So will you ever not be a product of whatever people did to you? When I look at your posts, trauna recovery sound really bleak, like you don't seem to move on ever and it informs every single decision and opinion you form. It's like your abusers have made a permanent imprint on you, you may never create anythibg that doesn't connect to them in some way. If I'm like you why should I even live at this point?
My blog is one very small part of my life. Saying my trauma informs every decision I make is wrong, and honestly rude. You don't know a blogger just because you see their posts. There is a lot of stuff I don't share on here, and would never share on here. There's a lot of aspects about me and my life that aren't shared here.
I have healed. But I use my experience to try and help others.
I understand you are going through your own stuff and that you are likely looking for a comforting answer, but this ask is honestly rude. It's not up to you, or anyone else, to decide how my trauma affects me, my decisions and my opinions.
But to answer your last question... The way I see it is that trauma did permanently change my brain. But healing does too.
