#invalidation tw

[auschizm]

This is plain not true! It might be partly true for a couple low support fully verbal high functioning autistic people, but autism is a genuine developmental disability, and if an autistic person struggles socially it's NOT just because they "aren't trying" and "didn't care to learn." And it's very ableist to imply that

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Opinion: when non- psychiatric doctors who hear about any mental invisible disability/disorder they start lecturing the patient about how they should learn to live life happily rather than focus on past but they won't even give the patient a listening ear! The patient is to understand their unsolicited opinion and reflect when there's so much going on at the same time.

I really don't think psychiatrists are excluded from this phenomenon nor that it's limited to invisible psychiatric disabilities... Ableism is far broader and more insidious than that!

[subsystems]

Part of our community's shared, historical trauma is the repeated denial and invalidation of our disorder's traumatic origin. I'm talking about how, since the beginning of modern psychiatry/psychology, there have been multiple controversies claiming DID/OSDD are inherently faked, imagined, conditioned by therapists or media, or somehow not valid trauma-based disorders.

Even though these non-trauma models have no support from research & have been thoroughly debunked by experts, they were spread throughout society and the clinical field. Inadequate training & treatment models were the result. Hateful organizations like FMSF also caused further damage to the treatment & study of dissociation and trauma, too. Throughout history, there have always been some people more inclined to believe that folks with trauma-based dissociation are fakers rather than survivors.

"By blaming the victim, society can turn a blind eye. It doesn’t need to acknowledge the scale of abuse, the extent of trauma, the vast arena of suffering for such a vast number of people." - Carolyn Spring

According to Emma Sunshaw in their presentation to the ISSTD Virtual Conference, 2021, this shared, historical trauma that people with DID/OSDD face from both society and the mental health system mirrors the original traumas that caused our dissociation in the first place.

I'm sure most if not all of us have had someone in our life invalidate the traumas we went through. Maybe you were threatened into keeping it a secret, or maybe someone told you "you're just making it up" or "stop complaining," or insisted that what you went through couldn't have hurt you as much as it did. Maybe your pain just wasn't fully acknowledged, or you didn't receive the kind of support you needed in the aftermath of trauma.

Know that you are not making it up. You are not imagining it. I believe you, no matter what. And if you feel harmed whenever people invalidate DID/OSDD as trauma-based disorders, that pain is also real.

It sucks that so many people find it easy to deny the traumatic origins of DID/OSDD, but please remember that what they're saying is NOT supported. Nowadays, I think there are more people who understand that DID/OSDD are caused by trauma than people who deny or invalidate this. The stigma & controversy surrounding these disorders is lessening, and the support for them as a legitimate trauma-based syndromes is increasing.

The pain you feel is real but remember that the world is changing. Things are getting better.

- Sunflower

[dysphoric-culture-is]

Nonbinary dysphoric culture is not feeling connection with ways binary trans dysphoria is often shown, and falling into "am I faking my gender?" abyss (again)

Dysphoric culture is!

Also, yeah mod dealt with this while being diagnosed with dysphoria (the second time). The questions were all about if mod wanted the 'opposite' body parts or used the 'opposite' pronouns as mod's AGAB, even though mod was out as abinary to that person.

This kind of framing of dysphoria excludes a ton of people like nonbinary, intersex trans, and even binary trans people with atypical dysphoria or who are gender non-conforming.

You're totally valid if your dysphoria is more non-binary anon!

[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is realizing that you can't come out. People will judge you. They'll say you're too young to know and that you had crushes before (Which were mostly a desperate attempt to find someone to love like everyone else). And you fucking hate it.

(hey, for the record? this tends to get better. I can't promise it will because everyone's situations are unique, but even though a lot of adults are weird about it, they often do recognize that childhood crushes don't necessarily mean anything)

[syscurse]

I hate how ableist syscourse gets. Recently I’m seeing people spout hateful ”DID isnt traumagenic” shit over and over. Its nothing new. Freud, False Memory Syndrome Foundation, Grey Faction, and like half of the psychiatric system have already been there done that. Seeing that coming from within the plural community is gross.

[endosdni]

posts like this are embarrassing lol... anyway nothing about being fictive heavy is suspicious or fake-y. introject heavy systems im giving you a little pat on the head

[neopronounsmybelovaed]

I’m sad because I as long as I use binary pronouns that fit my agab people will use those not neos

It really sucks when people do that, I'm sorry.