One brother turns 50. The other turns 47. And you’re the oldest, so you’re ahead in years. Winning a race you’re not sure you want to win. Parents aging. Shrinking. Bodies and worlds—for everyone—growing big and strong and wide and wonder-filled—then slowly closing in.
Eventually, you’re 52 with two terrific kids, a graceful wife, a few pets, a happy, consistent, comfortable life, and you wake and stumble just getting out of bed. A shove. A reminder. Stay strong and balanced. Commit. Create. Endure.
I sat on the back porch while the dogs stretched, emptied, sniffed up a brand new day. Scrolled Amazon for a water filter while the birds kept calling. It wasn’t until I made the purchase that I snapped out of it. Realized—I got up and was given another last day. Warm and humid, an indicator of what’s to come—more heat. But I’ll take the heat today. Get to the lake later. I’d rather be walking barefoot in the grass sweating than high-stepping through snow. Winter is no longer my friend. If the choice were mine alone, I’d leave it behind. Come back to it on Christmas to pay my respects. Say hi.
The Great Lakes Review wrote about DEVOTION. Sara Hailstone, the editor, enjoyed the book. I read it quickly. Didn’t want to feel too good. Get sidetracked. The piece is good for promotional reasons, but mostly I was happy because she read it and felt it. And she reads a lot. Writes a lot. Having someone in the business give the book a quiet nod—it lifts you.
We don’t always realize what we’ve got. That none of this will be back. That we won’t return—not in this form. And that’s the thinking one needs to keep—just below the surface. In every situation. Those tense moments on family car trips when no one’s well-rested and everyone’s chasing ideas of a good time. The days when people bullshit you over and over again because they’re sick in the spirit and head. And the nights that finally let you go—heavy, filled with restless dreams—into another hopeful day when all you’ve got to do is put one foot in front of the other.
~ KJ