#ftm passing

[fieryfoxboy]

I really wish people would stop acting like the only categories transmasc people can pass in are either “indistinguishable from an average cis woman” or “indistinguishable from an average cis man”. Some of us are seen as a secret third thing (scary ambiguous t-slur gender freak who is Failing At Gender by “not looking enough like a man OR a woman”) and treated accordingly

[polikate]

ftm passing tips be like: loose all of your personality, be as basic as humanly possible and never have fun

[naga-noia]

looking conventionally attractive/conforming to beauty standards isn’t a prerequisite for passing btw. you do not need to feel bad about not looking like a super model however far along you are in your transition, because 99% of cis people don’t look like models either

[everyonewolf]

your life is worth living.

dear trans kids,

I know it's hard right now. It's scary. The world feels like it's closing around you and trying to push you out. We all feel it. And we've been in your shoes. I want you to know that your community is here for you. We will help you anyway we can. We need you here more than you could possibly know. You are our future. Whatever you need to do, just stay alive. Not just physically. Keep your truth alive however you can. Even if it can only exist in a diary under your mattress, that version of you is needed and valuable in the world.

We will get through this. Just stay present, stay here, and stay hopeful.

With love, your trans big brother/sibling

[billcipherfanatic]

guys help im a trans guy how do i look like a middle aged dad who drives trucks🥹🥹

[nl-coll]

thank you to the guy who very helpfully pointed out that me hugging my boyfriend was “so gay” without your astute observation i fear that i, a homosexual, would never have come to that conclusion

you have left my identity and faith in humanity in shambles but thank you for the gender euphoria

[my-wayward-son]

Trans truths #11: logos and outward masculinity

The logo of a sportswear or an outdoors lifestyle brand promotes your pass, regardless of the item.

Adidas pants ✅

Nike backpack ✅

Puma shoes ✅

Eddie Baur t-shirt ✅

Other branded clothing is great (I’m over 30 and love me some Hollister), and some particular companies have exceptional pieces to fit changing bodies. There’s one issue, though: the styles and cuts of clothes at the moment are either highly feminized or loose and neutral.

OBVIOUSLY neutral is awesome and a big step forward for our society. However, when people observe others with the relaxed shirt and baggy jeans, they are more likely to check you out for other cues defining your gender.

People (and particularly cis heterosexual people of a certain age, if you get my drift) are nosy little assholes who feel they have the right to categorize and subsequently judge you based on a 1/100th of a second glance.

You don’t deserve this. Our community doesn’t deserve this. I’m so sorry. I’m sorry people are stubborn and closed minded. I’m sorry the political climate is purposefully marginalizing us.

I probably seem like a binary-pushing dickwad for writing up this stuff. I know what it looks like, and I own that language.

What I’m trying to do, at its root, is to proliferate techniques of espionage. You know, Alan Turing and code breaking. The Underground Railroad. One if by land or two if by sea. War is fucking eternal, and you better get it before it gets you.

[hanniemoonday]

Does anyone have any FTM passing tips that isn’t just don’t have any personal style-

Like I don’t want to hear “oh don’t dye your hair” I mean like honest tips