if was a honest question really!, mmm i kinda disagree. I think that if you do not make a feast, it would not necessarily be an insult, I think you have to remember that they are in winter, and they do not have enough food to waste it at a feast, even for a queen, who most of the north does not want by the way , especially when you consider all the people who bring dany in her army who also have to be fed, and this season dany personally invited Jon, but she never prepared a feast for him even
(2) though he was a king too and she was also looking for a alliance.
Dear nonny, you had me thinking about this. You know, if the show were consistent with the world-building as GRRM is (at least in regard to the society) the preparing of feasts and the sharing of food would be way more important. You know in the books it is established that guest right is very important and anthropologically speaking the sharing of food is very, very important. Children learn from an early age on to part with some of their own food to share with others and human children are way more ready to do that than say little apes. This is very important because the sharing of food creates a bond. That’s why we have feasts at important occasions. Weddings, funerals, baptisms or any kind of ritual that welcomes a child. In the books there is this little tidbit of Bran on his way North who meets one of the clan peoples and they share food and fire. It is pretty obvious that the man from clan Little knows that it is Brandon Stark before him, but he doesn’t let on so Bran can keep his secret. It is guest right. The guest is guest and may hide his identity. When Bran awakes the next morning, the ‘Little’ left food, and Bran decides to repay him. Jon shares food with the wildlings and that is also important.
In the show we have Arya sharing fire and bread with the Lannister soldiers, and it has been pointed out, that her sharing their meal means that she can’t kill them - as she indeed does not.
I have digressed, but the point I was aiming at, was that if the idea of sharing of food and guest right is part of the show as it is part of the books, the fact that Da€nerys does not give a feast or at least a meal for Jon is extremely significant. It means that Jon was not a guest at Dragonstone (just as I have argued the whole season). His status as semi-guest, semi-prisoner is deliberately left ambiguous and up until episode 5 it is never addressed. Now if Da€nerys had invited Jon for tea - or bread and salt for that matter - his status would have been that of a guest. So, I must come to the conclusion that hist status of guest was never acknowledged as such. And I am not insinuating that Jon did get nothing to eat, he just was not invited officially and that might mean something.
Now, you might argue that the show is just not consistent enough about little details like that, but I could name a number of instances where Da€nerys at least drinks with her counsellors, but we never see her share a cup with Jon. If you think about the importance of bonding over shared food, this might be an important detail, even if you think that the show doesn’t need to be that consistent with the guest right as the books are. Jon and D never eat together. That means that they do not bond!
And just as an aside: Who does share a cup of ale and soup just after reuniting (and a fire on top of that?)
Now, you see, your question really had me thinking. Now as to your question about a feast in Winterfell next season. I would argue that it is entirely possible that it would be a ‘meagre’ feast with winter upon them, but it would be a matter of courtesy and of Northern style to at least share ‘bread and salt’ with Da€nerys. So, there might not be an opulent feast, but there should be some kind of official food-sharing to show the welcome and the good will. If this does not happen that might be a hint that there is no bonding, no alliance, no common ground for them to act upon. Not necessarily because the writers make a conscious decision about that. As I have said, this food sharing is something we have learned from early on it is something that defines as a social being. And now, just imagine someone you don’t like in your own house and try to picture inviting him/her to have food….
So, if the show will go towards a break of the alliance as I believe they will, they might even subconsciously leave out a feast or ‘bread and salt’. I’ll certainly stay alert and look out if there is a hint of ‘food sharing’.
So, nonny thanks for the ask. I got sidetracked a bit, as usual. But I love my nonnies who always make me ponder.