your going to call yourself Transjapanese because you think its kawaii your not punk, your weird, and you need help.

[spongebobflags]

anti radqueer and recovering radqueer flags 💗

anti radqueer: someone who is against radqueers

recovering radqueer: those that are recovering from being in the radqueer community and are doing their best to heal from it

this is a collab thing between me and @report-rqs woo!! these are my/our take on these anti radqueer and recovering radqueer flags by @/acetrappolaswife (deactivated blog). i liked these flags in concept but the stripes were messy, both flags had stripes that were only a couple shades apart, and they didn't have any meanings attached. so we revamped them!

anti radqueer flag stripes:

1st black: (for POC) self care/love for yourself as a POC in a racist society

purples: queerness

pink: paraphiles and paraphila education

white: protection

magenta: anger

2nd black: (for white allys) shutting up and listening to, and respect for, POC

recovering radqueer stripes:

light pink: paraphiles/paraphila education

magenta: anger/frustration at how you were treated

deeper magenta: the strength it takes to leave

green: trauma and growth

off-white: (meaning has been changed) ALL identity terms like anti RQ transid and alternatives like dissomei, etc.

i have a dni on my blog but honestly even if you're on it you can still use these/rb, just reblog respectfully without insulting me pls

🧽 tagging: @harmlesspersonalidentityarchive @antiradqueerguy @recovering-radqueers ++ tell me if you want tagged in similar stuff

^ slightly different color scheme but here's meanings

[rustsrecovery]

Remember, Radqueers arent punk

Punks do NOT encourage

Cultural Appropriation

Ableism

Abuse Of Any Kind (Yes Even Your “Con Abuse”)

Racism

Procontact Pedophilia, Zoophilia, Necrophilia Ect