#i... have no idea... how that happened...

[maci-lena]

1-a-Day Silksong: Day 185

The Bell Hermit is (reluctantly) here now.

Closeup Below

[littlebluebarista]

Ok breaking containment for this one because I need everyone who will listen to hear this.

Women who suffer bad cramps are told cramps shouldn't affect school/work/etc, but no one ever investigates further because no one can possibly know if what someone experiences is just typical pain or something much worse.

Well after 15 years of stage 4 treatment-resistant endometriosis that came with pain as bad as, if not worse than, actual labor contractions every month, all the while being told I was 'typical' and 'just had bad cramps', I've finally been healed (another post for another time). I have had what everyone describes as the elusive 'normal period pain' for several months now, and I am begging you to look me in the eyes and listen because I need everyone who can hear this to hear this.

I have been on both sides of this. I have the hard-earned knowledge of what a period 'should' feel like.

If you have to put in any effort to hide your cramps, you need to get help.

Even during of the PEAK OF CRAMPING (i.e., as bad as your cramps possibly get), you should still be able to stand, speak, walk, eat, work, and sleep with no problems. These tasks should require very-little-to-no extra effort beyond what you would normally do when you aren't on your period. When you do these things, you should feel grumpy and a little bit icky and maybe a twinge of nerves and NOTHING MORE.

If you have to sit in the corner and hope no one approaches you because you can't speak or stand without showing pain, even slightly, you need to get help. If your pain is showing on your face, you need to get help. And most importantly, IF YOUR PAIN DOES NOT RESPOND TO 1-2 TYLENOL OR IBUPROFEN, YOU NEED TO GET HELP.

Your period cramps should make you grumpy. Your period cramps should make you feel a little icky and tired. Your period cramps should make you feel your insides existing/moving a bit and a twinge of nerves that makes you groan slightly then the "pain" should stop there, NOTHING MORE.

If your cramps put you on the floor but you make believe you're the captain of a ship who has just been stabbed and has to hide it to fight on, and you force yourself to power through the day, please understand: you are not okay, that does not make you okay. Just because you can power through the pain doesn't mean you aren't sick. If you have to force yourself through any basic task beyond the effort it takes you to do when you aren't on your period, and I am holding your face and looking you in the eye as I say this because I need you to hear me: You aren't normal. You don't 'just have bad cramps'. You are sick and you need to get help.

Now most people will tell you if your cramps are beyond a 3 out of 10 on the pain scale, you should see a doctor. While this is usually true, you have to consider chronic pain CAN AND WILL BREAK YOUR PAIN SCALE. Most people will only compare pain they currently feel to pain they may experience one day but probably never will. "Sure these cramps feel bad now, but if I had a leg amputated with no anesthesia, that would hurt WAY worse, so this pain can't be that bad-" No. Your pain is what it is, objectively, full stop. My cramps were at a 10 out of 10 every. Single. Time. And nobody told me claiming they were a 6-8 because I thought to myself 'what if I lose a limb one day?' was completely wrong. 10 pain is 10 pain. And if there's something that hurts worse than that, guess what. The thing you are experiencing right now is still a 10 out of 10 on the pain scale. Just because you experience it every month doesn't mean it's magically not as bad is it is. And if your pain is worse than a 3 out of 10, you need to get help.

Now when I say get help, I mean find the root cause of your pain. You can't just throw drugs and hormones at it without knowing what it causing your pain. Endometriosis, fibroids, pcos, cancer, adenomyosis, polyps, thyroid issues, there is always a cause. And if you leave it untreated, it will grow and get worse to the point where it resists treatment and the drugs and hormones you've been throwing at it for years don't work anymore. You have to find a doctor that will investigate. If your doctor tells you you 'just have bad cramps' get a new doctor. I know you've been told that but please hear me: no one ever just has bad cramps. A healthy human body doesn't spontaneously cause itself pain so bad you can't stand up; there is ALWAYS a cause.

I was sick for more than 15 years. My entire life was put on hold and now I'm in my late 20s trying desperately to play catch up for everything I missed. I want to pick up 12yo me, spin her around, and tell her she doesn't have to die before she finally stops hurting. I don't want anyone to suffer the same fate I did simply because everyone told them they were normal. A little twinge of pain here and there is normal, suffering is not. I promise you your pain is real, it is not normal, and dear heavenly day I am begging you you need to get help now.

