#friendship problems

[acornered]

spent way too much time on this for a vent piece

¯\_(ツ)_/¯ oh well

[justawasteoftime1122]

I hate social problems.

Why the fuck can't I tell my friends I love them?! Why can't I tell them I care?! WHY CAN'T I EVEN COMPLIMENT THEM?!

Because, apparently, anything I say that's nice to my friends is considered romantic.

FUCK ROMANCE! I WANT TO BE ABLE TO TELL MY FRIENDS HOW MUCH I LOVE THEM AND COMFORT THEM AND ALL THIS SHIT!

[reyreadersblog]

I don't know who needs to hear this but if you're the one who always puts effort in the friendship, you know, planning dates, checking up on them, calling them, starting the conversation first, and they never do these things but what they do is ignore you, come up with excuses, leave you on read, lie, then i'm sorry but they're not actually your friends and you should cut them off, because those little things that i mentioned, make the friendship, if they don't ever do that, then why bother being friends with them?

[attichoney4u]

I feel like the shittiest person right now.

Yesterday, I met with a friend of mine, unbestknown to my parents. My mom was well informed that I would meet up with a friend of mine, but I gave her a fake name. For the actual person I'd ho out with was someone whom my mother had met and she disapproved of. When I introduced said friend to my mother, my mom instantly disliked her. In the entirety of the car ride, she fussed on her appearance and how she looked like a "monster" and she disliked the fact that she visited a psychologist to help her in the lowest times etc. She even told me to cut connections with her and never see her again.

I, of course, didn't listen to her.

That occured two months ago.

As I was saying, yesterday I met up with that friend and I informed her on how much my mom disliked her and that she had told me to cut ties and I didn't listen to her and that I had lied to her (my mom) on what I would do at athens and...

Maybe I shouldn't have said that, 'cause my friend started crying and she went on how much her psychologist ad helped her and that she hadn't imagined my mom disliking her that much.

I didn't want to upset her. Not to that extent.

What should I do? Am I that horrible of a person? Please help me.

[jinxs-middle-finger]

Heather, but instead it's watching as your best friend loses interest in you, and the trio you're in with your other best friend and them slowly becomes a duo.

[dreamgirl-spilled]

How to confront and drop your toxic friend no borex no glue

[autisticlee]

imagine this is your life:

-> really need positive human interaction and genuine connection and bonds

-> tries to talk to people who are supposed to be closest friends who used to talk to/hang out with a lot

-> gets little to no response from them and doesn't get needs met

-> feels bad but can't wait for them to have time/energy so need to give up on them for now and try elsewhere

-> tries to make new friends by interacting with strangers and perform socializing to best of ability

-> struggles and doesn't form bond or feel connection with any new people at all

-> most new people don't put in any effort, it's one sided effort, and usually have bad interaction with at least one of them

-> uses up energy almost immediately and burns out and feel bad from trying so hard but failing

-> takes socializing break and doesn't talk to anyone for a while

-> feels lonely and isolated the whole time and wants someone to talk to or do an activity with to distract from bad feeling

-> reaches out to people already know but haven't talked to in a while to see how they are then ask to chat or hang out

-> no one responds or barely responds or rejects, so social needs don't get met

-> feels bad and even more alone and isolated

-> go back to top of this list and repeat over and over and over and over and over and try not to let it effect you

is this a normal experience everyone has and need to just "get over it" or whatever. or not normal and is valid that I feel like i'm going insane? 🥲

[positivelypositive]

🍄

a small reminder that...

...not every problem can be solved instantly.

...not every problem is real.

...not every problem is a roadblock.

some problems can be temporary. others can be based on our assumptions, while some can be a blessing in disguise.

take a deep breath. you've got this ✨