#black aspec

[calicoolkat]

Hi!

It's been hard to find events for Black ace/aro people, and so I decided to make a Meetup group.

Black Aros & Aces is a community for Black people to connect with others on the aromantic and/or asexual spectrum. If you're questioning, you're welcome too!

All events are online in the Discord server; Meetup is only used to verify members. The Discord link will be provided after you join the Meetup group.

Current Events:

Monthly Chat for Black Asexuals - 2nd Tuesday

Monthly Chat for Black Aromantics - 4th Tuesday

And more in the works! I'm also taking suggestions for events - the group is what we make it 💚💜

Join Here!

[leikeliscomet]

I genuinely think the reason people leave out Black asexuals and aromantics is because we contradict too much. To fully acknowledge Black asexuality and aromanticism means questioning the idea sexual & romantic absence = whiteness. Why do you think asexual and aromantic = sexless and why sexless = white. It means unpacking what is so non-asexual about Blackness. What is so non-aromantic about Blackness. It means unpacking why Black lovelessness is uniquely heartless. It means unpacking why you're comfortable with the exclusion of Black love, but are scared by Black lovelessness. It means unpacking why you think Black asexuality can't exist outside of Black desexualisation. It means unpacking why you think Black aromanticism can't exist outside sexualisation. And vice versa. It means unpacking why don't think Black people have the actual autonomy to be ace and/or aro. It means unpacking why people more marginalised than you can make space for asexuality and aromanticism when you can't, despite it being an 'oppressor' identity. It means unpacking why the only mainstream representations of Black asexuality and aromanticism that could exist are the Mammy and the Jezebel and Mandingo. It means unpacking that sexless and loveless Black people don't benefit from these tropes. It means unpacking why sexlessness and lovelessness is seen as purity and why Black ace and/or aro people don't to be 'pure'. It means not only asking why asexuality and aromanticism is associated with being white, but actively asking why asexuality and aromanticism 'can't' be associated with being Black. It means unpacking why you can't name any Black ace and/or aro characters or public figures. It means addressing what happens when asexuality and aromanticism stop existing in vacuums and start overlapping with the identities you actually 'get'. These are the scary questions you get to ignore when you can just claim being ace and/or aro is 'white and cishet' identity instead.

[black-ace-culture-is]

Aspec tumblr: Wow hip hop is so gross and disgusting! I can't believe (Black) allos talk about sex in music ughhh. I can't believe match my freak, this AAVE term is about sex, EWWWW. Why is there sex in sexual music??? I hate (Black) allos they're so disgusting unlike me, a horny kinky aspec who loves smut and kink unlike those other prudes. I'm so radical. Aces/aros can have sex btw! Wow society is so obsessed with sex and romance. It's expected of EVERYONE. The (Black) allorose I'm attacking are accepted in allo society btw.

Me: Antiblackness is a problem the aspec community and I don't feel comfortable around non Black aspecs who spout white supremacist talking points about Black people's sexualities.

Aspec tumblr: Well I haven't seen anything like that so you can't say that. Gay people are racist too why are you blaming us? I can't believe you're violently attacking aspecs for addressing our behaviour on tumblr dot com. You're literally yelling at me. This is bullying. If you don't educate ME then EYE can't support POC people. This is aphobic. You're aphobe. You hate aspecs!!1

Me: *lists loads of articles and theory made by Black asexuals and aromantics about white supremacy and how it enacts puritanism and compulsory sexuality, the sexual dehumanisation of Black people during slavery and screenshot evidence of popular white aspecs engaging in antiblackness and other forms of bigotry*

Aspec tumblr: ...

Non-aspec queer tumblr: ...

Me: Racism is bad. *posts Yasmin Benoit picture*

Aspec tumblr: *blows up the post and gets 1,000s of notes* I can't believe this is happening!1 We need to do more to support BIPOC of the community. Stop the infighting pwease yew guise. Conseratives hate all of us the exact same with no variation. Everyone is valid. All aspecs are valid. We're all valid. #valid.

Popular white aspec user who is literally one of the main enablers of the problem: Wow, this is a great post! You guys, not me, could learn a lot from this! *reblogs to their antiblack followers who then post antiblack notes in my notifs*

Non-aspec queer tumblr: ...There's racism in the ace community????

>Nothing changes

>Repeat

[piercingcomet]

black loveless flags!!

[ID: black loveless flag! it has 11 stripes and warm colors. from top to bottom, the colors are: dark brown, brown, dark purple, grey, yellow, reddish-pink, purple, blue(ish), green, grey, and dark purple. /end ID]

[ID: black loveless spectrum/alove-spec flag. it has 7 stripes, colored: dark brown, brown, dark purple, medium purple, purple, light purple, and off-white. /end ID]

[suspensefulpen]

Low key wondering if I should write a non romo collection for valentines day in spite of the allos who say “tHeReS oNlY rOmAnTiC aNd PlAtOnIc!!1!”

[rusababy]

Happy Juneteenth 🥳

A fellow black aroace ✨

happy juneteenth!!!!

[androgyn-hexboy]

being aegosexual is so weird, because what do you mean I like sex only in concepts and theory.

[asexual-goddessss]

Celebrating Black Ace Community... with the creators of Soul Ace Day

Marshall Blount, Alyshia Rodgers and Kimberly Butler created Soul Ace Day to uplift Black ace voices and experiences.

Ace Dad Advice has interviewed Marshall, Lici, and myself for this upcoming Soul Ace Day 2026!

Check out what we said about Black representation in both real life, cartoons and comics for Black American Asexuals! Get a history lesson on the hypersexualization of Black Americans through chattel slavery, a look into Licis recommendations about new and flourishin Black Ace books and characters, and what Marshall thinks has changed since he started his work in Ace activism!

Get your SoulAce Day artwork ready, celebrate your fav Black Ace Characters, Comics, and celebrate your friends and YOURSELF! 🎉

Hope to see you all on SoulAce Day this FEBRUARY 16, 2026!

See you there!

(And if you have any suggestions of things you want to see or do let us know!)

-Kim🖤