#atertiaryspec

[lovelessrage]

Since it is Disability Pride Month, let's talk about disabled aspecs. Aspecs who would prefer a solitary lifestyle but require caretakers. Aspecs who cannot live alone on what their benefits provide. Aspecs who, due to the ableism of society, are constantly prevented from living a single life. Aspecs who struggle with sexuality, sexual positions or libido due to disability. Aspecs who are tired with their labels being attributed to their disabilities. Aspecs who DO identify as aspec because they're disabled. Aspecs with screen readers locked out of community resources, aspecs who can't get into buildings for meetups because of inaccessible architecture. Aspecs who can't meet other aspecs in real life because of their conditions. Any aspec that can't fit the able-bodied mold and feels unseen and unsupported.

I wish you a safe and peaceful Disability Pride Month, whether you can find pride in your condition or not. Your aspec perspective and identity is valued, needed, and respected here, and I hope soon it will be respected everywhere.

[aspec-mafia-official]

Hey tumblr people! Are you allo or aspec?

aspec

allo button

Voting ended onJun 15, 2024

For poll purposes if you’re anywhere on the a-spectrum of asexual, afamial, asensual, aromantic, aplatonic, etc, etc you vote aspec.

If you don’t identify with any of the aspec labels, then you vote allo.

Edit; I’m aware that the poll is going to be skewed. I’m not actually trying to get stats for the amount of aspec people on tumblr, I’m mostly just curious about how making this poll on a blog with a majorly aspec audience would affect the results of an allo vs. aspec poll.

-dread

[jamiieeez]

Relationshipstances for emotional, physical and tertiary relationships

emotional relationship

positive | indifferent | repulsed

averse | ambivalent | oscillating

physical relationship

positive | indifferent | repulsed

averse | ambivalent | oscillating

tertiary relationship

positive | indifferent | repulsed

averse | ambivalent | oscillating

Here are my posts to the aemotional flags[link], aphysical flags[link] and atertiary flags[link].

[redacted-coiner]

Matchflexible

[PT: Matchflexible]

Matchflexible, a -flexible(link) term that refers to those who are mostly Amatch and occasionally experience Matchwork Attraction(link); however, the attraction they experience is so little and/or rare that they consider themselves Amatch with Matchwork fluidity.

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[Tag] @radiomogai, @liom-archive , @liomarchive , @imoga-pride , @the-mogai-archives, @tertiary-attraction-archive, @tertiary-culture-archive , @orientation-archive

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[lovelessrage]

Happy Pride! As always, here's your reminder: don't abandon your own. Don't abandon your own for catchy slogans, don't sacrifice others for a punchier post, don't demean others to elevate your own activism.

We're all here, and while our experiences aren't always the same, while not all of us have the same kind of difficulties or deal with the same problems, we're still all here. Anybody will tell you that you can't just declare yourself an ally - it's something you earn by having other people feel safe enough to call you one. So, even if you are aspec yourself in other ways, before you make dozens of post declaring yourself an ally to all aspec identities, ask yourself a few questions:

Am I familiar with their issues?

How can I educate myself if I'm not?

How can I reduce these issues and avoid contributing?

How can I support others through things I can't solve?

I'm a loveless aroallo, that's pretty obvious from my page, and I'm always grateful for support I see. But, asking these four questions are always going to be supremely more important than a post about how we are valid or claiming that you're an ally or just including loveless people in a dropdown list of identities. Plenty of people don't understand or know there's even loveless people OUTSIDE of aromantics! There are! Lovelessness is not one size fits all, and if you didn't know that before, I'm glad you do now. It's not exclusive to any one person, or any one experience, as with any other identity like it.

If you want to be an activist, if you want to be supportive, you must strive for it. You won't always click right away, and it might be hard to unlearn and let go of some things you thought in your heart of hearts was true. However, it is necessary. It is necessary if you want to foster community built on understanding, and not assumptions.

Pride is a celebration, and Pride is also a recognition of how far we've come. Let's keep moving forward.

[lovelessrage]

Sure, ASAW is over, but Black History Month isn't! Continue celebrating Black aspecs, recognise their contributions, and make your community spaces welcoming. Just because the universal week for all aros is over doesn't mean the work is done and there's nothing to celebrate! Black history, Black ace history, Black aro history, Black atertiary history, Black loveless history, and everything inbetween is valuable beyond designated high-visibility and awareness weeks. Queer culture as we know it wouldn't exist without Black culture, and there is no modern iteration of queerness that can be separated from Blackness. Keep the support going; February isn't over!

[aspec-mafia-official]

First aspec pride poll of the month!

(for poll purposes pick the label you identify with most)

Are you. . .

arospec (aromantic spectrum)

acespec (asexual spectrum)

aroacespec (aroace spectrum)

aplspec (aplatonic spectrum)

afamspec (afamilial spectrum)

asenspec (asenual spectrum)

aemospec (aemotional spectrum)

aqprspec (aqueerplatonic spectrum)

atertispec (atertiary spectrum)

a-aestspec(a-aesthetic spectrum)

loveless aro

heartless aro

Voting ended onJun 10, 2024

Sorry if the aspec abbreviations on some are weird. I had to make some up.

Happy pride month to my fellow aspecs! Remember that your attraction/lack of attraction is just as valid as anyone else!

-dread

As always reblog to spread <3

[lovelessrage]

The amount of apologies some aromantics owe alloromantic aplatonic asexuals/alloromo aplatonics in general for posts and comments they make is uncountable.