TL;DR: There is no such thing as 'just bad cramps.' If you feel anything more than grumpy, icky, and pain greater than a 3 out of 10, you need to find out what's wrong with you before it gets worse.

[doctorsiren]

I needed them to un-divorce or I would cry

[thesuncantreachyouhere]

i wish ppl would stop downplaying the severity of the harm that shit like gamergate did. no that guy who disagrees with you on inter-community issues is not a fucking gamergate bro or an mra. and no he cant be a terf too, those ideologies are directly incompatible. these words have meanings, and it is vital that they are not watered down. gamergate was not bad simply because it was men vs women, it was bad because the reaction of the men in gamergate was extremely disproportionate to what was "happening" to them. anita sarkeesian did the most surface level feminist analysis of their favorite kill minority simulators and they tweaked tf out, believing it to be a personal attack on their "liberties" to be misogynistic assholes. the abuse anita sarkeesian faced is not the same as being criticized for your behavior in community spaces. you are not being silenced if somebody told you to stop calling for the death of minorities, shut the fuck up

[kaiserouo]

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bumping you until you cast transference

[lyxchen]

It wasn't a dream... that was actually very much real... oops

Finally got around to finishing this, also cause I wanted to post something sweet for byler today. This art is inspired by this post @miwiheroes made a while ago ^^

Please zoom in for details. If you like my art then I would love a reblog, thank you <333

Also please look at the textures and patterns of the clothes here, I'm very proud of those, also i added some buzz to the backgroud that increases every panel until Max says something and then the buzz goes away. It's a really small detail that probably isn't even visible but I wanted the kissing to feel a little fuzzy and dream like and then that stops once they realize that this isn't actually a dream ^^ That's what I used the buzzing effect for but again I might have made it not visible enough

I think drawings 8 and 9 are my favorites because of the pose and also because of Tounge Kiss yessss!!!!! I also really love drawings 3 and 4 (and btw I love them all, but those are probably my favorites, like I'm proudest of those ones) <33

[luxhesperus]

what do we think about ryland being the one who kills their father but court takes the fall for it

ryland comes home to their father waterboarding colt and he doesn't know how long this has been going on but colt is drenched and choking and if he doesn't get colt out of their father's hands now, he's not sure if—

he's moving before he's aware of it. but he's not moving to where their father is about to murder his brother. no, he's going upstairs and into their father's room—a bedside drawer that really only has one thing in it

their father yells something at colt (still somehow oblivious to ryland's presence) and pulls colt's head back under the running water and ryland's right arm is so heavy but he tries to keep it steady—

vaguely, he's aware that the front door opened and their father finally turning around—

ryland recoils from the force of it, his ears are ringing

the hand around colt loosens and then two bodies hit the floor

then there's a hand on his and he instinctively grips the gun tighter—a face appears in front of him, similar to his own but a little older

court. it's court who's trying to take the gun from him and so ryland lets him. court's mouth is moving but ryland can't make anything of it, he's just aware that court is wiping down the gun with his shirt before he fits it into his own hand

he pushes ryland towards colt who's still gasping and wheezing but alive

the first thing ryland hears when he's regained his hearing are sirens

[penandinkprincess]

it's both sad and funny, but i am very amused imagining the first time ilya goes along on a family lunch/dinner with the hollanders because i feel like even with shane making what he does, i feel like yuna and david probably still stick to the routine of paying for the meal unless shane like. specifically was the one who invited them out and thus already mentally made the note that he would be the one taking the bill when it comes to the table.

and not because shane would have a problem paying! he totally would! but i feel like just as a matter of routine, yuna and david as his parents are just totally fine with and used to taking the check at the end.

and i feel like ilya who has spent literal years being the moneymaker in his family would be fucking SHOOK. like logically, he and shane are the ones who make the big bucks here (esp shane), so i feel like he would just assume that they would grab it.

and instead?? before he can even reach for it when the waiter brings it??? yuna grabs it and puts her card in and hands it back???

what the FUCK is happening here???? wrong??? that is wrong?? you stop that???